havehope Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 (edited) (made it shorter) I still have thoughts and images of my ex having sex with the girl he cheated on me with, even though this happened awhile ago. To the point where I get upset and it ruins my day. Edited October 27, 2010 by havehope
fltc Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Sorry, there's no way to keep the images out but they'll fade with time. I wish I knew of a way to stop remembering but I still have images of a girl who cheated on me 57 years ago. They show up very rarely now and don't bother me as much as they did but they're still there.
PegNosePete Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 If you keep trying to not think about it, it won't work. If I tell you not to think of elephants, what's the first thing you think about? The way I coped was to not even try shutting it out. Think about it as hard and vividly as you can, in as much detail as possible. Think about everything they got up to, or might have got up to. Yes at first it will hurt more than ever but if you keep doing it, you'll get desensitized and eventually it won't bother you as much.
painfullyobvious Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 It only fades with time. I still think about images of my cheating ex when I think of her time to time. This was over eleven years ago. These thoughts seldom come up anymore but they are still there. He is your ex now just move towards a healthy relationship. This is what made my ex crazy and even more deranged. the fact that I moved on and was happy without her. Good luck
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