mogul Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Lets say you meet a guy at a work function, through mutual friends on a night out, or a bar/club. Throughout the night, you guys seem to vibe and what not and exchange numbers. You text a bit through out the week, and you are indifferent about it so she can politely not respond if she wanted to. She keeps it going though. For the women of ls, how would you handle this situation if you wernt interested in the guy? Would you completely ignore the guy, or respond and ask questions or what not? Does the fact that she says she has a work project deadline but says she will call you after its finished with a smiley face seem like a blow off or sincere? Would you even say something like that to just be nice or ignore the person outright? Is it that hard to make some time or if you really were interested and had work obligations, you would say that? Thanks.
denise_xo Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Lets say you meet a guy at a work function, through mutual friends on a night out, or a bar/club. Throughout the night, you guys seem to vibe and what not and exchange numbers. You text a bit through out the week, and you are indifferent about it so she can politely not respond if she wanted to. She keeps it going though. For the women of ls, how would you handle this situation if you wernt interested in the guy? Would you completely ignore the guy, or respond and ask questions or what not? Does the fact that she says she has a work project deadline but says she will call you after its finished with a smiley face seem like a blow off or sincere? Would you even say something like that to just be nice or ignore the person outright? Is it that hard to make some time or if you really were interested and had work obligations, you would say that? Thanks. I wouldn't say that I would call if I didn't mean it, but there are probably other women who would. I have a dense work schedule so 'I'll get back in touch after deadline X' is something that I say regularly to my friends. In my current work situation, it is very difficult for me to make time for anyone around me and it affects how I'm interacting with people - I know that's ultimately an issue of choice, but that's the choice I've made and this woman could be in the same situation. 'Make time for someone' is relative in that situation. If I wasn't interested in continuing conversation with someone, I would write polite and closed rather than open messages, would not ask any questions, and would probably take a little while responding.
Titania22 Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 If I wasn't interested at all, I would not respond to your texts at all. And life is busy, so it can be hard to make time. I have that problem with space rather then time.
Author mogul Posted October 29, 2010 Author Posted October 29, 2010 Whats the time frame before it seems like a nice blow off? A week, a few days? Does it automatically put the ball in their court and should be seen as them not being interested if they don't contact in a few days?
carhill Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Have you asked her on a date? If yes, the process is pretty simple. Anything other than a 'yes' for a specific time and place is an unqualified 'no', unless modified by a specific counteroffer. Everyone's busy, save for the dead. A busy person who wants to date someone will know precisely what blocks of time in their schedule they will *choose* to make available. If someone has relinquished complete control of their life to their career, is that really someone you want to date/have a relationship/marriage with?
Author mogul Posted October 29, 2010 Author Posted October 29, 2010 Have you asked her on a date? No, it hasn't gotten to that point yet. More so just semi flirty/friendly banter. I'd just imagine if a woman wasn't interested, she wouldn't give out the number or even respond as it makes things simpler than to come up with a lie and say they'll call and not?
carhill Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 You have her number. Call her and ask her on a date. That really is all there is to it. She's not a guy you're going to be slamming beers back with while watching the game. If you want to spend time with a woman as a romantic partner, you must ask her on dates. Any questions?
Confusedalways Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 if this website has taught me ANYTHING- it's that a busy person *will* make time to date someone they like... it's just that simple. Carhill's advice is [as usual] spot on.
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