OceanGirl Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I am just curious since English is not my first language. I sometimes am not sure of the subtle differences between the words. Some guy on OKC described my pictures as "alluring". I would kind of be offended if someone wrote me a message saying that I am sexy as that to me would mean that he is most likely after NSA sex. Is alluring the same thing?
loverofloveandstuff Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 allure - The power to attract, entice; the quality causing attraction; To attempt to draw; to tempt by a lure or bait, that is, by the offer of some good, real or apparent; to invite by something flattering or acceptable; to entice; to attract [COLOR=#008000]en.wiktionary.org/wiki/allure[/COLOR]
Surrealist Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 And from thefreedictionary.com v.tr. To attract with something desirable; entice: v.intr. To be highly, often subtly attractive: charms that still allure. n. The power to attract; enticement. __________________ In all fairness to the guy I think he is genuinely giving you a complement. I find your profile pic quite alluring as well.
Fouts Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 More like attractive and intriguing, something I noticed about you that clicked for me, that maybe I normally don't notice on anyone else.
Author OceanGirl Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 Still sounds like "sexy" to me. I really don't see much difference. I am probably over-thinking again
loverofloveandstuff Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Still sounds like "sexy" to me. I really don't see much difference. I am probably over-thinking again He didn't call you sexy, so that's that. Different words have different connotations. It's like saying that a guy called you beautiful, which could be translated into ****ing hot, and therefore he wants to get into your pants. Nah mean?
PratyekaYana Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I would kind of be offended if someone wrote me a message saying that I am sexy as that to me would mean that he is most likely after NSA sex. Is alluring the same thing? I can't speak definitively on what connotations the OKC guy has surrounding either term, but, for me, sexy and alluring are not interchangeable. When I picture the sort of woman that I would label sexy, the image is almost always one that causes pure physical attraction and nothing else. It's a single-quality summary of perception. My interest in her would likely begin and end at a hormonal level, so I understand why you would be offended at a "compliment" like that. Your OKC guy didn't use sexy, though; he used alluring, which, for me at least, implies an entirely different level of attraction: More like attractive and intriguing, something I noticed about you that clicked for me, that maybe I normally don't notice on anyone else.Agreed. The alluring woman is magnetic but almost mysteriously so. I couldn't pin down what specific quality or trait would peg her as alluring, but I would recognize it without fail and be drawn to her as a result of it. I would be compelled to get to know her, to try to figure out why she commanded that kind of interest from me. Hope this helps.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Some guy on OKC described my pictures as "alluring". I would kind of be offended if someone wrote me a message saying that I am sexy as that to me would mean that he is most likely after NSA sex. Is alluring the same thing? IF the photo currently at your Loveshack avatar is the photo the guy was describing then yes, he clearly toned-down his sense of it being sexy. However, if you were presenting that image of yourself, then it would be appropriate to expect lots of references to your being "sexy". To be "offended" IF the current LS avatar photo were the one in question suggests that you brought most of it onto yourself.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 It's a compliment--and a compliment that shows some class and restraint. The guy should earn some points for his word choice and putting lesser words in his mouth is wrong. He didn't say sexy because he probably didn't mean just sexy--he meant magnetic, interesting, compelling, having a mystique which "lures" others to want to know more about you or see you often. It's not analogous to "nice tits", or "...bet you could suck the chrome off a trailer hitch".
Star Gazer Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 IF the photo currently at your Loveshack avatar is the photo the guy was describing then yes, he clearly toned-down his sense of it being sexy. However, if you were presenting that image of yourself, then it would be appropriate to expect lots of references to your being "sexy". To be "offended" IF the current LS avatar photo were the one in question suggests that you brought most of it onto yourself. Agreed. We talked about this before, OG. Have you changed your pictures? Or are you still using sexy shots?
Ariadne Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 In this case it means, I found your pictures very beautiful. He probably didn't want to say the same silly thing.
Star Gazer Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 (A OG) Do you have a crush on OG?? I see this a lot from you.
LisaLee Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 (A OG) Are you for real? Some of your responses to SaC comes off as creepy.
Author OceanGirl Posted October 28, 2010 Author Posted October 28, 2010 Do you guys seriously think that my current LS avatar is sexy? I actually don't see any clear cleavege in it, it's not a bikini shot and I thought it was cute rather than sexy. Yeah, that dress kind of has deep V, but you can't really make out anything from the avatar. BTW, I am not using that photo in my OKC profile at all. But some cleavege is visible in some face/above the waist shots.
