ratingsguy Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 First off, my fiancee is always honest with me... to a fault, so I do not suspect anything is going on. But here's the deal. This guy breaks up with my now fiancee about 3 years ago. They were in a LDR and he broke up in an e-mail. When she asked what happened, he just ignored her and never wrote, called, anything. So over time she pines for him, but to no avail. Then we meet and start dating. She deletes him as a Facebook friend. A year later, we get engaged. Not too long ago she tells me that she's over him and was thinking about adding her ex as a friend again. I trust her, so I tell that I appreciate the honesty and that I was cool with it (and I was). Nothing happened for a while, but now this guy is acting kind of weird. Every time my fiancee posts something, he chimes in with a funny comment and they start a playful banter. I know she's not doing anything and is telling me everything, but this is starting to get creepy. She doesn't seem concerned. But every time I look at my fiancee's wall, I have to stare at this a-hole. He will interject on threads where I'm involved, too.... and I just want to say to this guy, "Enough. Beat it." I don't know if I'm overthinking this or if this guy is really trying to drive me nuts. I haven't said anything to him and don't plan to. But what do you suspect my fiancee's ex's motivations are? He knows he can't have her and she's deeply in love with me, so what's the deal?
JungleLover Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I could understand why they would delete the other guy's post but why would they delete mine? Anyway OP, hopefully you got the idea of what he was saying.
lenny Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Honestly ... I wouldn't worry about it. To me it sounds like since he wouldn't talk to her for a while at first, now he's over her and can be friends. Although breakups sometimes get complicated and messy, the guy is usually someone we can appreciate as worthwhile otherwise why would we have dated him in the first place - if the dating thing don't work, they were probably better suited as a friend and sometimes it takes a while to get there.
skydiveaddict Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I will never understand why anyone would be involved with the insanity of facebook or myspace. Someone's always worried about who is or is not on someone's "wall " , or who is or isnt a "friend" and for what reason. It's the biggest snitch community on earth. Go find a real life.
joeLove Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 Simply tell her how you feel about this whole thing. How old/mature is she? Sometimes, women don't understand that, simple things like that give men a bridge to them ...which a lot of good players will know how to take advantage of. Furthermore, if she thinks you are more important that her ex, she will deal with it ... the right way: meaning cut the ties. I'm reading some dangerous signs here ... no matter what she tells you ... Joe
Art_Critic Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 I trust her, so I tell that I appreciate the honesty and that I was cool with it (and I was). Isn't this all that really matters ? She hasn't changed or done anything and you are just irritated by him.. in all reality.. so what ? she is with you and not doing anything...
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