Funf Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I am notified a couple of times a week that some guy has added me to his favorites. I'd estimate that I actually receive a message from 10% of those guys. If I don't respond or tell them not I'm not interested, they take me off their favorites. Okay, I can understand that. But what I can't understand is the rest of the 90%. I've never heard a peep from them. Most of the time, these guys are a bit older than me and/or unattractive. Although all of my pictures are conservative, I have a funny feeling that these guys bookmark girls just to satisfy their solitary sexual acts. It disgusts me in a way, but hey, there's nothing I can do about it. On the other hand, one time I messaged a silent guy who put me into his favorites. He was in my age range and decent looking so I just wanted to see what would happen. He did respond to my message, we ended up going out on a date, and although we didn't click in person, I still had a good time meeting someone new and different. But what confuses me is that I was on his favorites for a long time before I messaged him. If he wanted to go on a date with me I don't know why he didn't send me a message earlier. When do you guys use the "add to favorites" option? Just to answer my question, I never use it. If a profile is appealing, I just send out a message and be done with it.
Leandro Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I don't do the "add to favorites" thing. If I'm interested in someone, I send them a message.
EricaH329 Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 This is a really good question, i'm curious to hear the answers myself.
LittleTiger Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 When I did the online thing, I added people to favourites if I was enjoying talking to them (I never made first contact) and wanted to find them again easily. I do know that a lot of guys, if not most, will 'favourite' someone who's photo they 'like'........ and yes, they use the photo for 'personal time'. If you don't want guys to do this, don't post any photo that makes them think 'sex'. Difficult with most guys I know but there are photos and there are photos.
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 It's not rocket science - when I'm browsing through profiles and I see one I like, but for whatever reason, I don't feel like immediately messaging them, I add them to favourites. That way, I don't have to browse through hundreds of profiles again in order to find them. It's no different to being on Amazon and adding something to your wishlist, if you'll excuse the rather tasteless analogy. As with my wishlist, I don't intend to buy absolutely everything on there, I may or may not bother messaging everyone on my favourites list. Quite often I'll add profiles which have good photos, but the author has yet to fill in any of the details.
Banker Chick Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I went on a date with a guy that had me on his favorites list but took forever to actually message me so I flat out asked him this very question. He told me a lot of guys do the "favorites" thing hoping that will spur the girl into reaching out to him. He said it's a way to throw out interest but not have a lot of risk. I don't know. I never message a guy that has me on his favorites list and doesn't reach out fairly soon. I actually delete them after awhile. I've also had guys I went out with continue to keep me on their favorites list even after it was determined we weren't going to be a good match. I think it's creepy.
DazednConfused Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I add to favorites sometimes because I either don't have the time to put consideration into the note I might send... or because it is a more subtle form of a "wink" etc. I hardly think there are many guys out there using pics from a dating site as a "spank bank" So you can rest easy on that score... Why do they seldom actually write? Perhaps they favorite you because they think/know you are probably out of their league, meaning to write, but never find the sack to do it; In my case, I often do get around to it, but more often, I use my limited time contacting one or two at a time that have shown some return interest... Don't sweat it, give em a look and like the guy you did go out with; drop em a note or favorite them back if you're interested... you will get a response then. The girl I'm seeing now favorited me w/o sending a note, she didn't even have a pic... but I sent her a note anyway. In this case it turned out to be the exception and she is very pretty, and didn't put up a pic to discourage the pervs and crazies from writing her. We've been ass-over-teakettle for each other for several months now. I said it on another thread, but sometimes taking a chance pays off... little to lose over a coffe or a drink. Don't be shy... all it takes is one... -Dazed
sanskrit Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 It's not rocket science - when I'm browsing through profiles and I see one I like, but for whatever reason, I don't feel like immediately messaging them, I add them to favourites. That way, I don't have to browse through hundreds of profiles again in order to find them. This. It's just a tool to quickly select profiles into a batch for later Emails. During online dating periods, I will rapidly go through 200-300 profiles and add 20 or so to favorites, then Email them later, usually five at a time.
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