l39jet Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Here's one that is perplexing me.... I met a girl 3 weeks ago and the first date was amazing. The next week I was gone on a business trip, but she text me non-stop. She said how she was not sure most of the way through the date that I liked her and she found that hot. We had ended the evening with a very passionate kiss and teasing. She also had said how she bores with guys real fast, but she was really excited to have me spoil her and couldn't wait to see me when I got back. She text the night before I came back how I had such control over my reactions and she loved it. I got back, we went out to dinner and had an amazing evening, ended up at her place cuddling and talking over some wine. I left, we kissed passionately and she said how she couldn't wait to go away somewhere with me. Immediately she became "swamped" in work, text me only occasionally and then took off to her moms for a vacation. When she did text, it was a mix of "cool" and then moments of "flirting" and talking about intimate feelings. We had dinner the other night and had a good time chatting, she had her hands on me from time to time and cuddled a little. Nice kiss and then good night. She is definitely over worked and working till late at night on her work. She seems torn between total devotion to work and wanting to get away and have a life. So am I just wasting my time? Is she already bored with me? Is she just overwhelmed and trying to focus. When she does snap out for a bit she seems really into me. But she did say she got in trouble for all of the texting and time she was spending communicating with me. She is a verrrrry driven career lady. Is she just not into me that much and I just need to move on? Any input would be helpful. Thanks, l39jet
Sabali Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Here's one that is perplexing me.... She said how she was not sure most of the way through the date that I liked her and she found that hot. We had ended the evening with a very passionate kiss and teasing. She also had said how she bores with guys real fast, but she was really excited to have me spoil her and couldn't wait to see me when I got back. She text the night before I came back how I had such control over my reactions and she loved it. I got back, we went out to dinner and had an amazing evening, ended up at her place cuddling and talking over some wine. I left, we kissed passionately and she said how she couldn't wait to go away somewhere with me. What I've read about her raises red flags for me. She bores with guys real fast means she runs through them often like a maneater. She wants you to spoil her raises concerns for being high maintenance and in my experience, can be quite materialistic. Three weeks and she is already talking about going away somewhere with you leads me to think of moving too fast, possibly rebounding off of another relationship and/or getting you to pay for a nice warm vacation. I suspect she is cold one minute and hot the other because she maybe not over someone else from her past or you are too up in her face. Do you know anything about her last couple of relationships? If you don't know, don't ask. It will only screw with your head and your relationship with her. Don't smother her. What I say is to not be tempted in moving fast by her. Take it slow. This is always a great idea and a really great one in this instance. You will bore her if you call too much, text too much and try to see her too much. You want to cook this one slowly and allow it to unfold at your own speed. Let her be cold and hot. When she is cold, back off; when she is hot, take advantage of the moment. You primarily stir this thing but it will be a delicate operation, I assure you. The most important thing is to cook it slowly.
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