Pyro Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 What do you fine people think, do, or say in order to really motivate you to accomplish something? I've lacked it lately and need to snap out of it.
JamesM Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 An impending deadline. Simple as that. Much as I try to get things done without deadlines, I find that it is difficult. When I feel that I have all of the time in the world, then I simply cannot get motivated to get something done quickly. When I know that it has to be done by (date), then I feel the urgency to get it done. So I set deadlines for myself and make them feel urgent. This works best for me. And I usually tell people about it so that I will feel foolish if I don't make it. If you haven't watched Zig Ziglar, then watch him talk about Goals....
TouchedByViolet Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 For me it really depends on what I am trying to accomplish. Somethings like cleaning, taking care of my car, grocery shopping I naturally just tell myself to do them and it gets done. Occasionally i look forward to them too. Troublesome things; like mowing the grass, lifting weights, and some work projects I need others to push me a little or somehow dig deep internally to start doing them. It's like a mental game I play with myself... lol Sometimes I even give myself a treat after doing a lot of work. Essentially give immediate positive feedback to my constructive actions. Life is strange though, sometimes I couldn't careless about everyone and everything and then nothing gets done.
florence of suburbia Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Well, there's the old trick I've mentioned here before -- tell yourself you only have to do the activity for five minutes and then you can stop. Usually once you get in the groove you'd rather keep going.
skydiveaddict Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 What do you fine people think, do, or say in order to really motivate you to accomplish something? I've lacked it lately and need to snap out of it. Join the military. (no joke)
Citizen Erased Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Join the military. (no joke) He will do no such thing. I like what James said, works for me.
JustJoe Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 I'm surprised that now that I'm a civilian I have the same problem. In combat, motivation is provided by the enemy. I'm fortunate that as an educator, the motivation is provided by my students. In other things, like work around the house, I'm bone idle.:laugh:
JustJoe Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 He will do no such thing. I like what James said, works for me.Why not, CE? Don't you wanna see him in uniform? LOL
Author Pyro Posted October 29, 2010 Author Posted October 29, 2010 The military is not in my future. Making bogus deadlines is a thought, but lets see how seriously I take them.
JustJoe Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 If they are bogus, how seriously do you think you will take them, Pyro? Unless you're a greedhead, the motivation should come from striving to excel in whatever field you occupy. Don't you think?
Author Pyro Posted October 29, 2010 Author Posted October 29, 2010 If they are bogus, how seriously do you think you will take them, Pyro? Unless you're a greedhead, the motivation should come from striving to excel in whatever field you occupy. Don't you think? Hence the eye roll. I'm not sure how it would work. Motivation is easier said than done.
JustJoe Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Well, as I said , I've always had built-in motivation, except the more mundane tasks, so I feel for you. But wouldn't it be sufficient motivation to look forward to and prepare for your up-coming nuptuals? That alone should motivate you professionally as well, getting your career on track, so you can provide for the little CE/Pyros to be?
JamesM Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 The military is not in my future. Making bogus deadlines is a thought, but lets see how seriously I take them. It cannot be a bogus deadline. It has to be real. You are right...if you think of it as something that only you are beholden to, then it won't work. If you make it more of a public thing, then it may. Example...I have a few things around the house that need to be done. We have considered selling our house a few months down the road. Suddenly, I find myself accomplishing more than I ever had. Why? Because I am faced with a possible deadline. Is it actually a real deadline yet? No. But it works. I am motivated by the prospect of moving on to a better home (I assume.) You....the possibility exists (or probability) that CE and you will be together here in the US. What do you need accomplished before she gets here? How do you want her to view you? If you don't get motivated to get (fill in the blank), how will this affect your life with her? Motivation ultimately must come from within, but we all know that outward events usually get us moving quickest. So self-motivation may need some pushing by outward events...even if we don't really feel the push from them...yet.
Citizen Erased Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Guess I'm not that inspiring, he didn't reply.
xpaperxcutx Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Guess I'm not that inspiring, he didn't reply. You can always give him a good push in the right direction.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 A smart lady once said to me when I asked her for advice on this subject, "Discipline is remembering what you want." When the small tasks of the day are just pieces of a bigger and more significant picture, I find that I do them with much greater ease and enjoyment.
skydiveaddict Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 (edited) I still say the military is a good option, how do you know it's not in your future if you don't explore the possibility? Defending your country is a high honor (Apologies to CE) Edited October 30, 2010 by skydiveaddict
Author Pyro Posted October 30, 2010 Author Posted October 30, 2010 Guess I'm not that inspiring, he didn't reply. What did you suggest? I still say the military is a good option, how do you know it's not in your future if you don't explore the possibility? Defending your country is a high honor (Apologies to CE) uh no thanks. The highest honor for me is to marry the girl That I love. Also my friend came back from overseas with PTSD and has been unable to find a steady job. Kind of turned me off from ever joining.
