reknown29 Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Just putting kudos out to LS. I've been taking advice from people on here and while it has been extremely difficult getting my ex out of my life I couldnt have done it without support from this site. I just had my ex pick up her things and I left them out in my car so i wouldnt have to see her. It was hard. I felt a bit immature about it but if I saw her it would have been back to square one. Just because of her presence out in front of my house I now feel empty, lonely, and broken hearted but I feel much better about myself. I can start to see a light at the end of the tunnel. There will be days where Im hurting and will probably post on here. That is one of the problems with being a romantic. It takes time to get over our intimate relationships. But we all know in the long run that we are much better lovers!
Am4Real Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Congratulations on your strength tonight. It shall get better over time if you stay determined. Best wishes, Am4Real
Author reknown29 Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 thanks AM. I needed to hear that. I started having doubts today as to not seeing her yesterday. I know she looks at my actions as childish and weak. This is a very cold person that Im dealing with. Its complicated. Shes off and on. extreme coldness and extreme warmth like I have never experienced from anyone. Anyway, your response brought an ease over me. I think we all just need to ehar that its going to be ok. Its such a hard thing to believe when your an emotional wreck.
alwayshoping Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 it really is the problem with being a romantic! but i wouldnt have it any other way! Good luck getting over her and we are all here when you need us x
lapse Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 There's nothing, absolutely nothing, immature about protecting yourself. Good for you. I think you can be very proud. I am really happy for you. It's a tough road, isn't it? But knowing you can do it, that you have the skills and knowledge to navigate it... is empowering. Good for you!
Author reknown29 Posted October 29, 2010 Author Posted October 29, 2010 I wish it was so easy. She wont stop texting me now "thinking of you", "Missing you", etc. etc. Im being strong and Im not responding, though to be honest, I do get a feeling of happiness when I get the texts. Its bad because I know all its doing is setting me back on getting over her. She made it clear we will never get back, she is dating another man... The issue is that she had a rough childhood, her mom left her dad for no apparent reason (surprise, surprise). So she has deattachment issues. She keeps in close contact with her last ex. Turns out while we were together (surprise). First thing she said when she dumped me is I am not ok with not being in close contact with you even though were not together. So any clues on how I deal with her issues. She is not going to let down. She will force keeping in contact. I cant change my phone number. I use it for my business. Maybe there is some sort of text blocker? Maybe I have to get over her while keeping in contact. To be honest, if she did want to come back, I dont think I could get over the person she revealed to me during the breakup. She did not have to be so heartless and cruel. She said some really mean emotionally scarring things...I think I just answered my own question. Im not getting back with this person so why do I care? My heart still hurts. We had an amzing thing going on, she didn't realize it, and she crushed it. It will never come back with us. I miss that "thing", not her.
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