What are some affair horror Stories you know of? Financial, emotional, suicide?

[health]

What are some affair horror Stories you know of? Financial, emotional, suicide?

 

I know someone who cheated on their SO after being with them for 7 years - that person has never had a long term relationship since. Great career, and money but this person is empty. This is 20 years after she cheated.

 

An old friends Mom cheated on her Dad. She left a 17 year old partnership for something that only lasted 5 years. She ended up going on drugs and became extremely suicidal. She too is alone now and miserable.

 

This is the worst one. I know this one guy who cheated on his wife with her sister. His wife found out. The husband felt so guilty he ended up killing himself, leaving a young son behind. He couldn't take it.

 

I think the sisters are still fine together - I don't know how, but that's a horrible situation.

[jthorne]

I imagine most betrayed spouses would consider the infidelity of a wayward spouse a horror story.

[goingstrong]

What are some affair horror Stories you know of? Financial, emotional, suicide?

 

 

 

 

Golly, I thought that I was the only rubber necking gawker on this forum watching the slow motion train wrecks. The sob stories here are not enough for ya huh? You sound like a Maury show writer that needs more material....and I kinda like it....

[health]

I imagine most betrayed spouses would consider the infidelity of a wayward spouse a horror story.

 

Totally Agree.

[health]

Golly, I thought that I was the only rubber necking gawker on this forum watching the slow motion train wrecks. The sob stories here are not enough for ya huh? You sound like a Maury show writer that needs more material....and I kinda like it....

 

lol.

 

No I just want to know of extreme examples. Honestly I can't think of one affair story that has a happy ending. It's all so messy. The intimacy is messed, relationships, legacies. All for a short term fling. What a waste of a life.

 

I'd rather focus on developing skills, talents and contributing to society.

[Spark1111]

Police say the number one cause of all homicides is jealousy....Jealous of money, power and of course, partners.

 

That's why if a spouse discovers a spouse in the act of infidelty, and kills one or both people, the maximum charge is involuntary manslaughter....because even the law realizes how out of your head you will be to discover that act in progress.

 

Imagine that?

 

I am amazed how many engage in affairs without thinking of the consequences of a spouse finding out about the affair, and the ramifications of that information towards a violent vengeful act.

 

Delusional truly.

[JAGeezer]

Police say the number one cause of all homicides is jealousy....Jealous of money, power and of course, partners.

 

That's why if a spouse discovers a spouse in the act of infidelty, and kills one or both people, the maximum charge is involuntary manslaughter....because even the law realizes how out of your head you will be to discover that act in progress.

 

Imagine that?

 

I am amazed how many engage in affairs without thinking of the consequences of a spouse finding out about the affair, and the ramifications of that information towards a violent vengeful act.

 

Delusional truly.

 

And it isn't always the BS that you have to be concerned about. The WS's and AP's have there own pool of sociopathic violence to draw upon.

 

JAG

[pureinheart]

My daughters husbands family (which I am extremely close to, they are actually my family, as I love these people with all of my heart).

 

This story is difficult to tell...my SIL's aunt (which is the sweetest person a person could ever meet) found out she had breast cancer, then shortly after that discovered her husband of 25+ years had been having an affair for over 20 years. I didn't know what to say as there had been so many deaths in the family during that time...actually more devastation.

 

The other night her son and the cousins came over to visit and I was talking to her son asking how he was holding up under everything...with a stiff upper lip, trying to hold back the pain told me his dad rented a motel room and committed suicide. Prior to that all I heard was that he had passed...so it was a shock to say the least.

 

I hope this makes sense, as I am still devastated. They were a beautiful couple.

[desertIslandCactus]

My daughters husbands family (which I am extremely close to, they are actually my family, as I love these people with all of my heart).

 

This story is difficult to tell...my SIL's aunt (which is the sweetest person a person could ever meet) found out she had breast cancer, then shortly after that discovered her husband of 25+ years had been having an affair for over 20 years. I didn't know what to say as there had been so many deaths in the family during that time...actually more devastation.

