valpre Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 I've never straightened my hair, but I still get checked out plenty. I'm not sure if I could 'improve' my ratings by changing things, but I guess I just don't care that much. I like me. Same here. In fact, I get lots of compliments from guys who say they love my hair. My hairdresser decided to straighten it once and I hated the way I looked, didn't feel like me. My curls are part of my character. Patti sounds lame.
Awesome Username Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Most guys like straight hair more than naturally curly hair. Almost every man I've been with has asked me to straighten it more (I say no). However, I think that every man who has ever loved me has told me that they like it in its natural state. This speaks volumes, because often when people are in love they admire just about every physical quirk the individual has. This is my hair in its natural state (with gel): http://i16.photobucket.com/albums/b17/_April_Young/curlpril.jpg In reality we have more options with our type of hair than most women do because we can straighten it, and it will still have body. I want to see how long my hair will grow - super long curly hair is awesome. If a man wants you to straighten your hair he's looking for a feminine physical ideal, not you. Most men, no offense, are not worth changing yourself for. By the way, there are tons of tips and topics like this one on naturallycurly.com. If you haven't been there, you must go! While looking for this pic on my photobucket, I found pictures of me and the Indian ex. Siiiiiiigh. It makes no sense that I had such feelings for a little fling of a relationship. I can't believe I'm still sad about it. Anyway, I've noticed that when I straighten my hair more guys ask me for one night stands, which to me are pitiful no matter how good looking a man is. when my hair is natural, more men want to get to know me because they actually assume I'm smarter (two men have told me this). In reality, it's stupid that hair makes such a difference in how you're treated, but it really does.
Andy_K Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Long hair beats short hair, and long wavy/curly hair beats long straight hair. Awesome Username's above looks cool. How amazing does this look? http://www.curly-hair-styles-magazine.com/picture-of-wavy-hair-01.html
Feelin Frisky Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 My hair at age 17. Eat your hearts out girls.
Awesome Username Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Long hair beats short hair, and long wavy/curly hair beats long straight hair. Awesome Username's above looks cool. How amazing does this look? http://www.curly-hair-styles-magazine.com/picture-of-wavy-hair-01.html That look is awesome! However, it is not and does not look like naturally curly hair. In order for a naturally curly haired girl to get her hair to look like that, she has to first straighten it and then curl it again with an iron. I think that this is the type of curly hair that guys say they like the most, and indeed it looks amazing. However, it takes a TON of time to do.
In The Green Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Here's two pictures of gorgeous actress Alexa Davalos. One is with "straightened" hair and one is her being her bouncy young self at home. She knocks me out either way but the straight hair is an "acquired look" whereas the other one isn't. I guess I should have said aquired look instead of acquired taste. http://i12.photobucket.com/albums/a242/RareBird0/alexa99992.jpg http://i12.photobucket.com/albums/a242/RareBird0/alexa990.jpg Alexa has goddess hair, I've always loved it. Did you see her in Feast of Love years ago? She kept it curly for that role and she looked beautiful. She has a rare head of hair though.
loverofloveandstuff Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Take that to imply "straightened" hair as opposed to straight. If a woman has naturally curly hair it is usually more appealing to me as a symbol of natural energy than the same woman who has her hair straightened to look like a personae in naturally isn't. Of course women with naturally straight hair a plenty beautiful and appealing too. Straight hair often means thinner hair however and therefore many heads of straight hair don't hold perms all that well. As a generality, it's easier for curly haired woman to straighten hair than straight haired to become and stay curly (unless they have thick straight hair). No? Yeah definitely. I got a perm once and it didn't last at ALL. Probably a good thing that it didn't last because it looked pretty funny on me. Wish I had thicker hair!
