worlybear Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Had a massive reality check this weekend. Briefly, I was taken ill and rushed to hospital where I had leaking, gangrenous appendix removed. I came very close. And who was there for me? My sons,family and friends. Friends took my daughter and my dog, and sons were with me 24/7. There was no contact from STBXH at all -not even an email later, hoping that I felt better. It has been an epiphany. I know see that he REALLY doesn't care and I'm o.k with that and know that my family are priceless in comparison. He will never have the "riches" I enjoy.
thatsonlyme Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Good for you, I hope you get well. It's even worse when they actually care! Why the f**k did they leave then?
mickleb Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Sorry it took gangrene to get you there but glad you made it to the other side! x
WTRanger Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 That really says a lot about someone. Despite the BS or the past, if any of my ex's had a situation like that, I'd at least offer help because while we may not have worked out I at least care about them as human beings. It's funny how you can easily accept it when it is so black and white like this.
florence of suburbia Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 I wonder if this is why you had that sense of forboding, remember? You said it was a premonition of your ex husband's impending death? Maybe the dread was really your mind-body response to the infection. So you were in danger, not your ex.
stopthemadness Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Had a massive reality check this weekend. Briefly, I was taken ill and rushed to hospital where I had leaking, gangrenous appendix removed. I came very close. And who was there for me? My sons,family and friends. Friends took my daughter and my dog, and sons were with me 24/7. There was no contact from STBXH at all -not even an email later, hoping that I felt better. It has been an epiphany. I know see that he REALLY doesn't care and I'm o.k with that and know that my family are priceless in comparison. He will never have the "riches" I enjoy. Maybe they didnt know about what happened? Are you sure someone told them? Maybe they thought youd read more into it then there was? Maybe they said a prayer for you, you just didnt know it? Am just saying....Glad your feelin better..
Author worlybear Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 Maybe they didnt know about what happened? Are you sure someone told them? Maybe they thought youd read more into it then there was? Maybe they said a prayer for you, you just didnt know it? Am just saying....Glad your feelin better.. STBXH has now sent an email hoping that I am feeling better and that he presumes sons and my friends helped out with 9 yr old whilst I was in hospital and was there anything he could do?....... I actually had suggested to my daughter (when I was waiting to go to hospital )if she would consider seeing her Dad (I was desperate to get there) but she is adamant she wants nothing to do with him. She pointed out that he hadn't bothered to see her before and she was not staying with him and his new partner/partner's daughter. Luckily friends of mine looked after her. Sent back a polite email thanking him and said I would let him know if he was needed. (Not this century!) Made me wonder though what would've happened to her if I hadn't made it. My sons are adamant that STBXH would not be allowed to take her and they would look after her, but I'm not sure of the law.
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