guccichick Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 How do you tell if a man really loves you, and doesn't just say it to say it? My boyfriend tells me all of the time that he loves me, and I get plenty of affection, but being that I was in a relationship for 9 years before this one, and the other man would say "I love you".. and never meant it(he admitted it), how do I believe it?
carhill Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 IMO, value is assigned over time when the preponderance of their actions of care, compassion, affection and attraction support their words in a way which is *meaningful to you* . Having experienced disconnects in words versus actions with women, this is a hard-won lesson I've learned. If you ever face a life crisis, you'll know for sure.
Lauriebell82 Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Actions speak louder then words. Does your boyfriend show you he cares by his actions? Does he care for you if you don't feel well? Does he do something nice for you, even if you didn't ask him to? Does he make you feel special? These are signs of love IMO.
thatsonlyme Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 If you ever face a life crisis, you'll know for sure. Amen to this! This is exactly where my ex failed after 5 years together and numerous "I love you's" exchanged.
mysticmeg1 Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 i dont think there is any easy answer to your question.. all men are different and show affection in odd ways... i think the only way to tell is depending on how well you know your man and trust him, i dont think the expression ''actions speak louder than words'' is an accurate statement...as alot of men would shower women with gifts just to avoid these words..and having the conversation ''where is this relationship going'' talk!!!! in my expeirence i hesitated to let myself fall for any man after so many failed and disasterous relationships... if you suffer from any trust issues from a previous or current relationship..it wouldn't matter wether your man said it up to a 100 times a day..every woman has doubts.. and nobody can fix this but you!! you either believe it or not but i believe deep down every woman knows whos genuine and who's not..
machiavellian Posted November 3, 2010 Posted November 3, 2010 Beats me. I would say look at his actions, but if I did that in my own relationship, BF wouldn't come out very good sometimes. Example, I've had a low-grade cold and felt not that great for the last 3 weeks, and he never once asked me how I felt or did anything to try to take care of me or make life easier....but then randomly one morning he got up before me and made the coffee (which is probably my #1 thing, that he has done only 4 times the entire time I've known him). I guess you just have to relax and trust. Good luck.
goingstrong Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 GC, Are you kidding me? Be grateful he says it.
Feelin Frisky Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 There's "show". And there's "tell". "Tell" isn't the same as "show". Show = good. Tell = not as good.
carhill Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Show less tell = propensity to understand mime
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