 

The other night her son and the cousins came over to visit and I was talking to her son asking how he was holding up under everything...with a stiff upper lip, trying to hold back the pain told me his dad rented a motel room and committed suicide. Prior to that all I heard was that he had passed...so it was a shock to say the least.

 

I hope this makes sense, as I am still devastated. They were a beautiful couple.

 

That is so awful.

 

I feel so bad for those who can't feel the warmth of the light shining through - from the end of a devastion tunnel..

 

What a waste of a life.

[pureinheart]

Police say the number one cause of all homicides is jealousy....Jealous of money, power and of course, partners.

 

That's why if a spouse discovers a spouse in the act of infidelty, and kills one or both people, the maximum charge is involuntary manslaughter....because even the law realizes how out of your head you will be to discover that act in progress.

 

Imagine that?

 

I am amazed how many engage in affairs without thinking of the consequences of a spouse finding out about the affair, and the ramifications of that information towards a violent vengeful act.

 

Delusional truly.

 

In bold yep...one family member was murdered indirectly from a jealous gf. One of the cousins ended up escaping a week-long rage of terror where bf had kept her captive, torturing her beyond human comprehension. She escaped. I doubt her captor is doing very well right now.

[pureinheart]

That is so awful.

 

I feel so bad for those who can't feel the warmth of the light shining through - from the end of a devastion tunnel..

 

What a waste of a life.

 

Desert, these were two beautiful people, I don't think I truely have comprehended that this has really happened yet.

[Spark1111]

And it isn't always the BS that you have to be concerned about. The WS's and AP's have there own pool of sociopathic violence to draw upon.

 

JAG

 

Excellent point! The last two national stories here involved the OW; one killed her famous football player MP and then herself when he went to break up with her; and the other case was an OW who killed her MP's pregnant wife and staged it to look like a home invasion. Of course she was charged with first degree murder as she premeditated it.

 

Locally, a mother of 4 is on trial for hiring a hit man to kill her H, hoping to collect his substantial life insurance. He discovered she had had an affair with his brother 20 years ago, and immediately filed for divorce. The divorce by all records was horrible, bitter and acrimonious on both sides.

[Spark1111]

My daughters husbands family (which I am extremely close to, they are actually my family, as I love these people with all of my heart).

 

This story is difficult to tell...my SIL's aunt (which is the sweetest person a person could ever meet) found out she had breast cancer, then shortly after that discovered her husband of 25+ years had been having an affair for over 20 years. I didn't know what to say as there had been so many deaths in the family during that time...actually more devastation.

 

The other night her son and the cousins came over to visit and I was talking to her son asking how he was holding up under everything...with a stiff upper lip, trying to hold back the pain told me his dad rented a motel room and committed suicide. Prior to that all I heard was that he had passed...so it was a shock to say the least.

 

I hope this makes sense, as I am still devastated. They were a beautiful couple.

 

PIH, some (probably more that any statistic can provide) do attempt suicide following DDAY, because of remorse, guilt...shame the whole world knows, etc.

 

Another consequence following affairs few think about: Not only violence, but suicidal thoughts and/or attempts.

[Dexter Morgan]

 

An old friends Mom cheated on her Dad. She left a 17 year old partnership for something that only lasted 5 years. She ended up going on drugs and became extremely suicidal. She too is alone now and miserable.

 

actually, depending on who is hearing the story above, probably wouldn't be considered a horror story:cool:

[anne1707]

I know somebody who texted her married OM on her wedding day during the reception. Her family knew and told her to go ahead with the wedding because her future husband's father was about to die and it would have been cruel not to marry him

[GorillaTheater]

I know somebody who texted her married OM on her wedding day during the reception. Her family knew and told her to go ahead with the wedding because her future husband's father was about to die and it would have been cruel not to marry him

 

I'm guessing the marriage was even more of a horror story than the wedding.

[anne1707]

I'm guessing the marriage was even more of a horror story than the wedding.

 

Would it surprise you to find out that they are now divorced. It lasted about a year - she has in fact married the OM. I'm sure they are well suited.

