Togagirl Posted March 4, 2004 Posted March 4, 2004 I posted in breakup as well, but looking for all possible advise. I'm living in my exs apt still. He thinks we should be just friends, I want more. How do I make living here more tolerable. I don't want to make him feel akward in his own house, but my heart is breaking. I also told him no fwb right now. I think that was a normal request, but his attitude seemed to change right after, he said he was just tired, but I sensed something more. Helo!!
Fofinha Posted March 4, 2004 Posted March 4, 2004 Move out! While you are still living there, with him, as his "ex"; NOTHING can truly be resolved.
Author Togagirl Posted March 4, 2004 Author Posted March 4, 2004 I just moved here, have a low paying job and can't afford to. He has been nice enough not to kick me out, but I don't think I'm a big enough person to live just as friends/roommates yet. I know noone else in the city, so I don't even have a friend's house to crash at.
overseas2004 Posted March 4, 2004 Posted March 4, 2004 You can rent a room in the city after opening the paper in a day or two and you know it. YOu want to stay because you are too weak to break up. By the way... I would rather be harsh and honest. I don't mean to be mean. I know what you are going through. My live in bf moved out 4 weeks ago and tore my heart up.
Author Togagirl Posted March 4, 2004 Author Posted March 4, 2004 Thanks for being honest, I need that. And you are somewhat right, in a way I think if we can just work on it, it might help things, but I'm most likely just prolonging this. This breakup is just too fresh and I'm having a hard time accepting it. Although being on this sight is helping me to see different perspectives. One moment I do want to work out, then I'll read something and think I can move on, and do deserve better. I'm way to confused
befuddled11 Posted March 4, 2004 Posted March 4, 2004 Seems he's very clear that he's not interested in any kind of relationship, other than platonic. You have to respect that. Why are you still living with him? Are you sure he wants you to remain living with him? I would think it would be very awkward to remain living with someone you're broken-up with. If you're "sticking around" hoping he'll change his mind and want a relationship with you again, I doubt that will work. In fact, if anything, it might create awkwardness and strain and tension between you two. Maybe I missed details about your past relationship/break-up from another post, but WHO initiated the break-up? How long had you been together? If I were in your shoes and a guy I was in a relationship told me he only wanted to be friends, I'd gather up my dignity and I'd find my own residence, and I'd move on.
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