swooozy Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Hey guys, I'm 14 and in 8th grade. I've never had a girlfriend before, but I'm really looking for that one girl that will be their for me when I'm down and I can be the same for her. I recently moved to where I'm at last year almost exactly a year ago, I was pretty much a nobody when I got here, and I would barely talk to anyone. But I've been socializing a lot, and I have way more friends now. Theirs this one girl that I've had my eyes set on before I got to where I'm at, I don't know if she likes me and I'm a bit scared to approach her sense I haven't asked anyone before. I'm one of the tallest guys in my grade, and I play hockey, lacrosse and football. I also have a BMI of just below the middle of at risk of being over weight, so if that has been a factor I have been running a mile and a half every monday, going to the gym on saturdays and doing strength training at my house every other day except Sunday. I honestly think that I'm the kind of guy that isn't the jerk, and I can treat her really nice. Any advice, thanks!
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Your only course of action is to get to know her. Build up your confidence that way and then ask her out.
EasyHeart Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 And keep in mind that you're at the very beginning of your dating life. Any girls you date at this point in your life are practice dates to get experience for when things really matter -- 100 girls from now! So don't worry about whether she likes you or worry about rejection, because it's no big deal. Just relax and talk to her whenever you get a chance. If she doesn't like you, there are plenty more girls to pick from.
sanskrit Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 At 14, ignore BMI entirely, it doesn't apply at all to people going through puberty and post-puberty growth. As long as you are eating right and exercising as you are, that's fine. If you've got some baby fat, it will soon be gone. Try not to get your eye on one girl at this point, get your eye on FIVE and don't put all your eggs in one basket. Good luck.
dispatch3d Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 "just trying to meet that one girl" I don't know man. This was probably my attitude years ago but it definitely isn't now. Don't get me wrong, girls are awesome, it's just for me going into this with the attitude of meeting "the one" creates all the wrong things. I think hollywood leads everyone astray a bit. Boys will be boys girls will be girls, and ultimately I think it's best to just go into things looking to get to know the other person and see if you make any kind of meaningful connection. Believing "the one" exists and that's her is so blah to me. There is no neo! Sounds like you are a pretty cool kid in your school. That will go well for you. Just get to know the girls, if they seem talkative ask for their number and go from there. Numbers are generally really easy. I can tell you in high school I was not that cool, despite playing on the soccer team, but still the only girl who I ever asked directly for her number she still gave it to me. Amazingly, haha. The secret is that they normally will not say no. Don't get wrapped up too much in this stuff and try not to care too much. Both helps. Get out there and ask girls out, date girls, etc. It's the only way to get good at this.
sagetalk Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 14 year old girls are nothing compared to 21 year old girls. Just go out with them and have fun, but don't get too attached. You are very young, and don't even think about sex for awhile. You have your whole life ahead of you, keep it lite and friendly, learn all you can without messing your life up too much.
nice-easy-day Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Wow- 8th grade..... I remember those days!!! Chasing girls around then was a lot of fun for me so I suggest you go for it. Back in my day it was all about getting her phone number and talking on the phone. Also, what about passing notes? Not sure if that is still the thing to do at the 8th grade level but in 5th - 8th grade I did a lot of note passing.
Leandro Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Wow- 8th grade..... I remember those days!!! Chasing girls around then was a lot of fun for me so I suggest you go for it. Back in my day it was all about getting her phone number and talking on the phone. Also, what about passing notes? Not sure if that is still the thing to do at the 8th grade level but in 5th - 8th grade I did a lot of note passing. No note passing today. It's texting now. lol. Middle school was fun back in the day, but now it's different. Girls are getting pregnant before they even go to high school. Like 8-10 every year, and they are so small and short.
Sabali Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Ahhhh, isn't this so cute... Puppy love... Hey, kid, I am going to go against the grain here which I usually don't do. I am doing this because I heavily identify with your situation. Now is the ripe age to start with some good ol' flirtatious behavior. Get it primed and ready now for highschool and ultimately college where you are going to feel like one of those Willy Wonka kids at the chocolate factory. This story brings to mind one of the biggest crushes I ever had. C.A in the 8th grade. I was bullying her and the little petite angel stood up to me and I fell in love with her immediately just like in a TV after school special. I am going to expand what good ol' Timmy the Enchanter started with but add that you start getting to know her and make sure you smile a lot and flirt. Just some all-in-good-fun-type flirting and keep it very light-hearted. It tend to be all cheesy type stuff at this age as I recall so you don't have to worry about being smooth or anything. I like your attitude towards your health, activity, and wanting to get this girl. Realize that 10 years from now, you may have gone through quite a few girlfriends so don't sweat to hard on this one.
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