RyanMA Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 We've known each other 3 years. We work together. In august we started hanging out when she was on a break from her boyfriend. Right time, right place...so i assumed. We hung out over a month without any sort of intimacy. After a month we started kissing....and 2 weeks from the kiss we had sex. All along she had a boyfriend. Finally a couple weeks ago she broke up with her boyfriend and said she wanted to be with me. Things went well for awhile, then fell apart again. On and off conversations via text/phone call but would talk like nothing happened at work. Now last week she told me shes only giving 60% to me because shes just getting out of a 2 year relationship. From there we talked and it became she wants to be free for awhile cause she hasnt had that in awhile. Then tonight we agreed we can see each other 2-3 times a week and be exclusive to each other, have sex, all that without a label on it. I understand where shes coming from, but im asking, instead of forcing the situation of us being together can it just gel and be natural and eventually just happen with our current situation? Do you feel that there is a chance we can be together...it may just take time and i should continue doing what we're doing? We both "love" each other and like i said want to be together, she just wants some freedom yet at the same time be with me. I know theres a risk involved but i do love her, your opinions please.
utterer of lies Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 (edited) Now last week she told me shes only giving 60% to me because shes just getting out of a 2 year relationship. From there we talked and it became she wants to be free for awhile cause she hasnt had that in awhile. We both "love" each other and like i said want to be together, she just wants some freedom yet at the same time be with me. I know theres a risk involved but i do love her, your opinions please. Sorry mate, but you are her rebound. She was with you to properly break up with her boyfriend, and now that they are broken up she will toy with you a bit until she finds a new boyfriend. Which is not going to be you. Happens all the time. Enjoy the sex while it lasts, but you better get used to the thought that it's not going to last. Edited November 1, 2010 by utterer of lies
welikeincrowds Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Sorry mate, but you are her rebound. She was with you to properly break up with her boyfriend, and now that they are broken up she will toy with you a bit until she finds a new boyfriend. Which is not going to be you. Happens all the time. Enjoy the sex while it lasts, but get used to the thought that it's not going to last. At first I thought that this was an awfully negative way to look at it, but then I remembered that you two are saying "I love yous". Do you feel that there is a chance we can be together...it may just take time Don't consider the future, especially not as means a means of changing your attitude toward the present. Instead, just focus on the present. she just wants some freedom yet at the same time be with me In the present, she's telling you she wants to be casual, so keep it casual. Casual means never having to say "I love you". This is passion, not love. If you're not up for that -- and I doubt that you are -- then this relationship isn't for you. No mysteries and no blame, just hard feelings. Good luck.
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