counterman Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I spoke to my friend the other day... and she brought up the conversation she had with her boss. Her boss, during a work party, pointed out to all the single people and told them "you should go looking for your soul mate!" She raised this with me and said that although she isn't feeling the need to find someone right now, she said she might be feeling it in a couple of years. She has mentioned her ideal guy before... and it's never going to happen. It's so unrealistic. She's expecting one of those musicians that she's a fan of. A total gorgeous hunk, etc. An issue is...she has never been approached before. Guys haven't asked her out. She's never been on a date. She's never going to ask a guy out. What I also find a bit insulting is that she told one of my friends that I asked her out. She was under the impression that I liked her. I don't know why she would say that...but, for whatever reason, that turns me off a little. Well, my friend went further to imply that if all else doesn't go to plan, she will settle for me. I thought it was really disrespectful that she said that to my face. I was not insulted by it but rather amused. Seems like she just wants a trophy guy. 1. I feel sorry for her 2. I feel sorry for the guy that she ends up with 3. I am sure glad I'm not dating her Say, you're in a relationship and everything is going well... but then you find out that your partner settled for you... would you continue to date him/her? I would never "settle" for someone. I wouldn't want someone to be my 2nd best and I wouldn't want to be someone else resort over than first.
loverofloveandstuff Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Lol, yes that is insulting. It's pretty funny that she thinks you're into her though. If I were you, I would drop some hints that I'm not interested at all... not because I would be afraid she would act on it, just because I wouldn't want someone thinking I liked them when I didn't, at all. About the 'settling' thing. I feel like we all 'settle.' We all settle for the best person we find who we believe will like us. For example, even if I'm dating a great guy who I think is amazing... Let's be honest here, if Russell Brand was at my doorstep, Mr Amazing would be Mr Yesterday. Same thing when guys are at a bar or a club. There are many hot women around, but the guy might not necessarily approach the one they find most attractive. Infact, they will probably not go for the one they find the hottest and settle for the one they think they have the most chance with.
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