Dontknowanymore Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Hi all, I'm new to posting but I've been lurking on this site for a while now and now I need some advice. I won't go into too much detail but I'm 27 and my boyfriend is 28. We had both been single for about 9 months before we met and have now been together for 3 and a half months. He says he loves me and I can tell that he does the thing is he left his wallet at my house and my son was playing with it this morning. I stopped him as soon as I noticed but not before he found a photo of my boyfriends ex that he is still carrying around with him. So my question for you guys is what do I do about this? Could he still have feelings for his ex or did he just bit realise it was still in there?
Green Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 I still have photos of my ex. But I don't carry them around in my walet, in fact they are packed away in my closet or in a box... not sure I don't really look at them. It may be harmless or it may be something more. Why not talk with him about how it made you feel and see if his response makes you feel better. Obviously if this guy makes you feel 2nd best then you should dump him. But it really may be harmless, and even if he is holding onto her he may admit it and be willing to change for the better. If he is weird about it and makes you feel bad then life is to short to stay with some one like this.
welikeincrowds Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Whatever you do, don't tell him that your son was playing with his wallet and a picture of his ex fell out. I'm sure that's what happened, but it's not very believable. I find it hard to imagine that this picture in his wallet is an accident. Personally, I bury photos of my exes until I look at them with nothing but fond nostalgia. I don't outright destroy them. But a wallet? The last thing I would want is to pull out a $20 at the deli, casually glance at a photo, and be suddenly overwhelmed with ****ty breakup memories. And if I didn't have feelings anymore, it would be inappropriate to have a photo of her in my wallet. No, the only reason I would have that photo in my wallet would be because I was not wholly committed to the idea that she is no longer a part of my life. For that reason, I would say that this is one red flag. Have you shared much about your exes, OP? If not, now would be a good time to casually ask him about his past. If so, please share. Knowing the circumstances of their relationship and breakup will probably help this decision.
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