kuma Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 When my H texts me, he's nice and talkative. He usually hates to be questioned, but he has no problem answering my questions via text. And he can easily say "Sorry" via text. Is your husband the same way? It seems like my H and I can communicate better through text messages.
Woggle Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 I am not a wife but it might be because of the impersonal nature of texting. You don't see each other's faces or hear each other's voices.
Stung Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 I don't know about texting, but I often find it easier to express myself fluidly and thoroughly through a written medium, where I might feel uncomfortably put on the spot face-to-face--and I am a woman. I am a writer by profession, though, and have always had more trouble expressing myself emotionally in person. My husband is better at saying he's sorry than I am, most of the time .
Lauriebell82 Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 My husband is not a text fanatic, but he does text me on occasion. He usually calls me if he needs something, but talks for like 5 minutes because he hates talking on the phone. If we are having a serious discussion, or had a fight or something, we try to "make up" in person and not via text or phone. I'm going to have to go with Woggle that it is less personal and emotional talking via text because you don't have to see each other or hear each other. So if they are angry or mad you can't REALLY tell.
BellaBellaBella Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 we were having some martial issues. We actually realized if we went in different rooms and texted we were able to resolve some things easier. It was more straight to the point and less words. There wasn't all the anger.
Author kuma Posted October 30, 2010 Author Posted October 30, 2010 Thank you all for your posts. I agree with all of them. I was wondering because he's not the talkative type... Have a great weekend.
denise_xo Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 We're the opposite, I'm married to a stream of words and I'm the one who does better through text. I don't have any problems saying sorry, but I can be too conflict averse which isn't always very constructive:( BBB, really interesting post... I'm going to keep that strategy in mind
WonderingWhatIf Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I say go with whatever works the best for you. I know that when I am having a hard time bringing up a subject that bothers me, it helps if I send an email. That then sparks the conversation with us, and he is able to draw it out of me. I am doing my best to keep the lines of communication open for us.
lucylove Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 When my H texts me, he's nice and talkative. He usually hates to be questioned, but he has no problem answering my questions via text. And he can easily say "Sorry" via text. Is your husband the same way? It seems like my H and I can communicate better through text messages. Some people communicate better through written language than verbal, and it goes vice versa. The freedoms involved in written word often make people more open... I bet your hubby would make an awesome letter writer
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