sagetalk Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 1. So I thought I would put it to the men and women of LS: Men, what do you think of curly hair? Ladies, if you have curly hair, have you had any trouble getting a guy wearing it naturally, or otherwise experienced anti-curl bias? 2. As a personal note: I have naturally very curly hair; while I wear it straight/wavy most of the time, all the guys I've dated have seen it in its natural texture and have had no complaints. Several have preferred it. Rich women usually have straight hair (no idea why). Curly hair is great, but wavy is my favorite, straight is great as well. The most important thing is the length to me. I want to see it at least touch the shoulders or it's a turn off. 2. In all honesty they are probably spending way more time looking at your body.
Stung Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Rich women usually have straight hair (no idea why). . Because they have it straightened, because of a supposed cultural consensus that it's more sophisticated or professional. I agree with your point number 2.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Generally, straight hair takes way more products and styling than curly, so it's in the interest of the beauty industry to promote $traight hair over free and curly. I'm straight-haired myself, but I love the way curly hair looks all wild and free.
LisaLee Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 If you look in my profile there's a pic of my mom and I. It's hard to tell, but that is her hair in its natural state, which is wavy/curly. That is how my hair is, and I really hate it, it is very hard to manage. On days that I am not lazy I straighten it. My mom is very proud of her hair (and my hair by default) and she doesn't understand why I prefer it straight. One day when I was straightening it she got aggravated with me and said: "Don't you know most Koreans pay big money to have hair like that?!?" Other people seem to like my hair, it is where I get most of my compliments, but I feel like I look better with it straight.
tkgirl Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 I was just reading an article about "The Millionaire Matchmaker", Patti Stanger, who bashes curly hair. She has been quoted several times saying things that reveal a clear anti-curl bias (even saying, "If you want to keep it curly, go to Israel"), and is convinced that men as a whole do not like curly hair, and prefer long, sleek, straight hair. So I thought I would put it to the men and women of LS: Men, what do you think of curly hair? Ladies, if you have curly hair, have you had any trouble getting a guy wearing it naturally, or otherwise experienced anti-curl bias? As a personal note: I have naturally very curly hair; while I wear it straight/wavy most of the time, all the guys I've dated have seen it in its natural texture and have had no complaints. Several have preferred it. that's the most ridiculous thing I've heard in a while... that Patti chick is crazy! and probably the last person I myself would take advice from on what a man "wants". If a guy is that shallow to reject me because of my hair then good riddance! BTW... my hair is long... sometimes wavy and sometimes I straighten it. I've never dated a guy that had a problem with however I decide to wear it... if he did then we would both have a problem!
Maggotface Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 My natural hair is curly and crazy looking. I love it and guys either like it or are neutral about it. Don't get comments when I straighten it. Sorry bout typos, it's late and I don't feel like checking for 'em.
Awesome Username Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 that's the most ridiculous thing I've heard in a while... that Patti chick is crazy! and probably the last person I myself would take advice from on what a man "wants". If a guy is that shallow to reject me because of my hair then good riddance! BTW... my hair is long... sometimes wavy and sometimes I straighten it. I've never dated a guy that had a problem with however I decide to wear it... if he did then we would both have a problem! I don't think she's agreeing to it, as much as she's telling it like it is when she's setting up rich men. Rich men want the cream of the crop, stripper looking young women. I think that she's being so blunt because that's literally how shallow these men are. Here's the difference in my mind: If a woman asks a man, "What woman are you looking for?" he is going to state his playboy model, media-induced preference for an exotic girl with tan skin and long straight hair. If a man is walking down the street and instantly feels chemistry with a woman, she may not be that idea he described to the matchmaker but he still chemically falls in love/lust with her (and for a while, she becomes his new ideal!). I could tell a matchmaker that I prefer a tall man with light eyes and brown hair with a straight nose who makes a lot of money, is buffed, and dresses well. In reality, the men I've actually fallen for have been almost the exact opposite: mostly short guys with a medium-high income and is a hoodie and sandals kind of bro. Considering this, I'm not offended that most men don't describe me as their "ideal." Maybe their ideal would change if we met - who knows?
