Cmoney2769 Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Ok so my ex is the love of my life, however having that said I broke up with her almost a year ago, because things were not going very well after I got caught cheating on her, biggest regret of my life. If there is one mistake in mylife I could change would be that one right there. So for about four months after that I broke up with her because things had changed, which is a given when a womans heart gets broken the way I did hers. After I broke up with her she kept in contact with me a couple of months later, and lord be hold here we are again in the talking stage lol. We started talking again in April, I went to go visit her on her birthday in May, I took her out on the 4th of July (her favorite holiday), and even tried moving out by her, she is about 150 miles away, however that didnt workout either. Come to find out during all of this time she is seeing another guy, whom "she says" she is not sleeping with. I could not take it any more because she kept saying that she did not want a boyfriend at the time, but still wanted me in her life. I know I messed up the biggest way you could mess up in a relationship, but I am trying and would never do it again, I love her so much. So a few weeks after that she called me saying she misses me, she was sorry, she is not seeing that guy any more, etc, etc. So this weekend me and my friends were supposed to go to the raiders game, and party in San Francisco the night before, well turns out some of the guys couldnt swing it so we arent going to go saturday night. At the moment I am unemployed, recently unemployed and am trying to do anything I can to get employment, and am enrolled in colege. So I tell her I can buy her a ticket and pick her up on the way there, she tells me she doesnt know where she will be staying that night yet, she would have to pull an all nighter at that poing because she would be up so late, and we are planning on tailgating me. So after the novel I just wrote my question is, do I have the "right" to be upset with her because she is not willing to meet me half way, no expense to her, and also that I had the money to personally get up there and cover expenses but I just needed at least one person to help with hotel costs, which she might end up doing any ways, should I be upset? do I have the right to be? She is mad at me that I am upset that she doesnt care that she wont get to see me this weekend, that she isnt lending a hand for me this weekend, or that she is not willing to meet me half way on the raider game?
BackUpOrGetStung Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Why don't you cut all the bull**** and get to the real problem? You ****ed up, you admitted to it, and you suffered for it. Don't let her think she can just do what she wants now. I think you should tell her that you want things to progress toward the relationship again and you're not going to be there for her, if that's not what she wants. Tell her not to contact you again unless she wants to date. It may push her away, it may bring her closer, but either way you will have your definite answer and you'll know you're not wasting your time. Personally, I wouldn't trust her.
Author Cmoney2769 Posted October 28, 2010 Author Posted October 28, 2010 When I found out that she was seeing the other guy it was the end of August, and I had told her then that I understand we cant be official just yet, but if I could at least be treated as the guy she is "talking to" or "into", and she called me back 3 weeks later she called me saying she misseb me blah blah blah, now me being unemployed has a lot to do with this because she has learned to like a little higher class style so I am just hurt and confused. By the way no offense but are you a man or woman.
BackUpOrGetStung Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 (edited) I'm a man. Most women would say you should be castrated, lol. Don't fall for any "I miss you" bull****, she just wants comfort. The other guy probably ended it with her, why else would she wait 3 weeks. I think you're at the point now, where you need to put your foot down, so you're not wasting your time, as she probably thinks she has the right to treat you anyway she wants after "what you did to her". You should tell her that the current situation isn't working for you anymore, and you want a committed relationship again, or you're moving on. Personally, I think you should just move on, because she is going to justify any behavior of hers with your past cheating incident and she'll probably cheat on you to get you back. Either way, you need to tell her, relationship or nothing. Edited October 28, 2010 by BackUpOrGetStung
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