tbird509 Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 im off for about 3 more weeks and then i have to go back to work and see my ex 50 plus times a day,any good suggestions how to get over somebody you have to see everyday?any advice is appreciated..ive been doing no contact thing for 3weeks already,and yesterday i went into work to pick up my check and seen her,she was busy with a client but looked at me twice,the first look she gave was like a dear in headlights,and second was a glance,but anyways i realize im not even close to being over her...im still in love with her but i need to move on,any ideas on how when i see her 5days a week?
Banega100 Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 alright man. you avoid her as best you can. But when you see her acknowledge her, be cordial, whatever. Time is the only cure here. Even if it seems absolutely impossible right about now.
andys Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 im off for about 3 more weeks and then i have to go back to work and see my ex 50 plus times a day,any good suggestions how to get over somebody you have to see everyday?any advice is appreciated..ive been doing no contact thing for 3weeks already,and yesterday i went into work to pick up my check and seen her,she was busy with a client but looked at me twice,the first look she gave was like a dear in headlights,and second was a glance,but anyways i realize im not even close to being over her...im still in love with her but i need to move on,any ideas on how when i see her 5days a week? I'm in the same situation, to make it worse, she's with another guy who works with us now, so I have to see them both. In all honesty, at least I know it's over, but sometimes I have to work directly with her and it brings back all the feelings, to be honest, I'm looking for a new job now Lesson learned, don't date/fall in love with people you work with.
skydiveaddict Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Good luck to both of you. I couldn't handle it. If it were me in your shoes, I'd be looking for another job
TLCbear Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Good luck to both of you. I couldn't handle it. If it were me in your shoes, I'd be looking for another job I absolutely agree.
Fern Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 That doesn't even bear thinking about. Complete NC is the only thing that makes me feel OK at the minute and I'm nearly 4 months out of the relationship. Good luck!
Author tbird509 Posted October 29, 2010 Author Posted October 29, 2010 well i found out she's hangin around with some guy,so that gives me alot of motivation to be done,it does suck,but theirs nothin else i can do,ive tried taking 2 other girls back after we split and they dated other people and its never the same.me and this girl had a connection,but drifted apart over the last year but split in sept,so i know i need to move on,just wasnt sure exactly how when im still in love with her,but knowing she's going on dates with different guys,kissing them etc.makes me say f*** it.it couldve worked out but she gave up,not matter what,she still has to see me everyday also,and she'll beable to tell im movin on and dont care anymore,and thats usually when they come back.also,when i start dating,and she hears about it,even if she is completely over me,she isnt gona like it and i know that for a fact
andys Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 well i found out she's hangin around with some guy,so that gives me alot of motivation to be done,it does suck,but theirs nothin else i can do,ive tried taking 2 other girls back after we split and they dated other people and its never the same.me and this girl had a connection,but drifted apart over the last year but split in sept,so i know i need to move on,just wasnt sure exactly how when im still in love with her,but knowing she's going on dates with different guys,kissing them etc.makes me say f*** it.it couldve worked out but she gave up,not matter what,she still has to see me everyday also,and she'll beable to tell im movin on and dont care anymore,and thats usually when they come back.also,when i start dating,and she hears about it,even if she is completely over me,she isnt gona like it and i know that for a fact That's the attitude, but do these things for you, not to get at/bother her. I'm looking for a new job too, it might be an idea for you as well?
Author tbird509 Posted October 29, 2010 Author Posted October 29, 2010 im only the only person that matters at this point,i just snapped out of it yesterday,if you really wana move on,sooner or later after putting in a good effort,i just realised f***k it,its not worth it anymore wondering about her and someone else and feeling like ****,for me though,ive been off of work with an injury for the last 3weeks and wont be going back until 3 more weeks,so i had this plan to write her a letter and mail it to her,but i ripped that up and realized it doesnt matter what she thinks.just look at it this way,if she doesnt wana be with you,theirs nothing you can do about it,and theirs alot of other girls out their that do,so ill be back to work with a new attitude and sooner than later she'll realise i dont care,and thats when she'll second guess herself but by then,i already have enough ammo to use against her with her dating other people,and if she doesnt try coming back,it wont matter cause i wont care anymore
BlueMoonshine Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 im only the only person that matters at this point,i just snapped out of it yesterday,if you really wana move on,sooner or later after putting in a good effort,i just realised f***k it,its not worth it anymore wondering about her and someone else and feeling like ****,for me though,ive been off of work with an injury for the last 3weeks and wont be going back until 3 more weeks,so i had this plan to write her a letter and mail it to her,but i ripped that up and realized it doesnt matter what she thinks.just look at it this way,if she doesnt wana be with you,theirs nothing you can do about it,and theirs alot of other girls out their that do,so ill be back to work with a new attitude and sooner than later she'll realise i dont care,and thats when she'll second guess herself but by then,i already have enough ammo to use against her with her dating other people,and if she doesnt try coming back,it wont matter cause i wont care anymore Beautiful Tbird....just beautiful! I actually wrote the post below before reading your last post, so I'll post anyway. --------------------------------------------- DO NOT LEAVE YOUR JOB for a woman. No woman is worth that....ever! I was in EXACTLY the same situation as you....I f**ked one of the crew, then got jammed...read my post history - it's all there. I was gutted....really and truly...crying and feeling sorry for myself. It hurts when you get dumped, when you lose control, when you get replaced by someone else. Meh.... So I know exactly what it's like to work with someone who you once had feelings and emotions for...to see them every 5 minutes...it's a killer So what helped me get over it...a couple of things....finally realizing she was with another helped big-time (what's left to hang onto right?). But TIME as well....time of passage...right through it...not around it....right through the heart of it....and you'll be surprised how quickly it takes to heal. After 2-3 weeks of feeling sorry myself, I started hitting the gym even harder...and going out here and there...with work mates and friends....then I went on a date even though my heart was still in the past. But I forced myself. Think positive!....then on a 2nd...then on a 2nd with both of the first two...flirting, drinking, good food, good atmosphere, laughing....YEH BOY!!! The tonic of life! Then I started chatting to other girls....guess what - 4-5 weekends passed and I'm back baby...I'm backkkkkk! The mojo is back and the confidence is off the richter scale. Once you take the ex off the pedestal and realise how much female beauty is out there, life is friggin amazing. So don't quit your job....it probably pays your rent or mortgage...you might even work for a good company or have great work mates...f**k her! Peace!
skydiveaddict Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Good points, no woman is worth that I agree. It's just a matter of how much bs you are willing to take, in my opinion. Some times you can be so hurt by a relationship that moving on is the best idea, but of course it all comes down to choice one way or another.
Author tbird509 Posted October 30, 2010 Author Posted October 30, 2010 moonshine is right,i couldnt agree more,i was moping for these last 3weeks staying home with injury,and all of a sudden,i shifted my thinking and realised why would i want her back when she went on some dates with someone else,i agree with the fact that their is way to many women out here,the gay population is increasing and i dont mind cause theirs more options for me.everyone thats stuck with a heartache,just realise you should never let anybody else control how you feel,no matter how much you love them,dont get me wrong when i go back to work,its not gona b a blast,but im in a way better mind frame so im good,fffffff**** her... and thats wuts up
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