haveyopick1 Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 If you have a fatty girl who is a friend, and you introduce yourself to a hottie and say "Hi I'm Joe and this is my friend fatty!" what is the hot girl thinking? Is she thinking "cool! he must be cool to hang with if fatty likes him!" or is she thinking "wow this is all this guy can get? he must be pathetic. Next!"...hmmm...
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Some friend you are. Hopefully any girl will see you and think "what a dick" and leave you well alone.
tigressA Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Some friend you are. Hopefully any girl will see you and think "what a dick" and leave you well alone. Quoted for truth.
seekandfind Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 (edited) If your friend is really cool and fun to be around, it could help you out. But if she is not that fun/cool, then she will most likely make you appear less attractive to some women. This is does not apply to everyone however. Some girls might not really care either way. Think about it from your perspective. If you know a girl who hangs out with this dude who is pretty lame, does that make her more desirable or less desirable? Now imagine her always hanging out with this guy who is very charismatic and fun to be around. It makes her more attractive yeah? Again, not everyone reacts like this, but a lot of people do. But to reiterate what other posters are saying, your attitude toward your friend is highly UNATTRACTIVE to 95% of women. Edited October 29, 2010 by seekandfind
Stung Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Some friend you are. Hopefully any girl will see you and think "what a dick" and leave you well alone. But to reiterate what other posters are saying, your attitude toward your friend is highly UNATTRACTIVE to 95% of women. +1000. I hope someday you manage to remove your head from your anus.
seekandfind Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 The problem was the way you said "Hey Im Joe and this is my friend fatty" as if you were making fun of her. And such euphemisms as "I have a friend who is on the larger side" do exist for use by the more educated poster...
AverageJoe Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 It is. I guess "fatty" offends the whales in here. Sorry whales. The pc crowd here will flog you like a mother hen if you dont be sensitive or a guy that cosistantly farts rose pedals. Dont sweat it. To your question. Are you a thin guy? I mean, when you two stand together does it look like the number ten? If so, this can get you varied results.
flying Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 From what I read, the scorn aimed at this thread wasn't just from people who might be considered PC. That probably says something. Seriously, dude, why are you bringing along a woman as your wingman anyway? And how does she feel about that? Does she think it's a date?
Feelin Frisky Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 I must say I'm encouraged by my LS contemporaries' reaction to this moronic thread. At what point does a "fat" person cease being a person and become "one of them"? How many pounds over weight before a person ceases deserving common decency? 10? 20? 50? Where's the line dufus?
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 The pc crowd here will flog you like a mother hen if you dont be sensitive or a guy that cosistantly farts rose pedals. Dont sweat it. To your question. Are you a thin guy? I mean, when you two stand together does it look like the number ten? If so, this can get you varied results. This has got nothing to do with so-called "pc" and everything to do with this guy being a classless simpleton.
allina Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 It is. I guess "fatty" offends the whales in here. Sorry whales. I don't know, as I am neither a fatty, a whale or offended I just didn't realize that a guy could be that much of an insecure loser that he fears rejection based on what his friends look like :laugh:
Surrealist Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 In this instance, I think OP hanging out with any 'chick' would raise his value - the only direction his value could possibly travel at this stage is up.
nddb Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 How about "Hi, I'm John and this is my friend Sarah." And if you are a true friend, your attitude should be "be nice to all my friends, including Sarah, and you and I will have problem" The problem here is you are looking at her as an object (a fat entity) and wondering how that object is best used in your plan to lure the "hot chick." And if your are worrying if anyone thinks you are desperate for hanging out with your friend, whatever shape your friend is in, you are too shallow to be a true friend. Signed: A guy.
wierdmunky Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 I mean, when you two stand together does it look like the number ten? If so, this can get you varied results. Btw, a girl called by any other name is still a girl.
AverageJoe Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 At what point does a "fat" person cease being a person and become "one of them"? Well lets face it, being fat, obese, rotund, pudgy what have you, is not attractive (of coures there are fetishes). In many instances it is a huge character flaw. They are most certainly still a person, just an obvious portly one.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Well lets face it, being fat, obese, rotund, pudgy what have you, is not attractive (of coures there are fetishes). In many instances it is a huge character flaw. They are most certainly still a person, just an obvious portly one. "Portly"? So what? Unattractive? So are ugly people. Obesity a "character flaw"? Only in the minds of people totally unqualified to judge. Obesity is not a "character flaw". Obesity is not a reflection of character nor is it a reflection of lower intelligence. Oprah Winfrey is a billionaire who has lost weight time and again right before the eyes of millions of people mostly women. She had every incentive to remain thin but her obesity won time and again. If you think anyone chooses that struggle you're dead wrong. You have no experience with it so you have no clue how it works. It's not that people habitually over-eat--that is just a subjective take on what's happening. What is more often happening is that afflicted persons do not have a natural "off switch" which turns off their eating mechanism. People who are naturally thin take this off-switch for granted as it being the way things are for everyone. Not so. Most people want the same things in the same proportions but some just wind up leaving food on their plates out of disinterest after a short bit, no one does this on purpose until they are old enough to understand issues of image and choose to consciously work on it. Kids do not posses this perspective a adolescents. The potentially obese have NO such regulatory impulse which turns off their connection with the pleasures of eating and have to instead police themselves to cease eating. Because society has been in denial about this and has allowed superficial judgments and mocking characterizations to perpetuate, people like yourself fall in line with the wrong impression and consider themselves somehow "character-superior". When one talks about "fat people" as if they have a script that calls for them to be fat, he or she proves no character superiority and demonstrates a character deficiency. One could ask: why don't you find out the truth about obesity? You're asking why the obese can't just be like you. Hell, the obese want to know why they have to struggle. Try to put yourself in the place of someone who hasn't been so graced by nature as to have to fight every day and every meal to achieve the illusion of normality only to have it slip away with the next encounter with food. It's not funny. Not at all.
