dgia1810 Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 i'm 22 and never had a girl friends since i was 18. dont get me wrong i get laid here and there but its just random hookups just girls i meet at clubs and stuff (Cancun from last spring break) but through the 4 years i only met 3 girls i really liked first one i just blew it second one i thing i was being too pushy and 3rd well was married so we are just friends now. the only time i'm good around girls is when i'm drunk other times i get nervous, but i do have few girls who are friends but their like 5yrs older then me or already have a boy friends or married. I have lot of friends i can hang out with but as gay as this sound i get really lonely some times and i actually feel a little depressed. every time i'm home i feel like this, I'm going to school at the moment but i'm getting deployed in march to Afghanistan and i'm just so happy to leave what am i doing wrong. p.s. the last girl i talked about wanted to keep intouch after i leave and wants to write think its a bad idea she's 2 yrs older married and had a kid. think its a bad idea
CeCe2981 Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Ok Big picture, you have to stay open, your leaving, any mail is good mail, my brother went to Afghanistan and had not much time to write anyone, so keeping in contact with a married women would probably turn out short and sweet. I would get a facebook keep in contact with friends and family that way because you never know what may pop up. As far as women right now women and men are attracted to people who are happy and just sweet, I wouldnt go to clubs and try to jibber jabber unless you want a girl for the night maybe two, Go two smaller bars, pool halls where ever you can get a more intimate conversation without the pressure of trying the find the first girl you can take home at 2 am. Start off going to smaller bars and places around 9 or so hang out talk and meet people let the girls know your leaving and looking for pen pals and start off slow. Well thats my advice I hope it helps!!
Green Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 i'm 22 and never had a girl friends since i was 18. dont get me wrong i get laid here and there but its just random hookups just girls i meet at clubs and stuff (Cancun from last spring break) but through the 4 years i only met 3 girls i really liked first one i just blew it second one i thing i was being too pushy and 3rd well was married so we are just friends now. the only time i'm good around girls is when i'm drunk other times i get nervous, but i do have few girls who are friends but their like 5yrs older then me or already have a boy friends or married. I have lot of friends i can hang out with but as gay as this sound i get really lonely some times and i actually feel a little depressed. every time i'm home i feel like this, I'm going to school at the moment but i'm getting deployed in march to Afghanistan and i'm just so happy to leave what am i doing wrong. p.s. the last girl i talked about wanted to keep intouch after i leave and wants to write think its a bad idea she's 2 yrs older married and had a kid. think its a bad idea I never even kissed a girl until after I graduated from college. You have a great line/story to get girls into you. Just walk up to girls you like and start talking about how you are going to afghanistan and wanted to know them before you left. then write them when you are gone. Seriously you need to just walk up to girls you find hot and ask them OUT then kiss them on the date. Don't be drinking and do it at school, or at a park, or mall, or library ect... NOT AT A BAR. People who go to college and cannot find a girlfriend are sad. No offense but seriously. There is no other place where it is easier to find someone than school. As long as he/she is being realistic and tries hard enough, she should be able to get someone. I mean in every class there should be no less than 10 people of the opposite sex. Currently Im single despite going to school. But its not because no one wants me. Its because I have an unrealistically high standard so the ones I want do not want me and I stubbornly refuse to settle. How the heck does this help. Seriously I did much better with woman after college because I was older/wiser and more confident to face rejection. People who think life is about college and HS are sad to me.
that girl Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 4 years is a long while without a girlfriend but it is hardly an eternity.
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 How the heck does this help. Seriously I did much better with woman after college because I was older/wiser and more confident to face rejection. People who think life is about college and HS are sad to me. I agree. The irony of many men at college/university is that they will never get a better chance to meet women, but quite often they lack the experience to capitalise on it. That doesn't make them "sad".
Recommended Posts