N0192948 Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Thanks for all who respond. Quick and skinny version: i met a girl a month ago who i really like, she seemed into me too. We've slept together a few times and gone on like 5 dates. Then last week she said she was sick and we didn't really talk until friday night at a mutual friends party, she knew a lot of people there so we didn't really speak much, i went home alone. Then saturday i texted a few times and she was somewhat dismissive and didn't invite me to hang out with her and her friends she was out with. I've asked her to hang out a few different nights and she hasn't accepted. She was in a long term relationship for 4 years before me and i may be a rebound, but she seemed like she was really into me at least for a few weeks. What is going on and what should i do? -I think i should wait a few days and then call her and act like it is not bothering me although it is driving me nuts! -My friend thinks I should not call her and if she calls me then she is still interested, which sounds viable -I really want to know what is going on but don't think I should really push the issue, but that seems like then I may come off as spineless What do you guys think? thanks again.
loverofloveandstuff Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Leave it. Do not call her. If she was genuinely interested she would've accepted one of the times or planned to reschedule. The last thing you want to do is chase a girl who is not interested. Wait a week for her to contact you, if she doesn't delete her number and forget her. For the record, after 5 dates and sleeping together, it's pretty dog for her to give you the cold shoulder without any explanation.
reservoirdog1 Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 I second the above, and what your friend said. Initiating contact now will just make you seem desperate and won't help your self-esteem. If she contacts you, play it cool -- act upbeat and cheerful, and make her work a bit to see you (if that's what she wants). If she doesn't contact you, then that's your answer. In any event, date other women -- don't wait around to hear from that one.
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