dep78 Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 (edited) I will try and make this short.....I met my wife while we were each going thur a divorce..she was married for 20yrs to her husband and they have three children together. We moved in and the relationship was awesome..a year or so later she told be she was moving out because she thought she didnt give her husband a chance before divorcing him. She was gome for 6 weeks before calling me and saying it didnt work out (she wouldnt stop seeing his gf). We got back together and married. About two years ago the same think happened again..this time she got an apartment and the two of them moved in together..same results..he didnt stop seeing his gf. I told her at the time things wouldnt work out for them because people change and it wouldnt be the same...she called me and said I was riht and wanted to come home..I agreed. Now 2 weeks ago this same stuff happens again. She said she stillhas thought s about him and she isnt sure she ever loved me like a wife should. I told her she never gave herself a chance to love me because of those thoughts in her mind about her ex..she agreed. Believe it or not this is the most fantastic person I have ever been with..I loved her so muc h even after all she has done to me..I care for her deeply and dont wnt her to hurt. I told her she needed to speak to someone about her feelings and that I couldnt help her, that she need to help herself..she refused. S he has been gone about 2 weeks now staying with a friend. I decided to go NC with her after the first week as I could see begging and whining to her was making her mad. I know she needs counseling for her behavior and thought process. Couple days ago she texted me asking about our insurance and how much therapy it covered. She also asked who (therapist) I had been seeing as she wants to go there. I never thought she would see someone about this. She said she is a mess and apologized to me for being so toxic, I really want to see her get better and look at me and see what kinda of a life she could have with me. I know it would be easier to tell her to stay where she is..but I love this woman with all my heart and dont want to give up on her. Her children are so mad that she made this move and they have told me that want to come home and dont want to see thier mom and dad back together...Dad hasnt had any contact with the kids for over two years. Thought? Edited October 28, 2010 by dep78 adding
kaycstamper Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 She's been cheating on you with her ex, time and again, and you want to chance going through MORE? I'd cut her loose, she's a serial cheater, doesn't matter with who or why, she doesn't have healthy relationship boundaries. She'll do it again. You are just the fall-back-on guy footing the bill. Wake up, for your own sake! I'm not trying to be mean, I'm trying to spare you MORE heartache to come.
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