loverofloveandstuff Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 As the title says, would you date someone who was an ex stripper or an ex escort - even if it was for a very short time? Would you date someone whom, in the past, got paid to walk around in lingerie and bikinis? Are these women totally not girlfriend material? Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 As the title says, would you date someone who was an ex stripper or an ex escort - even if it was for a very short time? Would you date someone whom, in the past, got paid to walk around in lingerie and bikinis? Are these women totally not girlfriend material? So what if they got paid in lingerie or bikinis. I would not have a problem with dating them. They could be fun and be a very good girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
9Lives Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 Yes they will but the woman has to be careful about how she brings the info to the man cause men don't really respect a woman who strips or escorts. It reaaly mess with their ego and respect for the woman for some reason which is weird cause they love seeing a womans body. I know for a fact they will but they need to get to know u and see differently and respect u first. Then some men just can't deal with it period! Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 As the title says, would you date someone who was an ex stripper or an ex escort - even if it was for a very short time? Would you date someone whom, in the past, got paid to walk around in lingerie and bikinis? Are these women totally not girlfriend material? Depends. If she was a college girl who stripped on occasion to finance her studies, no problem. But if stripping or whoring was her only job, no way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loverofloveandstuff Posted October 31, 2010 Author Share Posted October 31, 2010 Yes they will but the woman has to be careful about how she brings the info to the man cause men don't really respect a woman who strips or escorts. If it's in the past, do you think it would be dishonest for the girl to not bring it up at all? Link to post Share on other sites
9Lives Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 If it's in the past, do you think it would be dishonest for the girl to not bring it up at all? Girl, let me tell u, its tricky. If u tell him, he might freak out especially about the escoting sevice cause in his head so many images start to play out. As far as the stripper thing, some men see women as doing more than stripping to get that money. Men are crazy like that about it. Unless u have a reason to bring it up, I would leave it alone. He not gonna reveal he was a skank back in the day if he was. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Jam Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 As the title says, would you date someone who was an ex stripper or an ex escort - even if it was for a very short time? Would you date someone whom, in the past, got paid to walk around in lingerie and bikinis? Are these women totally not girlfriend material? I wouldn't hold it against her. Say she did the stripper or even escort thing for a year to pay some bills, but now she's college educated and works as a high-paid investment banker. Plus she's got a beautiful face and killer body. I should turn that away because she once took money for sex or took money to take her clothes off? I think the reason many guys look down on the ex-escorts, ex-pornstars, ex-strippers, etc. is because these women DON'T do anything with their lives. I hear more about the girl with an amazing body and face who works as a stripper, but gets into bed with every douchebag she meets and thus has 1-2 kids from guys who abandoned her. That or she's supporting a small drug habit. Yes, there are women who simply use the sex industry as easy money to move up the ladder into something else, but too many don't. That's why many guys say "HELL NO" to someone who used to work in the sex industry. To me, I have to look at her "HERE AND NOW". As I stated in my first example, she could have used it as a means to an end and thus made herself into every man's dream. As long as she's disease-free and isn't supporting kids made from one night stands, I can't see her past as the the total judgment...especially if she's attracted to me and is good to me. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 Stripping and escorting are completely different from each other. I would have no problem dating a girl who is or was a stripper. I'd think it would be very sexy. There is no way I'd date somebody who was an escort. A girl that has sex for money may have psychological problems and may have been abused. The vast majority of women would never consider having sex for money and may be disgusted with the thought. Stripping is something different, as long as she doesn't do "bonuses" for her customers, it's OK. Link to post Share on other sites
9Lives Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 See what I'm saying,...lol The two men above will date a stripper and a escort even BUT it has to be a past life experience, she has to prove to them she is a good girl now and not that girl anymore, and he has to see how he feels after he finds out. For some reason men do not like prominious women even if they were the ones being prominious with u. Its hilarious to me but its true. They can get over the stripper thing perhaps but the escort serice is harder for them to accept. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 See what I'm saying,...lol The two men above will date a stripper and a escort even BUT it has to be a past life experience, she has to prove to them she is a good girl now and not that girl anymore, and he has to see how he feels after he finds out. For some reason men do not like prominious women even if they were the ones being prominious with u. Its hilarious to me but its true. They can get over the stripper thing perhaps but the escort serice is harder for them to accept. I hope I'm not included as one of the "two men above," because it seems like you didn't read my post at all... Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 What's her relationship history? Away from her career, what is her 'volume' with men? Has she had any significant positive LTR's since discontinuing her 'career'? Is she clean physically, meaning no STD's? Just a few questions I'd ask. Link to post Share on other sites
9Lives Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 I hope I'm not included as one of the "two men above," because it seems like you didn't read my post at all... I was including u and I did read it. U ruled the escort chic out...if u knew. ....key word...if u knew.but I believe if u met a woman and u had a wonderful rel with her and found out year or two later, u wouldn't leave her if u love her. Why would u, its the past and she ain't doing it no moe Link to post Share on other sites
Billzebub Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 Been there, done that. She was five shades of crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 There's a big difference between being a stripper and being an escort. Escorts are simply glorified prostitutes. I would consider dating a stripper, past or present, but I would have nothing to do with a prostitute if they had made a voluntary decision to whore themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 Wait, there have been a number of things mentioned here ...stripper/escort/lingerie model or go go dancer later? I think each of these jobs has different connotations and limits. Is it in the past? I would be hesitant to date such a person for a number of reasons. STD's are a worry if she is an excort, but more than that is her view of sex. In order to be an escort and sometimes a stripper (who may give 'extras'), you need to treat sex like a commodity. Is that how you will look at in the relationship? Are you just here to be a gold digger if you are doing that and I have a good job, place, doing well, etc.? More than that though, men want to win a prize. Why should I work so hard to please you when any guy with $100 can get the same thing I can by going to the trouble of being your bf (maybe even more)? If you have been doing this long and I know many people, am I going to be hearing about some guy who's c*ck you sucked in a strip club or otherwise? Man or woman, everyone wants a partner that is experienced. However, no one really wants to have it thrown in their face. It all depends on the context and how I reconcile the person I know with the job history. Link to post Share on other sites
