seekandfind Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Really quick: It's super long (I found it hard to leave out details lol ) but I wrote summary at the bottom if you don't have time to read. So I have a good friend who generally gives me decent advice about girls. He's probably right, but I just want to hear what others have to say on this. I'm a senior in college and I met this freshman girl at a dinner event two Friday's ago. My friends and I invited her and her friends to a party that evening . At the dinner I could definitely tell there was some chemistry between her and I. She came to the party, and to make a long story short, I was right and we ended up hooking up (making out, some fondling, she stayed over at my place). I had to go work early in the morning, but I texted her on my way, just being a little flirty. We exchanged a few texts and then I had to work. Later that evening she texted me, and then called me because she couldnt focus on studying. We ended up hanging out later that night (sober) and then stayed over again (same thing, making out and fondling). I walked her home in the morning (Sunday morning). At this point I am starting to like this girl, definitely more than almost all the girls I've met since my ex and I broke up. Friday night at the party I told her I was gonna call her Sunday, but I figured since we hung out Sat night and I walked her home Sunday morning I didn't need to call her that day. I called her Monday kinda late, cuz I was busy all day. She mentioned the fact that I didn't call yesterday, which I thought was interesting, but it was a good convo regardless. I asked if I could take her out the upcoming weekend, but she was busy and so I told her I would call her later in the week to make plans for next week. Two days later (Wednesday), she texts me saying that she really needs a massage and what am I gonna do about it (I had told her earlier I give good massages, and that I would give her one). I told her I was in class, but could hang out for a bit later. We met up and studied for a little bit, and then made out and talked for a while. Also, we made official plans to go on a date not the coming Saturday, but the next one. She sounded excited for it. Then I walked her home because we both actually had a lot to do. The next night (Thursday) she was out partying, and she texted me drunk wanting me to come pick her up. I did and she came over and we hooked up for a while. Then she did something I didnt expect, she wanted to have sex. This girl is a virgin who has never even had a guy go down on her. I was like "We cant do this, your'e drunk, I just met you a week ago, and you don't want your first time to be like this". She tried to convince me, but she sorta realized that she wasn't ready for that. I did go down on her, and that alone was a lot for her to handle lol. I had work in the morning (I work Friday AND Saturday morning at 9 am, FML...). I texted her while at work asking her if she was enjoying my comfy bed, and flirted a little. We texted for a bit, but then she had gone back to her room and had to work on her essay, so I said I'd talk to her later. So everything is good at this point, it appears as if she is starting to really like me. There are a few funny things I have noticed tho. She is rather sassy, and will do things like "Oh I'm not gonna kiss you" and make me wait like 45 minutes before passionately making out lol. So she kinda likes to play silly games. But it's actually kind of a turn on and makes me want her more so I guess its working. And then also, on the first night while drunk at the party she did a few things that I thought were strange. She talked about how she didnt think I would call her or that we would hang out again (it wasn't in a needy way, it was just more matter-of-factly). And she made me work for like 90 minutes before she gave me her phone number. On Monday when I called her she talked about how she wasn't gonna sleep over again, because she wasn't that type of girl. But then she texted me drunk Thursday and slept over lol. That night, I tried fingering her and she sorta freaked for a moment. I was like "Okkkkkk, and you said you wanted to have sex??" But I was starting to like this girl, as she is cute, fun, and has a lot of personality. So I brushed these things aside. So now I have known her for a week, and she seems into me, and everything is good. The she starts pulling the bullsh*t. Saturday morning at like 11am, while at work, I texted her asking how the previous night was. I never got a response. I was annoyed at this, but there was nothing I could do about it obviously. Two days later, at midnight on Monday, she responds finally saying "Oh hey, it was good". I thought to myself WTF, what is wrong with this girl. I texted her "?". And she responds saying "i was responding to your last text". I was like ok.... and so i just played it off and started a conversation. She was being semi flirty, and I asked her to hang out with me the next night, and let me buy her ice cream (I had initially suggested she me swipe in for dorm food, cuz I don't live in the dorms and she does and she has extra swipes. but she got all sassy about that haha because she had already swiped me in last week so i suggested that we go out for ice cream). The next day (Tuesday), I bumped into her on campus, and she confirmed the ice cream date. Then she texts me at like 7 pm saying she is too far behind in studying for her midterm the next day so she has to cancel. I said something like "ok that is understandable. yeah midterms suck, I have all three of mine next week. What class is it for?". And for the second time NO RESPONSE. That was this week. Last night (Thursday) she texts me with the randomest thing, saying her sorority sisters were bringing a cake over to my house (in in a frat, she is pledging a sorority. Oh and sororities do things like it, bring cookies or yummy goodies over to frats, so its pretty normal, but her text was super random). So we had a slightly wierd convo about that, and she wasnt being flirty at all (not making any jokes, no smiley faces or such). I actually had alot of HW to do, and didnt feel like dealing with that BS right then, so I cut it short and said I had to go study. She replied "Later". One thing worth mentioning is how I actually haven't not initiated contact at all this week. Monday she texted me responding to my saturday text. Tuesday when she ignored my text, she had texted me first to cancel our date cuz she had to study (I understand that she might not have responded right away because she was studying, but to ignore completely? that is really lame). And then Thursday she texted me. I wasn't hitting her up because she was not texting me back. And I didn't want to seem needy. SUMMARY/SHORT-VERSION: I met this girl 2 weeks ago, the first week went really well, we hung out like 4 times, with her initiating more than me the hangouts/contact. She is kinda sassy and likes to play games a little. Which is attractive and fun, and so as long as its not overboard I find it to be a turn on. She started acting weird this past week, taking 2 days to answer one of my texts and ignoring another one. She sent me random text last night, wasn't sure to make of it, I had short texting convo with her and then told her I had to study. We have a date planned tomorrow night (I was there when she wrote it in her planner), but haven't talked about it at all this week.So I am trying to figure out what to do. Now what? I really have no idea what this girl is thinking. And I'm confused why she is acting so weird this week, when last week she seemed REALLY into me. She hit me up more often than I hit her up, and slept over 3 times. And then all of the sudden she is not replying to the texts, and just being weird. But her hitting me up last night confused me. I guess she could just being testing to see if I am still around, making sure if she wants to she can till have me. But who knows. I am willing to give her another chance, and I would like to go on that date with her tomorrow. But we haven't talked about it at all since last week. My friend says she's probably on the fence, or only kinda interested, and that I will have better odds if I don't call her at all today and just call her tomorrow morning, act like nothing is wrong, and confirm plans for that night. Does that make any sense? I really wanna know what is going on, so I have this urge to call her today and see whats up and confirm our date tomorrow. But I feel like he is right. And for those of you who say the games people play in the early stages are complete BS, yeah, guess what, I hate them too. But they happen for a reason. If you don't hit a girl up for a few days, she is going to wonder what you are up to, and will think "hmm why isnt he texting me! he must have an exciting life or other girls that he is talking". And people always want what other people want. A guy that a lot of girls like is much more attractive than a guy that no girls are going for. (maybe even only sub-consciously, but the sub-conscious is very powerful so don't underestimate it). What do you guys think of that? Is my friend right?
Author seekandfind Posted October 29, 2010 Author Posted October 29, 2010 (edited) Oh and for those who shall advise me to "eject", I know exactly what you are talking about, and I know there are plenty of other girls. There are actually a few others I could potentially start talking to, so I am good in that category. Right now I just want to figure out what is going on with this girl. Thanks!! Edited October 29, 2010 by seekandfind
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