sweetbutcheeky Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 (edited) If you guys could send all of your 3rd date ideas I would appreciate it, keeping in mind it's fall, cool and probably rainy. Something we can do to have fun and get to know each other better. (we are 29 and 32) May be Sat night, which is halloween so it can be something to do with halloween. We are in Toronto if anyone reading knows the area. Thanks! Edited October 27, 2010 by sweetbutcheeky
Star Gazer Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Halloween for a 3rd date? That might be a little too much pressure. Have you already decided on going out that night?
Green Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I'm going to a haunted house this weekend... a really special one with my gf.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 Halloween for a 3rd date? That might be a little too much pressure. Have you already decided on going out that night? We haven't decided on a day, just might go out Sat, so was open to ideas. I wasn't thinking about dressing up or anything like that, too last min and so on.
Green Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Fourth planet makes some good points... 3rd date really is a great time to get wet and physical if you havn't done in yet that is.
welikeincrowds Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 If you haven't done so already, then you must consider putting out. He might start looking elsewhere for companionship and might start to think that there's something wrong with you or him if the night doesn't end in sex after the third date. Whoa, dude. "Have sex with him or he won't like you!" That's not the greatest line of thought, wouldn't you agree? What's more important is whether or not she's ready. If she's ready, then sure. That is going to be running through his mind more than anything else. People get freaky on Halloween BUT, I agree with you on this. That is why I think, OP, you should listen to this: Halloween for a 3rd date? That might be a little too much pressure.
Cee Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 You could go dancing at the Guvernment if you two are into dancng. Carl Cox & Steve Lawler are there on Saturday, which is a mouth watering line up. Gotta get myself to your fine city sometime. I've heard great things about Toronto.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 (edited) I think that's a very fair assessment to make. I will bet you a fortune that that's what he's going to think throughout the course of this date. She's going to talk to him. As she's talking to him, he's going to nod in agreement to whatever she's saying every now and then, all the while he's figuring out a way on how to get her into a bedroom to have sex. I guarantee it. That is how men think. If anything, I'm giving her a heads up so that she can approach this date a little differently than what she had would've otherwise. How many more dates is he going to go on before he realizes that she's just wasting his time? If no sex happened in the first two dates, then fine. Men want sex. If he goes on six or seven dates and she still hasn't put out, he's going to really come to a thought that he's wasting his time with her and he's going to look for another girl who won't waste that much time with him without sex. Men go on dates to get laid. That's the bottom line. If I were that guy, and I'm going on a third date, and it's a SATURDAY night, and it's Halloween, and we haven't had sex yet, and sex doesn't happen on this third date, I'm outta there. In the meantime, going out and seeing the movie Saw 3D isn't a bad idea. It's a perfect theme for Halloween. Wow what a gentlemen. How romantic! Geez. First date was dinner and some pool, though was the first time meeting (and music was a little loud) so we got to know each other a little, not too much. Date 2 was a movie, which obviously no talking. So for date 3 I wanted some sort of activity for us to get to know each other some more. I just found out that he is interested, since he asked me out on date 2! First date was last Saturday! Who said anything about no sex until date 6 or 7? It's date 3! Can I get to know him first? Cause of Halloween I just meant a bar or restaurant woth theme drinks or something. Ok forget that's Halloween, we will be going out Friday or Saturday. Edited October 27, 2010 by sweetbutcheeky
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 You could go dancing at the Guvernment if you two are into dancng. Carl Cox & Steve Lawler are there on Saturday, which is a mouth watering line up. Gotta get myself to your fine city sometime. I've heard great things about Toronto. Thanks for the info. Just not our kind of music. Nice place though, have gone to concerts there and actually my College Orientation in Sept was there too.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted October 28, 2010 Author Posted October 28, 2010 Why, thank you! How sweet of you to think that! Well, if you're not putting out on this date, how many more dates will he waste before anything physical happens? 3? 4? 5? 6? How many more dates can you have before you get to "know him"? This Saturday, all the girls are going to release their inner sluts and wear things that will leave little to your man's imagination. That gives him more of a reason to want to do something with you. And if nothing happens, he'll get jealous of the other guys who are having fun with their scantily-clad, good-time girls and start having second thoughts about pursuing you much further. He could very well ask you out on a fourth date if nothing happens at the end of the third date. But by that time, his patience would've worn thin. He's going into this date on Saturday night as if it were Game 7 of the World Series. Well, maybe Game 6, but if nothing happens and he asks you out again, THEN it will be Game 7 for him. I'm telling you, regardless of how "nice" and "sweet" this guy is, I can guarantee you that this is what he's thinking. All in all, I really hope you have a great time in this date. You show that you want to make sure things go smoothly for you since you came on here and asked for some help. It shows that you care for him somewhat. I'm just shedding further light to what "stargazer" said about this date being too much pressure simply because it's Halloween. You didn't include my whole quote which said "First date was dinner and some pool, though was the first time meeting (and music was a little loud) so we got to know each other a little, not too much. Date 2 was a movie, which obviously no talking." So there hasn't been that much time getting to know each other! First meeting and not talking in a dark room. Yup tons of time to get to know him to know if I want to have sex with him! Anyway he thought of a great idea, he is taking me to a comedy club this weekend. By the way your sports analogy means nothing to me. Thanks for nothing. I would say thinks for your help but you don't seem to pick up on sarcasm!
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted October 29, 2010 Author Posted October 29, 2010 You seem to think that men think like women do. Your man does not care how much conversation that went on throughout Do you have to know his ENTIRE LIFE before sleeping with him? That's the question you seem not to want to answer. Having sex will bring you a lot closer to each other. If anything, sex will make him less tense around you when he's dating you. I never said that at all, I know guys think about sex 24/7 (though doesn't meant that woman don't eather). Meeting someone knew is exciting for me too, possibility of sex with someone and on a regular basis if all goes right. But my point is, is it's not going to happen if I hardly know him. For example I don't even know if he has a house, apartment or even lives alone. Or what his last name is for that matter! That doesn't not equal wanting his life story, just getting to know someone more than one taking date when we first met and didn't know what to ask besides breaking the ice questions. (what music do you like ...) Movie date doesn't count other than a nice time. You could ask me a simple question about him and I would have no idea. That being said, so guys think about sex 24/7 that doesn't mean that they shouldn't have respect for the woman and want to get to know a little about her too. If they are looking for more than a one night stand that is. I am not going to have sex with someone I hardly know, so he will be less tense!
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