neoskunk Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 To cut to the chase I have been with this girl for almost 5 years now. Started dating in high school, i am now 21. Many of you might remember me from a few months ago but we broke up for about half a year because she wanted to, didn't feel the same way, blah blah blah. I was pretty heartbroken for a long time but eventually got over it and started having a lot of fun with my life. Around May of this year she decides that she made a mistake and wants to get back together. Unfortunately we ended up getting back together. Its now been 6 months and for some reason I am not happy. I mean i'm not sad either just kind of indifferent about the relationship. I'm at a loss as to what to do and have been for quite sometime. I care very much about her and don't want to hurt her but at the same time is it fair to her to keep going like this? She just bugs the hell out of me now. I think its because through the break up i learned a thing or two and now don't want to put up with the things i used to. Its funny because even though i thought i was heart broken i was actually having a great time and now sort of want those times back again. Just the freedom i guess. At the same time i know i will miss her and its extremely hard to think about not having her all of sudden in my life (5 years is a long time even for someone you dislike). Words of wisdom?
kkgirl543 Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 you should start acting disgusting and not make her not like you. or break up because you ,ight end up cheating on her and hurting her REALLY baad
Weekender Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 When you got back together after the six months apart did you have any lingering resentments torwards her? It may also be that after the break-up you have changed, and you know now more of what you want in a person and what you don't want. She may be what you don't want. These are just ideas for you to think on.
Author neoskunk Posted October 28, 2010 Author Posted October 28, 2010 haha thanks weekender. however i am full of these sort of ideas and that is exactly the problem. maybe i don't know what i want. edit: yes i had and maybe still have some of those lingering resentments which is probably why i dont care nearly as much as i used to.
Weekender Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 When someone we loved and trusted hurts us badly it's only natural to keep a certain distance between the two of you to protect yourself.
Capital P Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Break up with her, tell her straight its not working. You will notice from these forums that you dont get many people come on who have done the dumping, its all people who have got dumped. These people have rejection, ego bruising and start to think of their ex partners as the holy grail, just because THEY dumped THEM. So if all goes to plan ur ex will chase u til u have someone new and shell probably wind up on here while ur out enjoying urself. I have no pity for her, she shouldn have dumped u in the first plae
naleylove23 Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 i think the break up was definitely and eye opener for you as it is for every one else and you may have come to realize she is not what you want anymore and you have changed. i think its only fair that you end it and dont lead her on any further.
Author neoskunk Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 I think coist hit the nail on the head. Its like i know deep down that i should probably break up but at the same time i do love her and i will probably miss her. I'm just teetering on that edge not knowing fully what i want....not wanting to hurt her but also my heart just isnt in the relationship anymore. I feel like it should be easy since she did it to me but somehow its not. I should have never gotten back with her in the first place....
Hhhh Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 the heart doesn't know what is wants sometimes and i guess yoiu test it and you dont want what you have she did it to you just be open the best way to go
Author neoskunk Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 well i broke it off. idk why but i feel kind of down about it. I thought i would feel better but i just feel alone now. Its only been a few days so i know it will probably get better but i'm still questioning if what i did was the correct choice.
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