gabby898 Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 So my boyfriend checked him emails in front of me. It was mostly work emails and two emails from two friends of his (both girls). He checked the email from the one girl. (one that I kinda know. I've talked to her a couple of times online and she knows about us and everything...) He never checked the email from the other girl. Now, I do know that his girl used to fancy him. she's an online friend and he's told me that in the past, she had suggested that they meet to have sex. He had refused. I do also know that he had send her naked pictures of himself. that was again ages ago, before me and him started going out. A while ago, he was going to London for work and apparently he would meet up with her but it never happened. they're still friends and they still talk... But he hasn't told me much about her and I don't know whether I should talk to him about it or not. I mean, I know that nothing will happen between them as long as I'm with him but I don't want him flirting online and all that... I don't know if he does flirt with her or if she flirts with him, but either way I wouldn't like it if that happened. Am I being paranoid? I just want to know more about her. shall I talk to him or shall I just leave it?
chocha_mocha Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 Its difficult isn't it because even though nothing has happened between them, its hard knowing your partner is friendly with someone who has openly admitted that she wouldn't mind having sex with him. I've been in a similar situation. I think because this girl isn't officially an ex then the boundaries and what not might be a bit different, although sounds like they had some distance flirting thing going on if he's sent naked pics of himself. Maybe finding out a bit more about her might help. Just be careful though not to come across as accusing him of anything, that never goes down well in this sort of situation, I should know
Author gabby898 Posted October 31, 2010 Author Posted October 31, 2010 Its difficult isn't it because even though nothing has happened between them, its hard knowing your partner is friendly with someone who has openly admitted that she wouldn't mind having sex with him. I've been in a similar situation. I think because this girl isn't officially an ex then the boundaries and what not might be a bit different, although sounds like they had some distance flirting thing going on if he's sent naked pics of himself. Maybe finding out a bit more about her might help. Just be careful though not to come across as accusing him of anything, that never goes down well in this sort of situation, I should know oh yeah I know! I definitely don't want to accuse him of anything or sound very controlling and jealous. I just want to know what's going on! I guess I'm a bit late because we've been together for a year now and I knew about this girl for a long time now. I only found out that he send her those pics about 2 months ago when I asked him. I didn't bother me because it was before we started going out and ages ago. and yeah I knew that they still talked but have no idea how often they talk and what relationship they have...
mysticmeg1 Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 i completley understand what your going through.. i find myself in the same situation alot of the time, my bf is in the marines and quite often gets alot of female attention..at the start i decided to bite my lip and keep hush about it.. but understand this if you have any doubt please dont torture yourself like i did.. be open about it ask the questions in this case your boyfriend is obviousley comfortable enough to go through his e-mails with you so this is an imediate sign that there is trust between you and to be fair we all want that in a relationship..talk to him about this but try not to sound like your too bothered..simply bring it up gradually if you like try make it sound like you had an expeirence like this before..explain to him that your feeling a bit of strain..you never know how he might like this in every boys head they like to know that we make a fuss and we care about them and want them to ourselves!!!! they love when we get botherd about things like this..in any case if this was the boyfriend in your situation it would be a copmletley diff story!! they would automatically get hot and bothered and demand you dont contact this person any more and so on... but us girls are different so as i said bring it up it up in a way were you dont sound to bothered if this doesn't work find the bitch and let her know that your not going anywhere haha!!! goodluck:)
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