Old dating profile--create new one?

[Funf]

I created an account on Match a while back but deactivated it once I was seeing someone. A few weeks ago, that ended and so I resurrected my old account. I've updated my profile and added recent pics, but I can't help but wonder if my account is being passed over because it is old. I have to admit that I'm guilty of doing that sometimes with guys. I'll see that he's had an account for a long time and I'll move onto the next one because I'll wonder if there's something wrong with him and that's why he's still on the site after all these years. But then again, he could be just like me who created his account a while back and recently returned.

 

I was thinking about deleting my account and creating a new one with a different username but same profile info. Would that be weird or appear sketchy? I tried searching online for opinions about this but couldn't find any.

 

What are your thoughts when you see that a profile has been around for a while?

[D-Jam]

I created an account on Match a while back but deactivated it once I was seeing someone. A few weeks ago, that ended and so I resurrected my old account. I've updated my profile and added recent pics, but I can't help but wonder if my account is being passed over because it is old. I have to admit that I'm guilty of doing that sometimes with guys. I'll see that he's had an account for a long time and I'll move onto the next one because I'll wonder if there's something wrong with him and that's why he's still on the site after all these years. But then again, he could be just like me who created his account a while back and recently returned.

 

I was thinking about deleting my account and creating a new one with a different username but same profile info. Would that be weird or appear sketchy? I tried searching online for opinions about this but couldn't find any.

 

What are your thoughts when you see that a profile has been around for a while?

 

First off, I think you and anyone else who would judge a profile based on how old it is needs to rethink that logic. Even now you're seeing that just because someone has had a profile on a dating site for a long time doesn't mean they're some loser or have some issue. I don't even look at those who get into their mid-20s and never had a date or sex as possibly "strange", but also likely "they prioritized other things".

 

I think you should simply tell the truth. Start off saying you left for a bit when you started dating someone, but it didn't pan out so you're trying again. Make it sound positive like you believe in love and such and try to avoid any of the "negative" things we talked about in that other topic.

 

Still...you and many others need to stop seeking out these insane litmus tests to reject people. I heard about those questions on POF where they ask someone what the longest RL they have had was, and you know anyone who puts down a small number will get rejected...regardless if they are commitment-phobic or just not good at getting dates.

 

That kind of picky logic is why more people lie on dating sites. We've hit the issue where people worry about results over honesty. Where they craft their profiles to get them replies to the emails, and then worry about the honesty and "looking for a true match" as they are on the date.

 

To me, rejecting a profile based on its age is about as bad as when a guy would reject a beautiful woman because she was once obese. Meaning he wants a girl who has never been fat and thus believes she will never "blimp out". It's like people in their 30s and 40s rejecting single parents, beliving no matter what the reason, they are all "damaged goods".

 

Open your mind up...meet people...and change the cycle that's made online dating such a mess. Reading these things makes me happy I'm not single, but also makes me believe I'd never try online dating ever again if I were to end up single again. At that point I'd rather just stay alone and hear the constant comments of "you're such a great guy, why aren't you dating?"