lso802 Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 There's a girl I dislike who is overweight, and I wouldn't call her fatty. Yet, you're calling a "friend" fatty? Any girl worth dating, who notices the way you treat your friends, will be turned off.
AverageJoe Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Hey pal, whether you like it or not we live in a superficial world. And none of your crying is going to change it, that is the harsh reality. Are there physical traits I would like to change myself? You bet. I smoke, I grow disdain for it each and every day. But guess what? I have not quit yet and that is my own goddamn fault, no one elses, no one. I have the gift of choice and so far I have shunned it. Do you see me pointing at anyone else blamming them? Not a chance. Its a character flaw for me because I didnt have the correct judgement to begin with when I picked them up. What you just tried to do in your diatribe was to garner sympathy with an abundance of periphery laced anecdotal bull****. Am I sympathetic? If it is warranted for those that truely have a debilitating mental handicap. They need help, yes. You are in Opera's book club, you should know. For those that dont have the self discipline (such as my smoking) to take that fork out of their mouth I have zero sympathy for. And I expect no sympathy for me, either. You are right I dont know what it is like, because I pay attetion to what I eat, when I eat, and how much I eat. Ever seen the biggest loser? I watched that one season and not one contestant I saw was overweight because of a medical reason. They all admitted they saw it coming and did absolutely nothing about it. Their fault, not mine. So go ahead and manifest whatever fulcrum you feel necessary to blame some outside or inside metaphysical force for being over weight just to prolong delusions. Until then, you keep making those excuses, and I will light up a cig in the meantime.
florence of suburbia Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 "She would have said yes if only I hadn't been standing next to the fat chick."
johan Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I think one fat friend is ok. But if you have more than one, you risk being blocked from view, and that won't do your chances any good.
Leigh 87 Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I am a fairly vain and shallow person, but I would never hang out with a girl who was on the larger side of average, and refer to them as " my fat mate". Basically, what you are saying is that hanging out with a " fat" friend might make the " hot" girls think that you are nice for being able to hang around a " fat" chick. The only thing about a guys character that is evident when they hang out with certain types of girls, is this; I know of one super good looking body builder, and I doubt he spends much time with females, unless they are hot and he can see anything happening with. This leads me to believe that some very hot men, may not feel the desire to have many female friends, and derive enough from life without them; instead, they only bother with females when they are sexually interested in them. If the same guy I am talking about had female friends who were not " universally" very attractive, including a girl who was on the larger side, it would change my perception of him. Although I would not think " gee, he must be so nice to be able to make friends with a " fat" chick. I would simply think that " he is the type of guy who enjoys female friendships, he is NOT the type of hot guy that only bothers with the girls he wants to f*ck"
OceanGirl Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 It is. I guess "fatty" offends the whales in here. Sorry whales. No prob dude
Feelin Frisky Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Hey pal, whether you like it or not we live in a superficial world. And none of your crying is going to change it, that is the harsh reality. Are there physical traits I would like to change myself? You bet. I smoke, I grow disdain for it each and every day. But guess what? I have not quit yet and that is my own goddamn fault, no one elses, no one. I have the gift of choice and so far I have shunned it. Do you see me pointing at anyone else blamming them? Not a chance. Its a character flaw for me because I didnt have the correct judgement to begin with when I picked them up. What you just tried to do in your diatribe was to garner sympathy with an abundance of periphery laced anecdotal bull****. Am I sympathetic? If it is warranted for those that truely have a debilitating mental handicap. They need help, yes. You are in Opera's book club, you should know. For those that dont have the self discipline (such as my smoking) to take that fork out of their mouth I have zero sympathy for. And I expect no sympathy for me, either. You are right I dont know what it is like, because I pay attetion to what I eat, when I eat, and how much I eat. Ever seen the biggest loser? I watched that one season and not one contestant I saw was overweight because of a medical reason. They all admitted they saw it coming and did absolutely nothing about it. Their fault, not mine. So go ahead and manifest whatever fulcrum you feel necessary to blame some outside or inside metaphysical force for being over weight just to prolong delusions. Until then, you keep making those excuses, and I will light up a cig in the meantime. Hey pal, maybe you don't have to sympathasize with fat persons but don't pat yourself on the back for getting the free pass from nature either. You're not the standard by which all else should be judged. That's all it comes down to. No child makes adult decisions about food choices. So, people who have lack of an off switch to their food intake should not be characterized as possessing a "character flaw" as you painted it. They may have a parenting flaw and their parents may have had a parenting flaw. I'd have nothing to say to you otherwise about this matter and indeed, because you won't own up and want to be contentious, I have nothing further to say to you period.
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