rebeccajones Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 There I said it! I'm tired of feeling this way! I feel stuck! I was happy enough with him, why did I push for more?? I can make do with less can't I? I'm like waiting for something to happen, for him to talk to me, his birthday is coming up, he will be returning from overseas soon (vacation). I'm just thinking how something will happen, we will talk. He will want me back. We will love one another but better. Another scenario is that he could hate me, be in love already with someone else and tell me to **** off, that I am mean, demanding or we could just keep moving on without talking at all!!! Ugh! I'm kind of pissed, sad, so many emotions it is hard to focus these days! Some guy wants to take me out, I made out with someone, but I'm just not feeling it YET. VENTING VENTING VENTING VENTING VENTING VENTING VENTING VENTING VENTING VENTING VENTING VENTING VENTING !!!!!!!!!
alwayshoping Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 you've got to love venting! you could always try right? did he dump you? or you dump him? I want my ex back! God its hard other people never seem to compare but i think sometimes we build them up in our heads! try seeing him because you never know your feelings may have changed for him and when you speak you might feel nothing there too! (although i doubt it! If i met my ex i would be like a lovestruck puppy).
pandagirl Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 (edited) Aww, OK. Deep breaths. What you're feeling right now is panic and emotion, both of which will subside. I go through the same thing. The other night, I felt miserable, missing him and thinking my life will never be the same without him. Fast forward a few days later to the present day, and now I'm feeling like I don't need him in my life and I'll be able to move on. It's an emotional roller coaster until it normalizes, which takes TIME. Remember, you had a good reason to break up: you want kids, he doesn't. That's a HUGE dealbreaker. Others may disagree, but when you do eventually get to that "stable" place, and you still feel like asking him for another chance, then you can ask him. Because even if he says "no," you'll be ok just the way you are without him. Edited October 28, 2010 by pandagirl
Author rebeccajones Posted October 28, 2010 Author Posted October 28, 2010 Yes I will take time, need more time. Good advice girls. I'm glad you are good today Panda! It is a roller coaster! AlwaysShopping it was a mutual dump I guess, I started it though. Thanks friends!
havehope Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 I'm sorry you're going through this. When my ex and i first separated, I thought I wanted him back because I missed him. But then I realized it wasn't true. Maybe you miss who you thought he was, miss what the relationship had, or even more, miss being in a relationship, once its over. And then you equate that with wanting him back. I could be completely wrong on that, but I thought it was something to consider because in time thats what I realized happened to me. I also think that maybe when a breakup is fresh, feelings of missing him are completely natural/normal. Things will get better. Stay strong!
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