Sivok Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 I dated a stripper for a few months this past summer. She was a college kid so I thought she was doing it to pay off for school. Later I find out she was cheating on a bf of 6 months with me, she had a history of cocaine abuse, her tuition was already paid off by her rich aunt, and she had hepatisis C - which I only found out from her mom. Luckily, my results returned clean, but if that experience tought me anything - women who toss their self respect and dignity for cash on the side have their reputation for a reason. Once they get to the point where they see sex as a commodity to get what they want, I'd imagine that mentality is one that's very hard to break out of. In the future, I'd maybe sleep with a stripper, but I'd never make her my girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetjasmine Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 In order to be an escort and sometimes a stripper (who may give 'extras'), you need to treat sex like a commodity. The same goes for the stripper and escort's customers. If you're buying sex, you're also treating it like a commodity. That's why I wouldn't date a male stripper, male escort, or a man who likes strip clubs or escorts. Aside from the obvious STD/promiscuity angle. Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 It's funny, because there was a woman I was interested in a while back that was an escort. I had no idea, as we were just close friends and never talked about stuff like that, but we eventually began to grow closer. Once she told me (She was 23 and I was 21 at the time) she used to work as an escort yrs ago, I just, well...took a step back from her. I felt kinda bad not going any further with her because of what she did in the past, but I just wasn't ready to be involved with someone like that. Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 The reason men dont like promiscuous women is the same reason why women like men to pay on dates for example. Both have historical roots. Back in the days there was no paternity test and the only way a man knew a baby would be his was if the girl never slept with anyone else. That was why virginity was the most valuable attribute of woman. So until today this line of thinking unconsciously remains. It's really not the same as paying on dates. I don't think you could really ever say x thing about guys is like y thing about girls. We are just really different. Different values etc. It would be hard to trust a girl who escorted/stripped before. Like you used to do it for just money, with guys you definitely weren't attracted to. I guess it would make me more nervous that the sex doesn't mean anything to you, or that sex is so low on the "big deal" scale that getting paid for it is coolio. Maybe that describes it best? If you had slept with 40 guys I'd just prefer not to know, but the escort thing is not-so-good. You would have to talk through it with a guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Knittress Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 (edited) I don't see what the big deal is. All I seem to hear on the street and on the boards is 'hook up' this and 'hook up' that, with a lot of men seeming to see a woman as a convenient place to empty their prostrates. (Even the nice ones who want to hang out and have a conversation afterwards) So why is it that when guys are benefiting, sex is a casual matter - but when a woman is getting something from it, sex becomes a 'sacred act of relationship?' Edited October 31, 2010 by Knittress Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 I don't see what the big deal is. All I seem to hear on the street and on the boards is 'hook up' this and 'hook up' that, with a lot of men seeming to see a woman as a convenient place to empty their prostrates. (Even the nice ones who want to hang out and have a conversation afterwards) So why is it that when guys are benefiting, sex is a casual matter - but when a woman is getting something from it, sex becomes a 'sacred act of relationship?' It is funny, I had this conversation from the opposite point of view with a friend. He is almost 30 and has very little experience because he feels that sex is special and he only wants to have sex with a woman when he could see it turning into a serious relationship and does not want to hurt women to get experience. I see thread after thread about women who have been scared off by the 30 year old virgin or guy with little experience. Apparently, it is too much trouble. No one wants to be the 'practice girl' or teacher. Yet, it is expected men will have done this with other women to get experience if they have not met a woman they liked. In both of these cases, it is about the illusion that the person that you are with is special and the past/others are not. It is hard to keep that illusion going when the person you are with is actively doing the same to others for money. Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 If it's in the past, do you think it would be dishonest for the girl to not bring it up at all? I endorse taking this on a case-by-case basis. For some, a relationship can endure the sharing of such a past. For others, if they can effectively squelch all evidence of it, then it is just as well left unmentioned. As with many other things, a great emphasis rests on whether there is any realistic chance he could find out via other channels. (one definitely wouldn't want to find out from his buddies that they used to get lap dances from his former-stripper girlfriend) Link to post Share on other sites
sanskrit Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 No strippers or escorts. No thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 There's a big difference between being a stripper and being an escort. Uhhhhhhhhhh, not usually... (well, I was going to point out that which is obvious but alas, Dictionary.com assures that a woman only qualifies as a prostitute when engaging in "sexual intercourse" for money, while a man need only engage in "sexual acts" for money to qualify as a prostitute) (such a gender-based double standard... tsk, tsk, tsk...) –noun 1. a woman who engages in sexual intercourse for money; whore; harlot. 2. a man who engages in sexual acts for money. Now of course you could have been writing only of those escorts who merely accompany their gentleman friends to the opera and to bridge club. Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 I don't see what the big deal is. All I seem to hear on the street and on the boards is 'hook up' this and 'hook up' that, with a lot of men seeming to see a woman as a convenient place to empty their prostrates. (Even the nice ones who want to hang out and have a conversation afterwards) So why is it that when guys are benefiting, sex is a casual matter - but when a woman is getting something from it, sex becomes a 'sacred act of relationship?' I was thinking the same thing. Anyone who would benefit from casual sex with a stripper/hooker, or even a girl who just sleeps around without pay, and then turn around and not see them as girlfriend material, is a hypocrite (if they expect to be taken seriously as a male partner, having slept around). Link to post Share on other sites
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