OceanGirl Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 I could tell a matchmaker that I prefer a tall man with light eyes and brown hair with a straight nose who makes a lot of money, is buffed, and dresses well. In reality, the men I've actually fallen for have been almost the exact opposite: mostly short guys with a medium-high income and is a hoodie and sandals kind of bro. Considering this, I'm not offended that most men don't describe me as their "ideal." Maybe their ideal would change if we met - who knows? Yeah, I have a clear preference for tall, dark haired, light eyed, olive skined, young and well built men. That's what I look for when I am browsing dating profiles. But then, I was obsessed with my boss for 4 years. He has reddish hair, ilight skin, is barely 5'8", is 10 years older than me, has narrow shoulders and a pot belly and is overall very average. If I saw him on a dating profile - I wouldn't even look twice and would skip him right over. That's one of huge problems with online dating - there is no way to tell if there will be chemical attraction in person.
Awesome Username Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Yeah, I have a clear preference for tall, dark haired, light eyed, olive skined, young and well built men. That's what I look for when I am browsing dating profiles. But then, I was obsessed with my boss for 4 years. He has reddish hair, ilight skin, is barely 5'8", is 10 years older than me, has narrow shoulders and a pot belly and is overall very average. If I saw him on a dating profile - I wouldn't even look twice and would skip him right over. That's one of huge problems with online dating - there is no way to tell if there will be chemical attraction in person. I totally agree!!! I found out that a guy I had a huge crush on a work years ago had a profile on okcupid and...didn't necessarily get many replies. I was astounded. I don't date people I work with so I didn't pursue it, but it absolutely blew me away. I had hearts over my head around him. Hahaha!
tkgirl Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I don't think she's agreeing to it, as much as she's telling it like it is when she's setting up rich men. Rich men want the cream of the crop, stripper looking young women. I think that she's being so blunt because that's literally how shallow these men are. Here's the difference in my mind: If a woman asks a man, "What woman are you looking for?" he is going to state his playboy model, media-induced preference for an exotic girl with tan skin and long straight hair. If a man is walking down the street and instantly feels chemistry with a woman, she may not be that idea he described to the matchmaker but he still chemically falls in love/lust with her (and for a while, she becomes his new ideal!). I could tell a matchmaker that I prefer a tall man with light eyes and brown hair with a straight nose who makes a lot of money, is buffed, and dresses well. In reality, the men I've actually fallen for have been almost the exact opposite: mostly short guys with a medium-high income and is a hoodie and sandals kind of bro. Considering this, I'm not offended that most men don't describe me as their "ideal." Maybe their ideal would change if we met - who knows? oh, I know the OP wasn't agreeing to it at all I just wanted to give my 2 cents about the whole ridiculous idea that these "men" don't want to date anyone with curly hair and the Patti chick suggests if you do have curly hair you better change it... or move to Isreal! if I had curly hair this would really offend me... rather than just irk me a whole lot! the whole "millionaire matchmaker" giving advice on how to get a man.. I mean really? then again I'm not in the market to become anyone's "trophy wife"... I want a guy that loves me for me and not just how I look on his arm!
Citizen Erased Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I think I'm going to curl my hair for when I go out tonight, thanks guys
tinktronik Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I naturally have Shirley Temple curls and men have always loved them. When I straighten them, my male acquaintances and any man I've ever been involved with, have always wanted me to go back to my curls. Most of the men I've been involved with have found curly hair to be incredibly sexy. I spent a few years flat ironing and straightening my hair but really have realized that my curls when treated properly and nourished appropriately are beautiful and sexy.
Banker Chick Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I have thin, baby fine hair so I don't have a lot of options when styling my hair. Like a lot of others here, when I wear it shorter and with more body I get tons of compliments from women. When I wear it longer and straighten it, I notice a lot more attention and compliments from men. I often wonder if it isn't so much the hair as the fact when I straighten my hair it's usually because I am taking extra time to make a good impression .. i.e. I have a conference that day, a presentation to make or maybe my top boss will be in the office. Because I'm trying to make that good impression, not only am I straightening my hair but I'm also wearing my best outfit, spending extra time on my make up, wearing my killer heels and just all around feeling more confident. I imagine I project this confidence to others, namely men.
EasyHeart Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 This is absolutely absurd. Is there no end to the ridiculous things women will argue about? It makes absolutely no difference if your hair is straight or curly. None. Most of us probably couldn't even tell you if a woman's hair is straight or curly. We can tell the difference between really blonde and brunette, and we can tell the difference between really long and short, but that's about it. You give us way too much credit.
Manda45 Posted October 31, 2010 Posted October 31, 2010 I have curly hair and I get the same reactions most of you have gotten. Girls like my hair curly and guys like it straight. My friends think I'm crazy when I tell them I get treated differently depending on how my hair is and I'm glad other people with curly hair notice it too. Most of the time I leave it curly just cause it takes way too long to straighten it and I don't want to damage my hair all the time.
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