CJos Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 It sounds like she really wants to keep you on her string. She wants to know that you are at her beck and call. She's also teasing you and playing with you.Not nice. You are worth more than that. Stand up to her and let her know that you are done with her coming and going whenever she pleases and assuming that you will be there for her. You have a life and she hasn't chosen to commit to you right now so you are going to live your life. If you continue seeing her it will just confuse things. If she is worth it then let her know that you care but it's better for both of you to stay away from each other for awhile. Don't take her calls, don't see her,nada. Keep busy, keep your mind and body active about other things so you can get a better perspective. Figure out where you stand and what you want out of a relationship. Decide what was wrong with the two of you and what should be done to improve things. If you decide to meet up again after no contact for awhile, take it slow...... and talk about what needs to be different. Just don't let this girl keep yanking your chain anymore, ok?
9Lives Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Im in a similar boat. I love my ex to death. I would have done anything for her. She dumped me said she has been dating other guys. Its been two onths and now she wants to hang out all the time. We have intimate contact each time, kissing etc. and then she says were not getting back, but she contacts me everyday. Its hard but I have finally gone NC. Maybe one of the hardest things Ive ever done but I have to think of myself. Dont put yourself in a situation where you will get played! You will not lose her because you went NC. She will make it clear when she wants to get back with you. Go no contact for a little days longer than the most nc you have had with her so far. You'll be surprised how how much more she will want you. Then you probably wont want her cause youll realize its all sadly just a game. Were just a couple romantic dudes because of our upbringing. It may be good to harden up a little. Listen to Outkast (a love below). It helped me through this week. All I can tell you is "Miss love you and get with other guys" will screw you over again and again and again until YOU....not her You start putting her IN HER PLACE. When you take off the dunce hat, you will see her for what she is. Not saying she is a bad person. Not saying you treated her right when you were together BUT you cant LET people treat you like a second class citizen cause they will and tell you they love you at the same time. Whatever!!!
worlybear Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 She's messing with you. If she really wanted to establish a relationship (and it will be a new one, not a continuance of the previous 8 years) she would have had a proper conversation with you.(Not trivia about dog biscuits!) IMO you should see about changing your phone contract and getting the keys from her. If she seriously wants you, at least your being pro-active will move things on!!Good luck whatever happens.:bunny:
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