vanek26 Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Hey guys. For those of us who have tried online dating, we know how frustrating and discouraging it can be. The main issue seems to be getting women to respond. There's so many of us guys out there going after the premium women, it's hard to stand out from the crowd. We're led to believe that filling out our profile thoughtfully and sending lentghy, intelligent messages will imrpove our chances. Well, I wanted to test the validity of this. Keep in mind, I am not an ugly guy. I'm actually pretty good looking, but am not a drop-dead-hottie. That's where my experiment came in. I contacted an old college buddy of mine who lives out of state and he agreed to get in on this. So here's how it works. My friend from school is (no homo) a great looking guy. He is tall, tan, built, trendy, and just generally good looking. So, I found some pictures of him and created a profile on PoF. I only wrote one sentence for his profile saying like 'hey i like to party and have a good time' and that's it. In the meantime, I properly filled out the profile on my personal PoF account and was thoughtful and interesting throughout. Next step, start messaging girls! On my own account, I would send emails to women being friendly, a little flirty, and incorporating things from their profile to show i read it. On his account, i'd say "hot pix", "wut up sexy", and crap like that. Well, the results are pretty much what I expected (and feared). For the messages I send, most of the girls will check my profile and then never respond. Some of them just say 'unread deleted' A few girls do respond, but most of them are very short with me and even act annoyed. What a world of difference on his profile! These same exact girls are responding 'hey, you're not too bad yourself . tell me a bit more about yourself!' Not ONE girl out of the 50+ I have messaged has responded to me and not him. Not a single girl! I plan to keep this experiment going but my conclusions so far seem to suggest that the best way to have success on these sites is to just increase your physical beauty.
D-Lish Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Big surprise that some attractive pics get more responses.
lenny Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Pretty discouraging that physical beauty wins out over substance and then everyone complains about the lack of substance!!!!!
D-Lish Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Pretty discouraging that physical beauty wins out over substance and then everyone complains about the lack of substance!!!!! Physical beauty isn't universal- what one person finds attractive, the next won't. But the attractive factor is the first test- so everyone on a dating site should have their best pics out there.
OceanGirl Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Personally, I wouldn't respond to a profile like no matter how hot the pics are. I also wouldn't respond to a guy who shows substance but is average looking or unattractive. To get really excited about a guy, I need both.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Online Dating experiment, hilarious results Just exactly what is "hilarious" about those results. They are exactly what anyone should have anticipated. Why did you even bother to act out the ruse?
dreamingoftigers Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 One thing to be considered is it is probably a different type of girl that would do online dating to begin with. Perhaps they were more looking for a cheap fling.
Green Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I once a long time ago did this expiriment myself... msgs like "you look like a good fck" and "you look hot in your pics" work wonders... seriously got a date out of sending a really hot girl something a long the lines of "we should fck" she msged back "thats kinda rude" and then I was like "how about a date tomorrow" and bam I had one. So maybe its less the profile pic and more the cool attitude. Next you should try changing ur profile to be like the other one and sending out short msgs like the other one with ur pic. Online dating is a really bad idea though. You get higher quality women and with a lot less work in real life by asking out girls you meet at (where ever) like malls, balls, parks, and libraries... u know women every where just ask them out
Disillusioned Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Go after the desperate women. That's against the rules. Never love the desperate... never mind that they might be helluva lovers.
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