Author OceanGirl Posted October 28, 2010 Author Posted October 28, 2010 Are you for real? Some of your responses to SaC comes off as creepy. They certianly do. Ariadne, please, please stop.
Ariadne Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 They certianly do. Ariadne, please, please stop. Don't be so spooked when I post in your threads, and everyone loves being loved. Peace.
Author OceanGirl Posted October 28, 2010 Author Posted October 28, 2010 Don't be so spooked when I post in your threads, and everyone loves being loved. Peace. OK, but I just wish you would move on. I truly can't get over what you did and I am as upset about it now as when it happened months ago.
Author OceanGirl Posted October 28, 2010 Author Posted October 28, 2010 Getting back to the thread, one of the issues with the way I dress is that I can't wear normal tops and dresses because of my large chest. I only have V-necks, boat necks and genreally things that are probably too revealing. If I try on a normal shirt, I just look fat. If I wear something v-neck and form-fitting, I look like a slut
Star Gazer Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Do you guys seriously think that my current LS avatar is sexy? I actually don't see any clear cleavege in it, it's not a bikini shot and I thought it was cute rather than sexy. Yeah, that dress kind of has deep V, but you can't really make out anything from the avatar. It's not "cute," it's most definitely "sexy." You don't need to show cleavage to be sexy. If you're not sticking your chest out, you're obviously showing off that you have large boobs. You also have a lot of makeup on, particularly the red gloss/lipstick. Just sayin'. Edit: One of my best guy friends is suspicious of self-side shots like this. He thinks the gal is trying to hard to be sexy to get attention, and obviously has no friends if most of her pictures are taken by her alone. Just something to think about.
Star Gazer Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Getting back to the thread, one of the issues with the way I dress is that I can't wear normal tops and dresses because of my large chest. I only have V-necks, boat necks and genreally things that are probably too revealing. If I try on a normal shirt, I just look fat. If I wear something v-neck and form-fitting, I look like a slut B.S. My boobs are the same size, if not bigger. My pictures look nothing like yours. It's the pictures and poses you're choosing, not necessarily what you're wearing. If you were to take a picture wearing the dress in your avvie from another angle, and lighten up the makeup, the result would be dramatically different.
Ariadne Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 OK, but I just wish you would move on. I truly can't get over what you did and I am as upset about it now as when it happened months ago. (But I did for your benefit! ) Anyway, guys don't even use the word alluring, he probably had to think about that.
xpaperxcutx Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 OG/SAC is that you? This is the first time I've seen your picture... I didn't know you were a blonde. I think you're very pretty, but the lighting of the picture is a bit off, which kind of intensified your makeup and foundation.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 The un-natural-seeeeeeeeeeeeming profile shot is what gives a message that you don't seem to be in agreement with giving. I can accept that you have a full-sized bosom, and that it it is just there and you can't very easily alter it, but to have your particular figure photographed from that angle, is certain to draw references to "sexy" from men. Now I am entirely in agreement in situations of sexual assault that a woman has every right to not be touched or harrassed no matter what she's wearing. But in the case of someone trying to represent herself in the online social/dating world, it is entirely reasonable that any male would view the photo you selected as being "sexy". Now had this been a coworker or something, constantly mentioning your sexiness, there are laws in place to protect you from such attention and harrassment. However, as this is not your random appearance in question as much as it is a question of presumably several photos which you selected, then I think the jury finds you "SEXY"!!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 29, 2010 Posted October 29, 2010 Getting back to the thread, one of the issues with the way I dress is that I can't wear normal tops and dresses because of my large chest. I only have V-necks, boat necks and genreally things that are probably too revealing. If I try on a normal shirt, I just look fat. If I wear something v-neck and form-fitting, I look like a slut I'm all for your large chest (well, actually I'm not a breast guy at all, but I like that breasts turn up in random-like fashion, and full-sized are included in the randomness)... but a woman with a large chest need not seem to 'submit herself for assessment' as your profile photo seems to do. (*er, lets add a reminder: "Profile" in this context means a useful description of yourself and not so much "an irresistible cause for men to do a double-take") My guess is that this very same profile picture would have gone over with less 'steam' had it been taken from the front, rather than from the side. I won't knock anyone who references you as being "sexy" or "alluring" given this photo.
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