[seren]

Desert, these were two beautiful people, I don't think I truely have comprehended that this has really happened yet.

 

I am so very sorry for you and your families loss. I hope everyone can find peace eventually.

Seren x

[JAGeezer]

I know somebody who texted her married OM on her wedding day during the reception. Her family knew and told her to go ahead with the wedding because her future husband's father was about to die and it would have been cruel not to marry him

 

I knew a kid once who was the living personification of Opie Taylor. He got married on a Friday. The next Monday he was back on the job instead of on his honeymoon, and the look on his face was something I hope never to see on another human face as long as I live. His fiancee had been cheating on him for months. She had slipped out to spend the night with her AP the night before the wedding and got busted with him at the flippin' reception.

 

I haven't seen the kid in years, but during the decade and a half that I knew him, he never dated. Not once. A fresh-faced kid and she broke him beyond hope of recovery. I hope that he found peace and happiness eventually, but I doubt it. That's why I see an A as comparable to murder. It's a way to kill someone's spirit so thoroughly that they spend the rest of their life as a shell that walks, talks, and goes through the motions of living, but which is never really alive again.

 

JAG

[debby]

My ex-MIL had an affair with her cousin (yes, this is the south) and got pregnant. HER mom dragged her off for an abortion, but that affair ultimately led to my ex-H's parents getting divorced (and 4 children left confused in the wake). The cousin couldn't deal with the devastation he had helped to cause and committed suicide. I lived with the fallout from that broken home for the 13 years that my ex and I were married. Oddly, he was the one who ran around and had serial affairs and one night stands starting just a year into the marriage. He is now married to someone else and came back to me wanting to have an affair with me (since his wife supposedly doesn't sexually satisfy him...and she was supposedly his "soul mate". He left me for her. I said "no" btw).

So, the fallout is like dominoes, or ripples. It continues to impact people in a far-reaching circle for years and years and years.

[TheMENemy]

All this heartache for a teaspoon full of goo.

[debby]

My ex-H left me for another woman almost 6 years ago. I've not had a relationship since. Don't want one. The marriage felt like I was the recipient of a 13 year head-game fraught with cheating, lies and verbal and emotional abuse. You would think I'd be glad he left, but it crushed me when he walked out for a woman half his age, divorced me without looking back and married her...all without ever seeming to bat an eyelash.

 

There are so many levels on which that marriage and its failure hurt me that I don't know if I can believe any marriage can work anymore. I have so closed down that part of myself, I don't know if it is possible to get it back. The idea of loving someone enough to be hurt like that again terrifies me. The only people I allow that close to me are my children...and my dogs.

[2.50 a gallon]

A lady I knew had an affair with her rich boss, the owner of a large auto dealership, left her H and married the OM.

 

She and her new H met one of her sons at the airport when he returned from Vietnam. The son had a new attitude and called her a name, the step father took issue and attacked her son, who defended himself by elbowing the H in the chest. When the new H got out of the hospital, he

was never the same and died of a heart condition within a year.

 

That is when she found out that though the dealership was named after her H, his XW owned it, and he had been nothing but a hired figurehead.

After paying his medical bills, she had nothing left and was forced to live in a one bedroom apartment.

 

Her four kids disowned her and never let her see her grand children, who lived in the same city. She died in her late 80's, a loney old woman, barely able to pay her bills, with only a dog for companionship, and never knowing that the first of her great, great grandchildren had been born less than two miles away from where she lived.

[bentnotbroken]

I guess this is a horror story of sorts. Family member was with ow for more than 20 years. He left his wife and family for ow. They seemed to have a good life. They had a home, vehicles, assets. Problem...he wasn't legally divorced. He was killed and all those things that were in his name were taken by the wife and their children. OW and her children were evicted, cars went to wife and insurance benefits along with social security. OW was barred from the funeral, though she was allowed some time at the funeral home. Really sad for all involved.

[karnak]

All this heartache for a teaspoon full of goo.

 

Nicely said