Alobar Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 I won't go into too much background, because it's all here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t250426/ Simply put, we broke up this morning but still live together. She's been super nice to me all day and has been going out of her way to help me out with food/chores/etc. It's driving me crazy how she seems like she's doing just fine even though she says she's not. I REALLY want to talk to her about everything but I know it will make me come off as needy and it won't solve anything. Gah! How do I hold back and just isolate myself from her?
Author Alobar Posted November 1, 2010 Author Posted November 1, 2010 Living together makes the rules of NC a bit more difficult to pull off. I'm assuming we're going to have contact, so I need to be able to deal with that.
Author Alobar Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 Update: We barely spoke at all yesterday. I dragged myself to the gym and felt a lot better when I was done, but then she tried talking to me and it slowly put me in a bad mood again. Can anyone tell me why she does this; if she knows I'm upset or not speaking to her for a while she asks what she can do to help. When she says that she acts like I need help and she's totally fine. When she says that it just makes me so angry and frustrated because I shouldn't be the only one hurting here. Why the hell does she not need help? Oh and by the way, living with someone when you guys just broke up sucks.
lapse Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Update: We barely spoke at all yesterday. I dragged myself to the gym and felt a lot better when I was done, but then she tried talking to me and it slowly put me in a bad mood again. Can anyone tell me why she does this; if she knows I'm upset or not speaking to her for a while she asks what she can do to help. When she says that she acts like I need help and she's totally fine. When she says that it just makes me so angry and frustrated because I shouldn't be the only one hurting here. Why the hell does she not need help? Oh and by the way, living with someone when you guys just broke up sucks. heh. Oh, how I do know... it also results in more reconciliations than one should ever have in a relationship. At least it did for me. We lived together for 3 weeks after our last breakup and let me tell you, I hated hearing his footsteps... avoiding him, him avoiding me. Even the kindness, as you mentioned, is painful. I feel for you, friend. But let me tell you - as soon as I moved out, I felt so much better so much faster than I thought I would! There is a light at the end... keep your head up so you can see it.
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