LondonS Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 IMO, she has right to avoid men who do not meet her preferences. She is serious and selective. My guess is that she does not want to get laid with everyone who is looking for sex online. Perhaps, she does not want a man who wants to be dependent financially on a woman. There are plenty of men online who are looking for a woman to support them financially. spot on...
JungleLover Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 She wrote a resume and posted it as a personals ad. Agree
carhill Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Well, we don't know what ELSE was in her profile. In fact, the OP mentioned a francophile tidbit that wasn't quoted here, so we can assume that this is merely the most 'offensive' bit of something much longer. OK, OP, you're being tasked for balance. Provide it
JungleLover Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 There are plenty of men online who are looking for a woman to support them financially. Where do you get this information?
yah Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 I don't see the big deal. You're supposed to write about yourself in a personal ad, no? Well, the lady spent a big chunk of her life in school to specialize in a particular field so obviously she'll mention it in her profile. As far as how Ph.D. degrees are useful only if you teach, and you need someone to die to get a job, that's a lot of BS.
Star Gazer Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 What's the point in even having a narrative portion of a profile if you're not supposed to describe yourself and your preferences?
Cee Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Alright irc33, I have been avidly following your threads because we are about the same age (I think) and pounding the dating pavement. I want to live vicariously through you. I say this with all due respect... Could you start a thread on a profile that you liked and messaged? I want to hear about actual communication and dating and not about women on the reject pile. I want to hear about somebody getting action. Please. Cause for the time being, I'm not.
Crazy Magnet Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Well I would prefer someone who had a PhD too because they can relate to all this school related torture and the ensuing torture of tenure track. I'm sure the OP has some preferences too. She's proud of what she does because she feels like she makes a difference in this world. How is that bad again? The posted portion of the profile does not come across as negative at all to me.
BS76 Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 That's a lot of assuming, right there. Geez. Also, Lori Gottlieb is an idiot. This isn't my first rodeo. I've seen women like the OP describes time and time again, and if they're lucky, yes lucky, to get a quality man past 35 then they should be all set. For the rest of the women, Lori Gottlieb told it like it is. Whether you agree with her or not it doesn't change the facts of the matter that as women age their options dwindle, and that not to mention The List most women carry around in the back of their mind. You ask a 20 year old what she wants in a man and then ask her again 20 years later after she's failed to secure a mate, have a family, etc and your head would spin how different a story they will tell you in what they're looking for.
flying Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 This isn't my first rodeo. I've seen women like the OP describes time and time again, and if they're lucky, yes lucky, to get a quality man past 35 then they should be all set. For the rest of the women, Lori Gottlieb told it like it is. Whether you agree with her or not it doesn't change the facts of the matter that as women age their options dwindle, and that not to mention The List most women carry around in the back of their mind. You ask a 20 year old what she wants in a man and then ask her again 20 years later after she's failed to secure a mate, have a family, etc and your head would spin how different a story they will tell you in what they're looking for. I'm still not seeing what you're describing in what the OP posted from this woman's profile. I think there's a lot of filling in the gaps going on here to make the picture look like what people expect, rather than what is. We heard hardly anything about her. I'm hoping he'll just come back and tell us the rest.
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Just so everyone can see... this is what I think when I read profiles like this. I assume other guys will think similarly. I'm a college professor with a PhD in Organizational Psychology. I teach and have an active research program - I'm a specialist on work teams! I'm extremely passionate about my career and the opportunity it provides me to make a real difference. A PhD in Organizational Psych... As a fairly disorganized guy, she would either be driven insane by how I do things... or find me to be an amazing case study in how I can be successful and disorganized. Both negative... but still supposition. I'm also interested to know more about Organizational Psych... I'm interesting to you and we have something in common! Especially if you're any version of tall, dark, and handsome mixed with intellect, warmth, and integrity! She wants commonalities. She potentially fears that others may find her interests boring. Tall, Dark, Handsome= meaningless phrase. Photos are a MUST, age (between 35 and 45) is essential, higher education is very important to me (I spent 10 years in college! Misery loves company!), and career success is essential for us to be a match. Higher Education = 4 year degree. Career Success = Hard to define, but I assume this means $$$, and/or a steady job.
In The Green Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Just so everyone can see... this is what I think when I read profiles like this. I assume other guys will think similarly. A PhD in Organizational Psych... As a fairly disorganized guy, she would either be driven insane by how I do things... or find me to be an amazing case study in how I can be successful and disorganized. Both negative... but still supposition. I'm also interested to know more about Organizational Psych... Most people don't know what Organizational Psych is, she might be better off explaining a little about it. She works with organizations and corporations to find better ways of making workplaces more effective, supposedly not stress employees etc. Maybe one day that stupid field will realize that human beings were not meant to sit in one place for 10 hrs and in little cubes while being treated like 11 yr olds. I took an organizational psych class when doing my major and it left a bad taste in my mouth.
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