why is this girl being so nice to me and talking about stuff like this?

[dgia1810]

after class me and this girl from class walking back to our cars and we were talking about something and i told her how strict my mom was. i'm in the Marines reserves but when i'm going to school i stay at home and its moms house moms rules. any ways she asked what the rules were and i told her that one of them was no girls allowed in the house, so she was asked me if she knew any of my girl friends and i explained that she knew but i was not allowed to stay home when she was not home. then she said "i used to sneak boys into my house...thats why i'm where i am right now (she has a 4 year old) but good for her"

she's 23 and i'm 21, and we walk to our cars every day, she just wait for me after class and if i walk out first she'd walk fast and catch up to me except last monday she left before me,maybe coz she was sick, she also sits next to me all the time in class,talks about everyting like what she cooked the night before, her friends, what she did back in highshcool ect.. and she keeps asking me questions about me.and she introduced me to her son when she brought him to school coz there was no one to look after him that day, and she's still upset about me getting deployed coming march. and she's married

[loverofloveandstuff]

ummm... Because that's what friends talk about? Everything. I don't get why people read so much into opposite sex friendships. That is sometimes what they actually are, FRIENDships.

[DreamerGirl27]

I disagree completely. I don't wait for my friends unless they are really good friends. I also don't talk about EVERYTHING with every friend.

 

Those kinds of conversations are reserved for someone I'm really close to.

 

I'm just a private person.

 

You're not in a relationship, she doesn't have to wait for you. Sit by you...etc.

 

It's called playing games on her part.

[dgia1810]

so what is she gaining by this. is she just having fun playing games. the other day she was telling me that how she wants a girl since she has a boy, and how her and her husband wants to re do the house because she asked about my room and i told her how i redid the basement myself and she asked how i did it ect.. also i changed branched (dont ask how but thanks to some friends i managed to) the first thing she asked was it it any safer. and in class we have small break in between, so i always sit in the last chair int he lobby and some times talk with some ppl and she always come and sit on the floor right below me and talk with me, it makes me feel a little awkward so now i save her a seat too.

[O'Malley]

Does she chit chat with other students, or does she constantly specifically focus on you? She's married, so it would be wise to avoid opening that particular can of worms....

 

The only thing you can control is your response to it. There's nothing wrong with talking with her a little, but you're not obligated to always chat with her alone. Go talk to other classmates. Treat her as you would a guy acquaintance. Discuss general topics but don't talk about your personal life if you aren't comfortable doing so. You could always ask her if she has any nice single friends she would set you up with.

[dgia1810]

she talks to others too but mostly about homework or during a project with a group the only person she talks a lot to is this other girl in front of us but still it about class and school, but she doesn't wait for other ppl in class to walk with.

 

also my girl friend broke up with me 2mo's ago 9right around the 3rd day of that class) i ws kinda upset asked what happen and i told her how she broke up she just left a voice main all she said was what a bitc#" and the next time we met she asked weather she talked to me weather i talked to her ect... but then it was nice to talk to her and i didnt know she was married

Edited November 22, 2010 by dgia1810

[dgia1810]

really what should i do i'm trying to forget her but now when she's acting this way