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 I was just reading an article about "The Millionaire Matchmaker", Patti Stanger, who bashes curly hair. She has been quoted several times saying things that reveal a clear anti-curl bias (even saying, "If you want to keep it curly, go to Israel"), and is convinced that men as a whole do not like curly hair, and prefer long, sleek, straight hair. So I thought I would put it to the men and women of LS: Men, what do you think of curly hair? Ladies, if you have curly hair, have you had any trouble getting a guy wearing it naturally, or otherwise experienced anti-curl bias? As a personal note: I have naturally very curly hair; while I wear it straight/wavy most of the time, all the guys I've dated have seen it in its natural texture and have had no complaints. Several have preferred it. Straight and Thin is fairly attractive. Adding loose curls or waives is better. Natural loose curls often is very attractive as well. However, tight curls are generally unattractive. It looks like a giant frizzy mess.
quankanne Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 what a GORGEOUS head of hair, frisky ... I'll bet girls (and their moms) were just itching to run their fingers through it! funny, the only ongoing discussion I've heard about the curly/straight hair situation is that among women, who tend to hate what they've got. Men, on the other hand, really seem to take stock in hair length – you know, preferring long locks because they're just sexier, wavy, curly OR straight! I love waves and curls, as that's my natural hair condition, but I really admire those girls with long, straight hair. Most likely because my will never, ever do that on its own
Crazy Magnet Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 I actually had one guy tell me that he only thought I was attractive with straight hair....NEXT! lol That guy had a lot of growing up to do. I hate to tell him, but when it's 100% humidity outside, my hair is going to curl no matter what I do to it. He didn't seem to get that. Other than that it's been a mixed bag in terms of what men prefer. Those I have dated and whom I have loved have liked it both ways. My hair really drives me insane sometimes, but I wouldn't change it for the world. I wear it both ways to work but when I have to love very professional I dry it straight and pull it back. I once had a comment on a presentation I gave that my "hair needed to be fixed" but it was one of those 100% humidity days and it was near the end of the day. What did she really expect?
Author tigressA Posted October 28, 2010 Author Posted October 28, 2010 AU brought up an interesting point...a lot of men do seem to like the look of waves/curls in the image that Andy K posted, but they don't realize that that really does not come naturally to most women. Again, another case of men not knowing/understanding what it takes for us to look beautiful. But then again, perhaps it's better if we keep the mystery, eh ladies? This is me in my various styles... Loose curls/waves: http://lh4.ggpht.com/_J2vyKhLeFC4/TA8Lj7cFzMI/AAAAAAAABJQ/QcengECwUQ8/s512/n39903597_31572410_955.jpg Natural tight curls: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/picture.php?albumid=348&pictureid=2952 Straight: http://lh3.ggpht.com/_J2vyKhLeFC4/TA8JuNFHicI/AAAAAAAAA9I/g-7yebQumKY/s512/3021_534042143500_39903597_31826825_7531961_n.jpg I was wondering a little bit about the difference between curly hair on women and on men. It would seem that curly hair on men is generally more admired than it would be on women. I myself prefer a wavy/curly head of hair on a man. Thoughts?
tman666 Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 I looooooove wavy hair on a girl... Small tight curls aren't really my thing though. Reminds me too much of someone out of a late 80's aerobics video. I don't really care for straight hair on most girls.
2sure Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 I think she probably just goes by marketing research... Currently if you show a bunch of men pictures of attractive women with both hair types they pick the straight haired girl as GF material and the curly haired girl as "a fun friend". Who knows why and its just a trend anyway. In other marketing research, pictures of straight haired women were perceived as more style conscious, more organized, more successful. I love curly hair.
D-Jam Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Bear in mind Patti is supposedly a matchmaker for the high wealthy bachelors who generally are seeking out a trophy. I do remember her being mentioned in another article or interview where she runs into the problem that she'll have loads of single, beautiful, intelligent women to introduce to these men, but the men are looking for "younger and easier"...then complain later how they can't find Ms Right. In terms of "curls", I think Patti would say this because the men she's generally servicing are looking for the model-types. They value looks over everything. In the real world, I don't think guys are that adamant on it all. I personally think (and agree with) that most guys are "eh" on short hair over curly hair. Meaning they would reject a woman who chopped all her hair into a "guy cut" over the girl with long curly hair. I know many women with curly hair and they're all pretty. The hair is a compliment because they wear it well and take care of it...but it's many more qualities that make them attractive to me.