Green Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Women are a good motivator. I often tell my gf "you are my energy." Why not use you're woman as a motivator. (like how you'll lose her if you don't acomplish things)
Stockalone Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 What do you fine people think, do, or say in order to really motivate you to accomplish something? I've lacked it lately and need to snap out of it. What has changed since you last were motivated? And is the lack of motivation job-related or a more general feeling that includes other areas of your life, too? I don't know if you and CE are still LD or if you already live together. If you are still LD, maybe it's a combination of stress (dealing with bureaucracy so she can move to the U.S.) and missing her that causes you to be less motivated than you usually are. As for me, I have always needed an external incentive, because without that, I am a minimalist who lets his life run on autopilot. That's not a problem as far as work is concerned, though, because the autopilot can get the job done. As far as life is concerned, I always needed a goal to believe in, something that was "bigger/more important". The military worked for me, as did sports. But the best motivation by far, was having a gf who loved me. Nothing ever made it easier for me to endure the intricacies of life with a smile on my face, than knowing that there is someone to come home to who is worth all the blood, toil, sweat and tears along the way.
Author Pyro Posted October 31, 2010 Author Posted October 31, 2010 What has changed since you last were motivated? And is the lack of motivation job-related or a more general feeling that includes other areas of your life, too? I don't know if you and CE are still LD or if you already live together. If you are still LD, maybe it's a combination of stress (dealing with bureaucracy so she can move to the U.S.) and missing her that causes you to be less motivated than you usually are. As for me, I have always needed an external incentive, because without that, I am a minimalist who lets his life run on autopilot. That's not a problem as far as work is concerned, though, because the autopilot can get the job done. As far as life is concerned, I always needed a goal to believe in, something that was "bigger/more important". The military worked for me, as did sports. But the best motivation by far, was having a gf who loved me. Nothing ever made it easier for me to endure the intricacies of life with a smile on my face, than knowing that there is someone to come home to who is worth all the blood, toil, sweat and tears along the way. I think the job has part to do with it. I work nights and need to worry about school the rest of the time. Working days is ideal but I have to take what I can get. Also this is the first steady work that I have had since 2006. I really did struggle the past 4 years financially. In general I haven't been too passionate about many things so I'm sure that is part to blame. FTR the visa process is under way for CE to move here.
allina Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 Motivation to do what? Sometimes I need motivation to work out. I like signing up for races to keep me motivated. They are so much fun, extremely rewarding and give me something to work for. At work? It's purely to gain money and respect. I hate to say it but I hate having to work, I'm not motivated, I always feel like slacking off. I tell myself that I have to be there so I might as well do my best so that I get raises/promotions. What area are you lacking motivation in? You could use CE as motivation. She's giving up a lot to move here, you'll want to work hard so you can show her a good time. Plus, front row Muse tickets aren't cheap. If you're not motivated to stay in shape just remind yourself that she is moving here to bang a hottie not a fatty with a gut :laugh:
Author Pyro Posted October 31, 2010 Author Posted October 31, 2010 Motivation to do what? Sometimes I need motivation to work out. I like signing up for races to keep me motivated. They are so much fun, extremely rewarding and give me something to work for. At work? It's purely to gain money and respect. I hate to say it but I hate having to work, I'm not motivated, I always feel like slacking off. I tell myself that I have to be there so I might as well do my best so that I get raises/promotions. What area are you lacking motivation in? You could use CE as motivation. She's giving up a lot to move here, you'll want to work hard so you can show her a good time. Plus, front row Muse tickets aren't cheap. If you're not motivated to stay in shape just remind yourself that she is moving here to bang a hottie not a fatty with a gut :laugh: The working out is no problem. I gained a gut and am working on losing that before I hit Bondi Beach......and of course because CE will not be with a fatty. Its school work mostly. Its a mixture of being exhausted from work and also because I work nights and also just a general lack of desire for school right now. I love history but to do the all the assignments is challenging right now. I should've maybe taken a mental break from school but I would have to start paying back the loans which I am in no shape to do right now. I have always been a procrastinator. Its not by choice but it seems to happen, so perhaps it will all work out but in the process I will fret and have many sleepness nights/days in order to finish on time.
Green Posted November 1, 2010 Posted November 1, 2010 The working out is no problem. I gained a gut and am working on losing that before I hit Bondi Beach......and of course because CE will not be with a fatty. Its school work mostly. Its a mixture of being exhausted from work and also because I work nights and also just a general lack of desire for school right now. I love history but to do the all the assignments is challenging right now. I should've maybe taken a mental break from school but I would have to start paying back the loans which I am in no shape to do right now. I have always been a procrastinator. Its not by choice but it seems to happen, so perhaps it will all work out but in the process I will fret and have many sleepness nights/days in order to finish on time. so are you having trouble with undergrad histroy classes? Stop crying and just get er done. Are you a wimp, classes are easy especialy if its a subject you like... and you want to be a professor... cmon man snap out of it
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