Dante311 Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 She broke up with her boy (with whom she is still in love) in july. She is flirtatious, but I took up this open case to see what happens. Well to make a really long, obnoxious story short.. she's been messing with my head because she is rebounding/hurt. She's hooking up with 3 other guys, and probably would've with me, but I told her right out that I don't outside of relationships now b/c it's bad news. ie, i don't want to be her little toy. I actually have a thing for this girl, stupidly. We text cute nothings back and forth like we were/are a couple... we're NOT a couple though. She treats me like her emotional rebound.. and at the start, she invited me over randomly one night. That same night is where I told her I won't fool around outside a relationship. She told me to go with it and what happens will happen... and I've been tolerant of this idea. I told her I don't want just a friendship with her... but she still sticks around. We don't hang out as friends... we're very flirtatious. Last night... text @ 3:30AM that she was in a girl fight (fist fight)... I didn't respond. I'm not her friend. She has friends. I'm not coming to her rescue like that knight in shining armor b/c until she extends her hands to meet my own... I'm not going to bend over backwards for her. She has tons of friends who'll do that for her. Stop sucking someone else's ****ing dick and just mine. I try to be nice... i try to be respectful, but honestly this is getting annoying. I have 3 other women (1 is older @ 36, 1 is 23 but a kid and not that educated, but that SHOULDN'T matter (but it does kind of to me...want someone on my level to be an ass about it), and 1 is 24, has a BS in biology but not that attractive and was told by my best female friend to STAY AWAY) ..The one girl I am totally into... is in love with her ex, stringing me along, but does like me (for now), and hooking up with two guys and I know about it. And she knows I don't want just a friendship. And as I've said arrogantly before.. I've got enough going for me that my confidence is high, but not cocky/conceited. I'm just an ass Should I not reply to her texts anymore? She is the office assistant (undergrad) in my department where I'm a graduate student... heh
stillafool Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I can't believe you haven't run away by now. This girl is still in love with her Ex and is using any guy she can to get over him or make him jealous. There are too many women in this world to put up with her sh-t! Why do you want this girl?
seekandfind Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I feel your struggle man. The one girl I've actually liked in the past few months is an immature freshman (in college) who loves to play head games and doesn't know what she wants. It really bothers me that I let myself start liking her like this, and after last night's shenanigans, I wonder if I should even talk to her again. But it freaking sucks because I miss that feeling of having passionate desire for someone and to have them reciprocate. I would say keep playing the confident DGAF card for a little bit, but pretty soon you are gonna need to lay it down for her, or just walk away. Otherwise it's just gonna end up causing you more pain.
Author Dante311 Posted October 30, 2010 Author Posted October 30, 2010 I feel your struggle man. The one girl I've actually liked in the past few months is an immature freshman (in college) who loves to play head games and doesn't know what she wants. It really bothers me that I let myself start liking her like this, and after last night's shenanigans, I wonder if I should even talk to her again. But it freaking sucks because I miss that feeling of having passionate desire for someone and to have them reciprocate. I would say keep playing the confident DGAF card for a little bit, but pretty soon you are gonna need to lay it down for her, or just walk away. Otherwise it's just gonna end up causing you more pain. Thanks all for the advice. Seekandfind, totally feel you man. Today is the FIRST day in 3 - 4 months I've had no contact with the girl. She hasn't texted me either so... yeah. I guess that's over. lol i'm going out with 3 hot girls tonight... 1 of whom I have a good shot at and is making me go out.
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