Grobyc Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 (edited) I've told one friend, But I told him I didn't want him to say anything. He asked when I was going to tell another friend of ours. I also have a friend who feels a bit off on a situations like this, so I guess I do care some about what my friends think. I've known her for a couple years but haven't met her yet. We have been dating for almost a month and a half now. Met her through a friend of mine. I'd like to tell people, but its that thing of people thinking im a loser or something. I don't know how to deal with this, any advice? Edited October 30, 2010 by Grobyc
LisaLee Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I would just tell them that you are talking to someone and you two are seeing where you can take your relationship. Which as long as you have not met her yet that is basically what you are doing. I met my SO online, but we met in RL twice before we became a couple. Even then, I did not tell any of my friends that we were an item until after we met again and confirmed our feelings for each other. We became a couple at the end of August and did not meet again until mid October. If she is only 3 hrs away what is the hold up of meeting her? I assume you have a car. I have to make a 3 hr drive to the airport. My car gets a little over 30 miles to the gallon and with gas being at about $2.54 (last time I checked in my state) it costs me less than $40 round trip. That's not too bad.
Author Grobyc Posted October 30, 2010 Author Posted October 30, 2010 (edited) I would just tell them that you are talking to someone and you two are seeing where you can take your relationship. Which as long as you have not met her yet that is basically what you are doing. I met my SO online, but we met in RL twice before we became a couple. Even then, I did not tell any of my friends that we were an item until after we met again and confirmed our feelings for each other. We became a couple at the end of August and did not meet again until mid October. If she is only 3 hrs away what is the hold up of meeting her? I assume you have a car. I have to make a 3 hr drive to the airport. My car gets a little over 30 miles to the gallon and with gas being at about $2.54 (last time I checked in my state) it costs me less than $40 round trip. That's not too bad. I'm dead broke. That's the hold up. The money I have goes to gas to get to school, its a 45 min trip one way to classes depending how fast I go. I mean yeah she's only less then 3 hours away but I just flat out don't have the money. I've only told one friend. The only reason I've said we were an Item, is because I've known her for a couple years, you know? We might not have met. But its not like we don't know each other. The main reason I told this said friend is so he would get off my back about getting laid. I'm not the kind of guy to go and have sex with some drunk chick at a party unlike him, I've never been that way. Plus Due to medical reasons I can't drink. Taking advantage of someone just isn't my style. Edited October 30, 2010 by Grobyc
LisaLee Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I'm dead broke. That's the hold up. The money I have goes to gas to get to school, its a 45 min trip one way to classes depending how fast I go. I mean yeah she's only less then 3 hours away but I just flat out don't have the money. I've only told one friend. The only reason I've said we were an Item, is because I've known her for a couple years, you know? We might not have met. But its not like we don't know each other. The main reason I told this said friend is so he would get off my back about getting laid. I'm not the kind of guy to go and have sex with some drunk chick at a party unlike him, I've never been that way. Plus Due to medical reasons I can't drink. Taking advantage of someone just isn't my style. Then it might be time to get a part time job for the extra $$$. I understand if you are in school... my SO's major is demanding of his time, so the work he does is more school related (for example working in the lab, proctoring an exam, etc). But I do think it is crucial you meet IRL to cement your relationship, the sooner preferably the better. Your friends don't need to know, just ignore them.
Author Grobyc Posted October 30, 2010 Author Posted October 30, 2010 (edited) Then it might be time to get a part time job for the extra $$$. I understand if you are in school... my SO's major is demanding of his time, so the work he does is more school related (for example working in the lab, proctoring an exam, etc). But I do think it is crucial you meet IRL to cement your relationship, the sooner preferably the better. Your friends don't need to know, just ignore them. I put in 6 applications at McDonalds. Called every day, talked to the manager more then 2 dozen times IN PERSON. I personally asked for her when I was there. They hired my sister and her boyfriend... Just put in one at radio shack, and one at walmart, so im going to pester walmart everyday until they give me an interview. Since Radio shack is fully staffed at the moment. I live in a small town, so its pretty tough to get a job out here. I'm trying though. I'll eventually talk to my said friend about not saying anything until I get down there. Which will be soon, for sure. I could probably swing the cash around christmas at the earliest actually. I don't have the time to leave my computer, as selfish as that sounds. I need it to do school work being in IT. :S Edited October 30, 2010 by Grobyc
Citizen Erased Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 LDR's cost money. If you can't afford gas money right now, how are you going to make this work in the future? You're going to face some crap from people about being in a LDR, learn to not care what they think.
LisaLee Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 (edited) You're going to face some crap from people about being in a LDR, learn to not care what they think. Yes, especially if you met her online! There's always that person who's going to make the "I can find someone without the internet" jab. Edited October 30, 2010 by LisaLee corrections
Author Grobyc Posted October 30, 2010 Author Posted October 30, 2010 (edited) Yes, especially if you met her online! There's always that person who's going to make the "I can find someone without the internet" jab. Well, I've had relationships without the internet too they really never worked out I was never able to be just my self. this one just kind of happened I've known her for a couple of years. We have always talked of going to see one another before anything happened. I didn't have my license back then though. had a job, just no car. I do know they cost money. I also have a high tolerance for not caring what others think, but friends yeah I do care what they think. They're my friends, I have to care somewhat. I almost always find a way to get money. When something comes up which requires cash, I find a way. I have found I could spare the cash to go see her. With school though, I cannot take the time to do so. Citizen. I'll make it work out as far as gas money. If i wasn't in school I'd have a full time job in a PC recycling center and if i don't pass a certain class, That's what I'll be doing. I'll have no choice due to certain scholastic circumstances. We're working something out. I'll get this all figured out. Edited October 30, 2010 by Grobyc
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