hearttobreak Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Met this girl on a dating site. Second email she asked if I wanted to meet to get a bit to eat or something. Said sure. Came back with her number and I called her. We met the next day. Seemed to go really well. Consistent contact, no pauses or silence, smiling and laughing. We talked about food and cooking. Said she would love to try some. We talked for two hours. She said it was getting late it was already 10:00 at night. Earlier in the day I called to confirm our meet, and she said this is a busy week, but today works best. She was a work thing tomorrow, and meeting with other clients Thursday and Friday. Saturday she's going to a friends bachelorette party a few hours a way, and then driving back the same day. Since she said her work on Friday would not be done til 8:00 and she drives an hour to work, she would not be back until around 9:00, I thought it would be too late to do something. Since she is going driving long distance in the morning and then back again in the evening on Saturday, I thought Sunday might not be a good day. So, at the end of the date, while we were waiting for the check (I paid, she offered, but I said its all good. She smiled), I asked would you be up for doing something next week. She said yes. I said great. I will call you Monday or Tuesday and we can set things up. What's a good time I asked? She said any time after 7:00. We walked to her car, she gave me a hug and kiss on the left cheek, I did the same. Then she said, call me next week. So, I think it went well. However, I am concerned that the lack of time until we talk and then supposedly meet again can change her feelings about me. Is this a valid concern, or am I over thinking things here?
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 or am I over thinking things here? Yup, just a tad.
callingyouuu Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 +1 for overthinking. Do you realize that you just gave us a play-by-play of every interaction you've had with this girl since you've met her? Relax, you'll be fine.
Author hearttobreak Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 Since most people like play by play's in football, I thought why not use it in dating? Again, just concerned about the time until we meet again or talk.
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Since most people like play by play's in football, I thought why not use it in dating? Again, just concerned about the time until we meet again or talk. The difference between dating and football is that you're not getting emotionally involved in football, at least not to the same extent (and with different emotions). Analysing every last detail will drive you insane, as you pick over every word she said or action she did and try to make sense of it.
EasyHeart Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 You are definitely over-thinking. To me, a week to ten days is a typical time between first and second dates. Grown ups are busy.
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Also I would say that people should not read too much into the first and second dates. There is a high probability that nothing will come of them, so you shouldn't be getting too excited at this stage. Play it cool until at least date three. I've never had a third date where it didn't develop into something more, whereas I've had loads of first dates and a number of second dates that went nowhere.
Author hearttobreak Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 Had many first dates, but most second dates had turned into much more. Plus, I have a real good idea for a second date. Very creative, in my opinion. It will cost about 100.00 for two tickets, but I think it should pay off dividends in closeness and chemistry. Also, I think, since she made the initiation for the first date, albeit in a few days after we started communicating is a good sign.
Author hearttobreak Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 Anyone think I should text her tonight saying I had a great time last night, or is that over doing it? I do not want to make it seem like I'm running after her or something.
Nukulus Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 I probably wouldn't... (though in your situation I'd be tempted to for what its worth). So I would probably just call later this weekend to set up firm plans for a date next week, and then call and confirm the day before or whatever. However, if she texts first then texting is fair game. Personally I don't want to do too much too soon. Leave some mystery for the date.
D-Lish Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Anyone think I should text her tonight saying I had a great time last night, or is that over doing it? I do not want to make it seem like I'm running after her or something. I don't think it would do any harm to text her and say you had a good time last night. I've had people text me the same within an hour of leaving the date - and I didn't mind. Just keep it short and sweet and then see what she has to say back. If you do text her tonight, don't text her again if you don't hear back. I don't know if I'd go and buy tickets for something just yet- you might want to hold off on that until the third or fourth date- you don't want to get stuck with those tickets if she can't make it, and it might be a little much for a second date.
Author hearttobreak Posted October 28, 2010 Author Posted October 28, 2010 (edited) Since it was driving me crazy not knowing her real feelings, so I sent the text. I thought it would be a good way to gauge her interest or not. Plus, if she was not interested, she could had not responded or said she has no interest in seeing me again. It took her a few hours, guessing her phone was in her purse, but she got back to me. She said, she enjoyed last night too and we certainly need to make plans to see each other again soon. Ciao and have a great night! I guess, at least right now, she has an interest in me. It made my night. :D:D Actually, when I called the place, they said they are running a special on the tickets at only 15.00 a piece. So, it should not be that bad. However, I want to make sure she accepts the date and allows me to pick her up at her house first before I get the tickets. Next week is the last week until next year, so its do or die. And I really like this girl. Edited October 28, 2010 by hearttobreak
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