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Shy guy. Wanting to ask a nice lady out :)


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Hi all. Happy Halloween for those who are out and about.

 

I'm interested in a women and wanted to ask for advice on how to ask her out :). I'm find when it comes to dealing with people, but as soon as I start to have feelings or even just wanting to ask a person out, I stutter, clam up and am not myself.

 

I've worked with this women but do not work with her if that makes any sense. So I have conversed, even gotten her cell number and she smiles, looks me in the eye etc. But it could from her point of view be nothing more than just being a pleasant and kind women.

 

I'd like to send her a text to thank her for her recent assistance regarding an order I made with her company. But was thinking I'd love to also ask her out for a coffee, fruit smoothie or my fav an ice chocolate.

 

I can handle her saying no. I just dont' want to come across as a doofus or a douche. I don't mind coming across as a shy guy, as that's how I am with people I'm not familiar with.

 

So guys, gals, help a shy guy out here :). Suggestions? Do's and dont's.

 

As a PS. I'm out of my comfort zone here. I've only ever dated girls I've known or been in my circle of family, friends etc. So this is new territory for me :)

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Will you have to work with her in the future? If so, trying to date her might get a little bit sticky... If not or you're just ok with that:

 

Do: Call her, thank her for whatever that was, and ask her out!

Do: Keep it short and sweet, and make sure to have a date and time in mind.

Do: And this is key to not being a douche, if she says no, thank her for her time, and then politely end the conversation. Don't make a big deal out of it.

Don't: Text her. If you plan on asking her out, call. Better impression.

Don't: No fruit smoothies, unless if you're in middle school.

Don't: Stop thinking. In your case, thinking and overanalyzing her reactions to everything you say just causes more shyness. There is a girl who seems nice. You want to know if she'd like to get coffee with her some time. That's all you need to know.

 

Good luck!

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