Only 2 Months left to live :( ...Girlfriend dumped me...No Contact?

[mrbluenobody]

I've been crying off and on everyday for two to three weeks now. My girlfriend left because she is not "in love" with me. Is this hard to accept? Of course it is......I loved her and could see a future with her. At this time I can't see how I'm going to find anyone with all the great qualities she had. But you know what, she was missing the most important quality/trait (being in love with ME). It's like she didn't realize what she had right in front of her. She couldn't see she had someone who would love her and never let her down. But, I digress.

 

The truth is, no matter how much I love/d her. No matter how much I want/need her. Care for her or would go to the ends of the earth to make her happy..........She, in the end, doesn't feel the same way!

 

Yes, that's correct. Me....being "in love" with her....cannot make her "in love" with me. This is what we have to be willing to accept. That they feel their lives are better without us, the dumpee, in them. So, it is selfish and childish of us to continue telling them how we "feel", what we think, chase them or try to reconcile in any way. It's simply pointless. If there's ever going to be a chance they will want us back they will have to come to the realization on their own. By then, if we're healthy enough, we'll probably have moved on anyways.

 

I hope the title caught your attention.

 

What if??? Seriously, what if you knew you only had two months left to live??

 

Think about that for a moment. Contemplate it. Mull it over. Try and swallow it down. If you really feel the weight of it see if it doesn't get stuck in your throat.

 

What if you found out, after you were dumped, that you have two months left to live. Exactly 60 days.....not one more and not one less. How depressing would it be to know that you'll, most likely, never have a chance to fall in love again??? I see so many posters here who dwell on their loss, chase their X's further away and make their own lives more and more miserable day by day. That's right, some people, years later are still pining for their X that got away. I'm not trying to say you can pretend your X didn't mean anything to you or they won't always have a special place in your heart. But, the simple truth is, they no longer want us to be a part of their lives and feeling sorry for ourselves is only extending, getting stuck in and repeating stages of the grief process.

 

It's natural to grieve. It's healthy. Cry your head off. Let it all out!!! You're mourning the loss of someone close to you. It's not dissimilar to a death. And until you grieve properly (NO CONTACT) by accepting this person is no longer in your life (NO CONTACT) you will stay stuck in the grieving process and lose valuable time in your life. The quicker you accept your loss and ALLOW yourself to heal the more loves you will have during your lifetime and the more chances you'll have to fall "in love" again.

 

Now, what if you only have 2 months left to live? What if you were 95 yrs old? Think about these things before you waste anymore time in your life when you're blessed that you even have an opportunity to try and find love again.

 

 

Your Friend,

Mr Blue Nobody

Edited October 29, 2010 by mrbluenobody

[stopthemadness]

I've been crying off and on everyday for two to three weeks now. My girlfriend left because she is not "in love" with me. Is this hard to accept? Of course it is......I loved her and could see a future with her. At this time I can't see how I'm going to find anyone with all the great qualities she had. But you know what, she was missing the most important quality/trait (being in love with ME). It's like she didn't realize what she had right in front of her. She couldn't see she had someone who would love her and never let her down. But, I digress.

 

The truth is, no matter how much I love/d her. No matter how much I want/need her. Care for her or would go to the ends of the earth to make her happy..........She, in the end, doesn't feel the same way!

 

Yes, that's correct. Me....being "in love" with her....cannot make her "in love" with me. This is what we have to be willing to accept. That they feel their lives are better without us, the dumpee, in them. So, it is selfish and childish of us to continue telling them how we "feel", what we think, chase them or try to reconcile in any way. It's simply pointless. If there's ever going to be a chance they will want us back they will have to come to the realization on their own. By then, if we're healthy enough, we'll probably have moved on anyways.

 

I hope the title caught your attention.

 

What if??? Seriously, what if you knew you only had two months left to live??

 

Think about that for a moment. Contemplate it. Mull it over. Try and swallow it down. If you really feel the weight of it see if it doesn't get stuck in your throat.

 

What if you found out, after you were dumped, that you have two months left to live. Exactly 60 days.....not one more and not one less. How depressing would it be to know that you'll, most likely, never have a chance to fall in love again??? I see so many posters here who dwell on their loss, chase their X's further away and make their own lives more and more miserable day by day. That's right, some people, years later are still pining for their X that got away. I'm not trying to say you can pretend your X didn't mean anything to you or they won't always have a special place in your heart. But, the simple truth is, they no longer want us to be a part of their lives and feeling sorry for ourselves is only extending, getting stuck in and repeating stages of the grief process.

 

It's natural to grieve. It's healthy. Cry your head off. Let it all out!!! You're mourning the loss of someone close to you. It's not dissimilar to a death. And until you grieve properly (NO CONTACT) by accepting this person is no longer in your life (NO CONTACT) you will stay stuck in the grieving process and lose valuable time in your life. The quicker you accept your loss and ALLOW yourself to heal the more loves you will have during your lifetime and the more chances you'll have to fall "in love" again.

 

Now, what if you only have 2 months left to live? What if you were 95 yrs old? Think about these things before you waste anymore time in your life when you're blessed that you even have an opportunity to try and find love again.

 

 

Your Friend,

Mr Blue Nobody

Thats really mean to say you only have two months to live!!So ok we all read your thread. But still. Hope you dont get sick or something and die in two months...

[leftfield]

A rather sneaky way to get people to read the thread, but a valid point well made all the same. Stop grieving your grief and get on with your life. Bravo.

[strength-abounds]

When I first read the title, I thought to myself, "Jesus, that's sh***y to dump someone". Kudos on the attention grabber.

 

The point you made is a valid point. The healing after losing a love will make us better lovers and hopefully teach us not to take one da*n thing for granted.