Not the love ace Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I have a friend who I've known for a little over a decade. I care for him dearly and he'll always be a dear friend of mine. Despite some of the stupid drama we've gone through he's always remained loyal to me and I'll admit, more so than I have to him. At the same time, he's always been my "little older brother" (younger than me but I way more mature than him). I can hang out with him and do certain activities together and this might sound messed up but when it comes to going clubbing, bars, lounges/dance venues I rather not bring him along. The reason is because his immaturity is overwhelming, annoying and embarrassing. His jokes are mundane, dry and not even funny and he only tells jokes that are funny to HIM and he just loves to hear himself talk. He tries way too hard to be weird, funny, and random because he thinks people will understand his jokes and think he's funny and stands out. Instead he makes an ass out of himself. Now, I know that he's doing it to HIMSELF and representing HIMSELF but I can't help at times but feel embarrassed if we go out somewhere and we meet a new group of people at a social place or if I'm talking to women and he just does what he does best-and tries to be entertaining by asking weird questions, telling jokes that only he understands, etc. He's not witty, interesting or funny. Don't get me wrong, he's an overall good person and means well but doesn't "get it" when it comes to socializing at these venues. I'm all for being goofy, cooky, funny and crazy but his antics are not even immature, just childish. I do other activities with him like bike ride, play video games or go to some amusement park but when I go out clubbing or to bars lounges, I feel bad that I don't invite him and he ask's if I can go out with me but I lie to him. Him and I have spoken on his behavior (he brong it up on his own accord) but he refuses to change because he doesn't want to "convert" or "conform" to be a "civil person of society". I'm all for him being his own person and wouldn't want him to change who he is but I feel he needs to MATURE big time. Till then, I can't bring him to dance clubs/bars/lounges. Am I wrong for how I feel?
whichwayisup Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Keep him as a buddy, a distant friend and accept him for who he is. We all come with various flaws and some baggage. If he irritates you, don't spend alot of time with him. You've known him for a long time, been loyal to one another. That's alot of history to walk away from.
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