Winherback Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 It has been almost exactly 2 weeks since we broke up. I have not contacted her since that day. One of the roughest periods of my life. Here is a summary of our history. We were together for over 2 years. She is 5 years younger than me, in mid twenties and beautiful. Spoiled, and needs lots of attention, but I accepted her imperfections as I loved her. We met, and hit it off very quick. Almost too quick. We rushed into things and it was a LDR for the first year. She told me 6 months in that she had never been with someone that it had been so easy and fun and that God had answered her prayers. I was her first love basically. We truly believed we finally found each other. We broke up after around year 1 into the LDR (she was back home to finish school btw). It was a shock to me as I guess I got comfortable with things and just assumed it was meant to be, while she waited by the phone constantly and was overwhelmed with her feelings for me and the lack of reciprocating by me. We worked it out, went on a trip to Mexico and it was back on and full force. She graduated school finally and then moved into the big city and moved in with me and it was great. Bought a xmas tree together and a wonderful holiday season. But, I had a roomate, my house has been constantly being refurbished since it got flooded, and I have to admit... it wasnt the ideal situation for her to come into and live. Then 4 months later in spring, bam... again. This time after she broke up with me...I wrote a letter, chased, did this, did that... and we worked it out. She admitted she didnt mean to run on me like that again and thanked me for not giving up on her. I told her she cant keep doing this and instead of keeping things all bottled up and throwing them all at me at once and running, lets communicate. She agreed. It was great again, and she told my sister she would never find anyone like me. Was a great summer, we got a puppy and raised him together. But things got rough at my job and it became very stressed for me these past 6 months and I did lose some of my swagger. Anyway, bout a month ago she starts talking about moving out, and that she feels cramped and this and that. I basically have been supporting her and she has never truly been out on her own. I told her I felt like it was a step back for us, but I wont keep her from doing it. We agreed it wouldnt be a breakup, and that if she does... it could be good for us. After that talk it sparked again, and it was great. I said see, its here... she said I know, I just need it to be more consistent. Fine, lets do it. A week before this breakup I went on a roady to a concert and I accidentally pocket dial and I guess she heard a girl on the vm I left on accident (it was my step sis), and called because her heart sank and wanted to know who I was with. She said she wished I was with her and experiencing where she was at (work deal) with her. So all is ok right? A week later.... after she hangs with girlfriends and I am working on a big project at the house (she tells me she is so happy that I do things like that in a talk we had)... she comes back and on that Monday morning says its over and moves out that day. I have not contacted her since. BUT, I get this hand written letter over a week later in the mail. Started off how she could have never imagined how hard this week would be without me and how hard the letter is to write. That she felt like we always made things work, but it was just that... work. Saying sorry, and that I didnt do anything wrong. She said says love should feel more natural? Says communication was a constant issue for her. that we never discussed our feelings on an emotional level and it was always on the surface level? Says why we never did communicate like that. She does not know? She says I am a blessing, encouraging her through school, giving her a home, making it her home,etc,etc. She says the point of the letter is that she now knows that when two people love each other that they can always work things out, but that they are not always meant to spend the rest of their lives together. Says she hopes one day I will forgive her? Then at the bottom, she offers to help our pup anytime and to tell him how much she is thinking about him, misses him,etc. What was the point of her letter? She already broke up with me and I didnt contact her at all. Is she expecting me to chase her again? I am really confused by it. Any thoughts or advice on what I should or shouldnt do would be greatly appreciated. I do love this girl with all of my heart, and I feel like the issue she has pointed out can be worked out WITH communication. Maybe its just the fact that she has never been out in the real world on her own, and that she needs to find out that its not all like the movies and fairy tails. I just dont know.
Don Ho Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 Sorry Bro, I think she made it clear: she loves you but doesn't want to spend her life with you. i.e. you are not "the one". The point of the letter was to make herself feel better. That's it. Don't read into it, move on.
Leandro Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 She's probably trying to get some guilt off her.
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