scutestema Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Hello all, I am new to all this divorce part, there are so many things I am still trying to understand. Right now I am going to need a lawyer in Virginia Beach area, does anybody know one? Someone who u trust...well as far as u can trust a lawyer. My "husband" wants out and he can go, but not before he takes care of some responsibilities, as he thinks he can get out paying me just 400 a month for CS. I think that amount its a slap on the face considering that when I married him I come here from a different country, learned the language, we have a special needs boy and besides him paying the bills he doesnt really know anything about his own son, at least not much. He said he loves his little man and I am sure he does in his own selfish way but how can he pay on ly 400?? Day care alone will cost more than that. I am not expecting him to pick up all bills, after all I am an adult, I have 2 hands and 2 legs and I can work, not afraid of that.....but 400???? He is making around 6k a month and I am making only 1.5k.....self employed. I choose to be my own boss cause I have to run back and forth to all sorts of DR and therapies with my son, he is never around so I am the primary caregiver. Nobody will hire me and give a tons of money to go work only few hours a day, so this is was my only solution Please help with some experience
lapse Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Hi OP. I'm sorry this difficult time is being compounded by financial stresses. Contact your local Legal Aid office and they may be able to help you find an attorney. Also, if he makes 6k/mo. I'd anticipate that the court will require him to pay a bit more than $400/mo.
habs53 Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Hello all, I am new to all this divorce part, there are so many things I am still trying to understand. Right now I am going to need a lawyer in Virginia Beach area, does anybody know one? Someone who u trust...well as far as u can trust a lawyer. My "husband" wants out and he can go, but not before he takes care of some responsibilities, as he thinks he can get out paying me just 400 a month for CS. I think that amount its a slap on the face considering that when I married him I come here from a different country, learned the language, we have a special needs boy and besides him paying the bills he doesnt really know anything about his own son, at least not much. He said he loves his little man and I am sure he does in his own selfish way but how can he pay on ly 400?? Day care alone will cost more than that. I am not expecting him to pick up all bills, after all I am an adult, I have 2 hands and 2 legs and I can work, not afraid of that.....but 400???? He is making around 6k a month and I am making only 1.5k.....self employed. I choose to be my own boss cause I have to run back and forth to all sorts of DR and therapies with my son, he is never around so I am the primary caregiver. Nobody will hire me and give a tons of money to go work only few hours a day, so this is was my only solution Please help with some experience I am from Canada but from what i read the laws in the US and here are very similar. There is guild lines for child support. He has no choice to pay what it is.....Actually let me look.....Yep here is the link to Virgina State child support calculator. http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse_calc.cgi
Author scutestema Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 Yes looks like more than 400, around 700......what is my big issue its that our child needs constant care, its not u put him in a regular day care, many providers dont wanna take care of him and for good reason they are not trained to deal with non verbal kids or autistic children, they are scared and that is understandable, therefore I am not pursuing a career...cant do that, he is going to special needs school for 3 h and that is when I work. I clean houses for a living, all legal and with a company but taxes and insurance drains me. He on the other hand is military therefore a good career, BAH, medical and all that stuff. I know my son will have medical thru him and that is great but if I subtract the cost for my own medical, house, electricity and all the other good stuff, like heating, telephone.....I dont really have that much money left. I know the life is not fair and I am sure I am getting pretty screwed but I am also a strong person and my little man means everything to me. If I ask the " better" half about some more money he is telling me to dont use our own child as a pawn and he is willing to pay for all his needs, that is great if I could actually believe him. He is " promising me" all this good stuff.....all great but when I remember the promises that he will never cheat, that he will never put any1 else before his family and all that ...I am having very hard time to believe that he is actually keep this promise. I know I need a lawyer but I dont think I could qualify for legal aid, I think I am making bit too much money and VA is a state where lawyers actually make good money with military divorces, its a military state and this is like 85% of their income.
fltc Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 (edited) I know I need a lawyer but I dont think I could qualify for legal aid Give legal aid a call, ask if you qualify and, if not, ask for a recommendation or if you know of an attorney or if you have a friend who knows an attorney you can ask for a recommendation, most attorneys, no matter what their specialty might be, know of a good divorce attorney. Edited October 27, 2010 by fltc
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