JungleLover Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 (edited) IMO, men who would say 'sure' without thought or concern likely *would not* be participating in an interpersonal relationship forum to any significant degree. They have clear mandates as to their 'style' and they own those mandates and see no need to discuss them, especially with women. Most of my male friends (I say most because I hate absolutes) would *not* ever post anything here and *most* will have sex with any woman who meets their criteria, ex or not. That's just the way it is. One thing I understand about anonymity is that you can find anyone using it. I wouldn't be surprised if a 80 year old priest posted in these forums. When there is no fear of being recognized, I expect anyone to participate. Some people, in general, just don't spend much time on the internet and many just don't understand computers but those who do tend to get involved. Times have changed with this whole net business. I had one ex who I used to have sex regularly with for a while. We tried to be friends without sex but the sex was just too great to ignore it so we always would hook up after a "friendly outting." Of course it ended bad but I don't regret doing it. It was tons of fun. Edited October 31, 2010 by JungleLover
Citizen Erased Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 No way. And not "they're exes for a reason" cos that kinda tells me that if they weren't an ex people would shag them. For me it's because I physically never want to be near them in that way again.
bobdole Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 I've never had a relationship end where I would even want to speak with them much less have sex with them. Well... maybe if they didn't speak to me it would be ok to have sex with them.
anne1707 Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 No, my wife would beat the cr*p out of me if I did I certainly would! As for sleeping with an ex (assuming single) - no way. That's the past.
carhill Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 One thing I understand about anonymity is that you can find anyone using it. I wouldn't be surprised if a 80 year old priest posted in these forums. When there is no fear of being recognized, I expect anyone to participate. Some people, in general, just don't spend much time on the internet and many just don't understand computers but those who do tend to get involved. Times have changed with this whole net business. In general I would agree and perhaps my experiences are due to my age and the age of my social circle, generally 50-70. Most of my close friends are business owners and an informal poll I took while we were in MC revealed that none expressed any interest in participating in MC nor examining their relationships in any great detail. Most also didn't know what an EA is nor do they think innocently lusting after women other than their wives is 'bad', all things which were unhealthy choices by myself in my M. The other difference is, shockers, they're all still married, most for over 25 years. I have asked two if they would ever 'sleep' with their exW's and heard, precisely, 'not even with your d!ck' in precisely those words. So much for my informal poll
quankanne Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 just the one I lost my virginity to, only because I wanted to see if he was a shxtty in bed as I suspected.
Sivok Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 I definitely can see myself having a FWB sort of relationship with two of my exes, however one of them goes in line with what one person said earlier - one of us would kill the other while asleep
TaurusTerp Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Interesting responses....I wouldn't want to go down that path again. IME, it's women that are willing to go back to the exes since you two are already (supposedly) sexually compatible and she can have sex without running up her "number".
alexlakeman Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Ex g/f's? I'd sleep with most of them, except 1-2 that come to minid. Ex wife? Only if I had HIV or Herpes and could pass it on to her.. Otherwise, I would NOT give her the pleasure...
SilentVoice Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Yes - only if it was a chance it will only be sex
Feelin Frisky Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 There's this one I would consider a fling with. I'd expect that she has learned a few new tricks by now. Very pretty girl. Not to be trusted though.
impz Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 No, my wife would beat the cr*p out of me if I did You are lucky. My wife would have castrated me!
Chitowngirl Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 I am curious as to whether this answer will be split along gender lines. Maybe one..the hot ex with the perfect body..from 5 years ago... But he wasn't anything special in bed, and I'd have to be really drunk and lonely.
Lorelai Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 I definitely can see myself having a FWB sort of relationship with two of my exes, however one of them goes in line with what one person said earlier - one of us would kill the other while asleep That's the only reason I'd consider FWB with the guy. We've known each other for 20 years, care for each other, even love each other as friends. But I know that neither of us would let it go any further than friends, because if we spend too much time in each other's company we have a huge fight and don't speak for a few months. (It happened when we weren't even sleeping with each other, just living across the way from each other in the same apartment complex...) So no danger of getting romantically entangled or falling in love with each other.... all I would have to do is remember when he barged into my apartment and demanded I disassemble my waterbed -- that I was sleeping on at the time because I had to go to work that evening -- because the guy running the cable for his Internet wanted to run it through my floor. Yes, I'm still bitter.
northern_sky Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 No. I don't find any of them attractive any more, and, for the most part (with two exceptions), they're loathsome people.
loverofloveandstuff Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 hells to the no. One of them I would become emotionally to just by seeing him, let alone sleeping with him. The other ones are just a no go zone. There are other people I would rather have sex with if I wanted sex.
Smoky Day Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Just one. He had his faults and we wouldn't make a good couple for long-term, but he was always honest with me and we remained friends and on/off lovers for years after we broke up. I don't pine over him or anything, but at times when we've both been single we've rekindled a little something--not FWB, but not serious romance either, something kind of cryptic. I don't know. I haven't been there in a long time, but I guess he's still a maybe. Anyway, the rest of them: no way.
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