eerie_reverie Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 I am curious as to whether this answer will be split along gender lines.
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 Of course. I'm going to bet that the men will most likely say 'yes'.
Surrealist Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 No way, I still have lots of contact with my ex as a result of circumstances and I still care about her well being but the relationship ended years ago and I would never consider it.
Stockalone Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 Would you sleep with any of your exes? I would have gotten back together with one of my exes if the circumstances had been right, but she died so that's no longer an option. As far as the others are concerned, I wouldn't sleep with them or get back together with them.
utterer of lies Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 I am curious as to whether this answer will be split along gender lines. When I'm single, they sometimes come over for a weekend or so. So yes.
wuggle Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 No, my wife would beat the cr*p out of me if I did
Lorelai Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 One of them. We dated back in junior high, then had a FWB thing before I met my ex-husband. We're still friends, he's still single, and we both know we could never, ever actually date each other or one of us would be killed in our sleep.
JohnnyBlaze Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 No. Most of the girls I've dated were the kind who equate physical intimacy with love. Having sex with them would open a can of worms that just wouldn't be worth it.
Cee Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 It depends on the ex. I'm a firm believer in putting the past behind me so I try not to do that. But I'm human so I've done that on occasion.
D-Jam Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 No...exes are exes for a reason. I never understood why people who break up still run to one another for sex. Usually things end up in massive drama anyway. In my own experiences, I notice WOMEN are more likely to sleep with exes while MEN will seek out new women.
Pyro Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 even if I were single not a chance. They are ex's for a reason and there are plenty of women out there, and again this if I were single, but I am happily engaged:love:
carhill Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 (edited) Of course. I'm going to bet that the men will most likely say 'yes'. I posted the response below before reading other responses and am somewhat surprised by those posted so far. I would have guessed exactly what you posted. Hmmm... Not a chance. Relationships end for a reason and sexual pleasure doesn't obviate that, for me. This aligns closely with my psychology of sex being an extension and expression of love and intimacy. Like my exW stated many times, I'm not 'normal'. Thanks for that Edited October 31, 2010 by carhill
runner Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 the exes where i've developed friendships with, no, never. but if it were an nsa thing with exes i don't really care to communicate with, and if we'll not see each other afterwards ... yea probably.
allina Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 I'm married so no way. If I was single, probably. All but one are great guys, breaks were clean, so sure.
Billzebub Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 If I was single, there are a few where "I'd hit it and quit it."
sweetjasmine Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 No way, not even if I was single. Relationships end for a reason and sexual pleasure doesn't obviate that, for me. This aligns closely with my psychology of sex being an extension and expression of love and intimacy. Like my exW stated many times, I'm not 'normal'. Thanks for that I guess I'm not 'normal', either, since I look at it the same way you do.
flying Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 In my own experiences, I notice WOMEN are more likely to sleep with exes while MEN will seek out new women. Haha, I was going to say the exact opposite. In my experience, it's always the guys who would be interested. Personally, I've never had any interest once it's done. I'm heartened to see that it's not a gender split, but more of an individual one, on this thread.
sumdude Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 Depends on which one... and how horny I am that day.
Maggotface Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 Meh, I've tried the ex sex a few times and it never ends well.
carhill Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 No way, not even if I was single. I guess I'm not 'normal', either, since I look at it the same way you do. LOL, I think she meant 'normal' for a man I often wonder about the stories I read on LS regarding FWB and other 'arrangements' with ex'es and how the psychological machinations behind them work. Part of me sees it as a path of least resistance thing, ala the Cheer's effect, desiring the familiar for validation. Another part recognizes that some people compartmentalize relationships, and can separate lousy intimacy and emotional style compatibilities from great sex compatibility and keep the sex going because it gives them physical pleasure and validation of their ego. I saw this with a few MW's, though not a significant anecdotal sample. For most, it took a lot to break their oxytocin bond and, once completed, they moved on sexually, I presume because the sex felt 'wrong', which was what I felt when having sex with my exW after I disconnected from her emotionally. Hey, we're all different
Author eerie_reverie Posted October 31, 2010 Author Posted October 31, 2010 VERY interesting responses. I too expected the men to say SURE but the women to think it through more and come to the conclusion it's a bad idea.
Woggle Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 Not a chance even if I were single. I only have one real ex and I want to keep her as far away as possible. Maybe my one FWB but even that is a maybe.
carhill Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 IMO, men who would say 'sure' without thought or concern likely *would not* be participating in an interpersonal relationship forum to any significant degree. They have clear mandates as to their 'style' and they own those mandates and see no need to discuss them, especially with women. Most of my male friends (I say most because I hate absolutes) would *not* ever post anything here and *most* will have sex with any woman who meets their criteria, ex or not. That's just the way it is.
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