saiveca Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 If a man and a woman provide emotional support to each other, is it usually a sign that there is more than friendship involved? I often find myself turning to guys I'm interested in for emotional support but I could be the exception. I wld really like to know what you all think of this.
Yamaha Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 I would call you the exception. Most women look for emotional support and physical attractiveness in the men they date. A male friend can provide emotional support but that does not mean women are interested in more.
Els Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 I honestly think that if the guy is seeking emotional support from a girl, it may not necessarily mean anything. This is probably because guys don't talk about deep emotional problems with other guys. So the only people left to talk to are female friends. If a girl depends on a guy for emotional support though, I think it's a sign of growing closer than just platonic friends. Just my opinion.
Author saiveca Posted October 31, 2010 Author Posted October 31, 2010 So you both think that a girl who turns to a guy for emotional support is interested in him? But if it's a guy who does that then it doesn't apply?
Els Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 That's what I think, but I don't think that's what Yamaha thinks. You will probably get a small horde of desperate guys who will come in here insisting that no male ever even befriends a female without wanting to get with her, not to even mention providing emotional support. I would caution against extrapolating this attitude to that of healthy, non-desperate males though.
Yamaha Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 If a guy is spending lots of time talking about his feelings to a women then he is interested in more. A women can do this and not be interested in more.
Arabella Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 I think Yamaha is right. I actually am more likely to be honest about my feelings with a male friend whom I'm -not- interested in romantically, than a male whom I want to date. Once in a relationship, I would always turn to my boyfriend for emotional support before anyone else, but before then, I guess I am a little afraid of him judging me. Arabella
Author saiveca Posted October 31, 2010 Author Posted October 31, 2010 I supported a friend through tough times and he said that made him feel good and I get the feeling he is falling for me although I'm really not sure if he's just being really friendly. Now I find myself turning to him for support as well as it makes me feel good too. I'm afraid of where it may lead us to.
Yamaha Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 That's what I think, but I don't think that's what Yamaha thinks. You will probably get a small horde of desperate guys who will come in here insisting that no male ever even befriends a female without wanting to get with her, not to even mention providing emotional support. I would caution against extrapolating this attitude to that of healthy, non-desperate males though. She asked for opinions and I gave her mine. If you want to call me desperate and can't have a friendship without wanting sex then you are a liar. I do not know you but if you want to attack me personally then so be it. I do not care about your opinion of me since you do not know ME. Thank you.
Els Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 She asked for opinions and I gave her mine. If you want to call me desperate and can't have a friendship without wanting sex then you are a liar. I do not know you but if you want to attack me personally then so be it. I do not care about your opinion of me since you do not know ME. Thank you. Uh, my two statements were completely non-related. Did you even say what I quoted? No; you just said that you think women need to have physical as well as emotional attachment for them to like a guy. I really don't see how you construed my second paragraph to be directed at you. The first statement was intended to clarify that your opinion was different from mine. The second statement was a preemptive strike towards the future posts that I know this thread will surely attract.
Yamaha Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 I supported a friend through tough times and he said that made him feel good and I get the feeling he is falling for me although I'm really not sure if he's just being really friendly. Now I find myself turning to him for support as well as it makes me feel good too. I'm afraid of where it may lead us to. It is common to become interested in someone when you are spending time talking and it makes you feel good. If you don't want this to happen or are afraid of your friendship if you want more than you need to talk to this guy and see if your both on the same page with your feelings.
Els Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 I supported a friend through tough times and he said that made him feel good and I get the feeling he is falling for me although I'm really not sure if he's just being really friendly. Now I find myself turning to him for support as well as it makes me feel good too. I'm afraid of where it may lead us to. It really depends on the individual. I've had guys who practically used me as an emotional tampon - the girl whom they can confide all their troubles and feelings about other girls to and get relationship-related advice from, but not the one whom they want a relationship with. Then again, I've also had guys with whom I bonded into a couple with, through initial emotional bonding. What do you really feel about him?
Yamaha Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 Uh, my two statements were completely non-related. Did you even say what I quoted? No; you just said that you think women need to have physical as well as emotional attachment for them to like a guy. I really don't see how you construed my second paragraph to be directed at you. The first statement was intended to clarify that your opinion was different from mine. The second statement was a preemptive strike towards the future posts that I know this thread will surely attract. If I jumped the gun I apologize. I have seen the gender wars on here and do not get involved so I guess I was thinking you were directing it at me. Sorry for the mis-understanding....
Els Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 No problem. I should probably make my paragraph separation clearer.
Author saiveca Posted October 31, 2010 Author Posted October 31, 2010 I think I really like him and it's scary. Lately when I call he often says stuff like "you make my day" or "thanks for listening". I feel like he's really encouraging an emtoinal connection but maybe I'm wrong?
Els Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 Try and encourage him, push it a little bit further and see what he does.
Yamaha Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 I would bet he likes you as well. Why not suggest seeing a movie and maybe grab his hand and hold it during a scary scene and see his reaction. Maybe you just need to get the ball rolling.
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