Stung Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 My hair is very thick and naturally wavy/curly, and I have never received anything but compliments on it. I've had men tell me that one of the reasons they approached me was because of my hair. I almost never straighten it because I am way too lazy and besides, I love my hair and don't want to damage it. If some guy told me I should get up an hour earlier every day because he thought I would look better with different hair I'd give him the boot. I mean, seriously? My hair got a lot curlier during pregnancy and has stayed that way, and my husband thinks it's adorable. He loves to wind my curls around his hand and pull my head back to kiss me. I work as a 'creative' now so my hair is never an issue. I get it well-cut and keep it healthy and shiny and tangle-free, that's professional enough IMO. Back when I worked in corporate, I would twist it into a quick bun every morning, but that's because I was going for sexy librarian chic.
flying Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 My hair is very thick and naturally wavy/curly Yes, please never change your hair! I like to live vicariously through awesome hair. Wish mine was curlier. Mine's quite thick but mostly straight...when I go to the stylist I ask them to thin it out a lot to reduce tanglage and allow it to express its miniscule waviness. I got a perm once. Just did NOT look good. But then, that was back in the '80s, so the odds of looking good were seriously against me anyway. Ah well.
GorillaTheater Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 I can't speak as to the general preference, and I have no idea who this Patti person is, but I love curly hair. My wife has a head of natural curls that won't quit.
how2forgive&2forget Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 My hair is wavy. When I had it permed, girls loved it. Whenever I straightened it, guys would tell me how much they like it straight.
eerie_reverie Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 I feel that get far more interest when my wavy hair is straightened. I think it makes me look more polished overall. However, my ex and a couple of guys who had crushes on me preferred it natural/ curly.
Stung Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Yes, please never change your hair! I like to live vicariously through awesome hair. Wish mine was curlier. No plans to! But we all just want what we don't have, right? I know I've had true redhead fantasies. I've never noticed any particular difference in male attention if my hair was curly, straight, or up in a bun while I'm wearing my glasses--I only notice a difference in male attention if I'm wearing a low-cut blouse, or bright lipstick. Not too surprising.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 To me curly hair on a woman is just eye-catching. If I look into a room of mixed company and peruse the field, I don't consciously look for curls, something just registers on me when I see them. I guess it's like one of those evolutionary visual cue things--hair with bounce and body projects vitality. I'm just talking about a momentary take though. There's no writing anyone off the sexometer for hair curls or straightness (unless it's butch or styled poorly).
Feelin Frisky Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Alexa has goddess hair, I've always loved it. Did you see her in Feast of Love years ago? She kept it curly for that role and she looked beautiful. She has a rare head of hair though. She is awesomely beautiful. I took notice of her in "Defiance" (not realizing I'd seen her as the cute supermarket cashier in "The Mist"). I haven't seen "Feast of Love" yet though. When I saw Defiance I decided to look it up on IMDB and looked at her bio to learn a bit more. I then went to her web site and, low and behold, there were over 7,000 still shots of her there. What struck me was that picture after picture was flattering--no shots that captured any flaw or made you want to stop the slide show. My words were: man, this chick can't go wrong. She may be the most beautiful woman in films today. And with hair style changes she can do high fashion as well as anyone too. There were too many pictures of her and her b/f dweeby Josh Lucas though--I don't wanna see him, only her tyvm.
make me believe Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 I think most guys prefer straight or a Victoria's Secret type of "curly" hair -- meaning thick & wavy like the pic someone linked to earlier in the thread, but not tight corkscrew curls. I usually straighten my hair, but if I don't it dries either wavy (sometimes I help it along with the triple-barrel curling iron) or in loose ringlets. My boyfriend compliments me on my hair in all three styles, but his favorite is long, loose, and straight.
Author tigressA Posted October 29, 2010 Author Posted October 29, 2010 The guy I've been dating hasn't said much with regard to my natural corkscrew curls, so I guess he feels neutral about them. I wore my hair stick-straight, though with volume, while with him once and he made no secret of his dislike of it later. He thinks super-straight hair doesn't suit me at all, which works for me because it's a PITA to style that way. He likes it best when I have loose curls/waves. I happen to like it best that way, too.
GooseChaser Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 My hair is curly most of the time, and I like it that way, but people always compliment me on it when I straighten it. It's a novelty when it's straight because it's so rare, so people get a kick out of it for that reason. I'm not sure what people prefer otherwise though. I think both ways look nice.
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