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Is he playing hard to get or has he lost interest?


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Hi everyone, I am new here and was hoping for some advice on my situation.

 

I am 17 years old and have recently been talking to a lovely guy who is 19. He is a male friend's brother, that's how we got in contact. I have never met him properly but have seen him around (as we attended the same school when we were both there). It began over Facebook, believe it or not, with him typing cheeky messages to me and I returned a couple. He then gave me his number, and I texted him the next day. He wasn't expecting me to contact him, but as he is such a great guy I decided to.

 

So after we texted for the day, I left him for about 3 days. He then rang me up and we had a 2 hour conversation, and the same happened the next night. For about 1 week he would speak to me on Facebook and really make the effort, and I would return this effort.

 

He no longer makes the effort like he used to, nothing has changed since the beginning. It's always me who has to go to him- when I do he replies and will usually keep the conversation going, but I just want to meet up with him so I can decide my true feelings. I texted him last night as he was about to go out with some friends and told him to let me know when he is free, I didn't get a reply.

 

All I do know is that he is attracted me to me, as I am him. His brother knows about us talking, he has never had a one night stand and was in a relationship for 2 years and only had sex with her. I know he is a good guy at heart, I just wish he would stop playing games and talk to me. Any advice? Thank you.

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He never made the effort because it sounds like you never gave him the chance.

 

How would I give him the chance? :love:

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It could also be because you're not legal yet and he doesn't want to take chances :p

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wow im going through a similar situation! I met a guy a month ago and the first week we started texting and hanging out alot and then it seemed to slow down..he stopped responding to my texts which i alwys started in the first place and we didnt seem to hang out as much. I finally said something to him like," You never respond to my texts anymore and I dont like to chase guys" and it actually helped bc he realized i was gettin kinda annoyed with the lack of response and so he started textin back more and we still see eachother atleasdt twice a week now. I seem to be hot on his trail more than he is on mine but sometimes u have to look into his history..this guy just got out of a 12 yr relationship 2 mos. ago..he may not be quite ready 2 start anything serious due to that so im keeping this in mind. He has expressed hes attracted to me he says im beautiful and hes interested but if i dont text him he wont ever text me so while these things annoy me i guess i have to just try my luck til i decide to stop pursuing him..in the mean time im gonna keep trying! So my advice 2 u is to see if u can hang out with him more. Some guys are just looking for sex unfortunatley and some feel their single and have other options as in other females are available or maybe hes just not pursuing u as much cuz those feelings havent developed between u two and that would take time. Also try to play te game back a little i dont know how often u text him but if u do everyday with no response u definitely need 2 stop. He may text u once u stop and if he doesnt eventually i would let this one go! Good luck:)

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Men don't play hard to get. Only women do that.

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All I do know is that he is attracted me to me, as I am him. His brother knows about us talking, he has never had a one night stand and was in a relationship for 2 years and only had sex with her. I know he is a good guy at heart, I just wish he would stop playing games and talk to me. Any advice? Thank you.

 

Hey girl, you dont know that.If he hasnt asked you out yet, he's probably not that attracted to you.And as of right now after only a couple of face book talks and phone calls, you dont really know anything about him.Dont jump in and make assumption too fast,be open to get to know him, not what you want him to be but him as he is, and then you'll see for yourself if he's the one worth deveploping more feelings.You should at least go out with him for serveral times to tell.If you are really interested to find out more, just ask him out and see for yourself.

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