ORder Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 Me and her met my freshman year of high school. She was pretty so i asked her out and we started dating. I started liking her a lot really fast and she felt the same by like 4 months in we "loved each other" and after 2 years we decided we were gonna get married and started planning our lives together. We have been together on and off since freshman year and i have broken up with her but i always go back to her. She always takes me back and we usually just forget any of it happened. I am the first and only guy she has ever had sex with or done anything beyond second base with. The sex is great. And i love her and all. And i did plan on marrying her BUT i just saw on tv that sometimes girls with self esteem issues think there in love with anyone who compliments them... i do compliment her a lot. And she has never thought she was good enough at anything she did and constantly put herself down. Now i am scared that maybe she doesn't love me she just thinks she needs me. She also tends to do whatever i say which could also be another problem. She won't do anything like kill herself but its really easy for me to get her in the mood and she acts like a waitress when we are together. She says does it because she loves me and i used to like it but now idk. What do you think?
Arabella Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 Some women just like to make their guy happy by doing things for them. It does show that she is somewhat submissive by taking on a role of servitude to you (ie "acting like a waitress") but it does not necessarily mean that she has low self-esteem. When a guy treats a girl very poorly and she puts up with it, it often means that she has low self-esteem and is afraid to end the relationship because she thinks she won't find somebody else. A woman with healthy self-esteem would just end it because she knows she's worthy of being loved and will find someone who treats her better. She may have low self-esteem if she puts herself down and such but it doesn't sound like that's the reason why she's with you. Being able to get her in the mood, her attempts to please you, her taking you back, etc... those are all things you do when you are deeply in love with someone. After all, you were her first, and that is a very meaningful thing for most women. Arabella
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